Housing dilemma

Goodness lucky, I took my eyes off this thread and its all become very exciting! I hope it all works out well and you have a good holiday too xx

Luckygirl I think you have made a very wise decision at just the right time and I hope the move goes smoothly for you and that you enjoy a lovely relaxing holliday.

Last summer my parents in law moved from their large, but very isolated, house to a small bungalow they own just around the corner from me (and have been extending it ever since). Fast forward a few months and father in law has cancer and my mother in law needs an operation on her hand, it's quite possible that neither of them will be able to drive for a few weeks in the summer. Had they not moved they would have been in a dreadful situation, but as it is they can take the bus or a gentle walk into town and are near at hand for me to help out if they need it. (Although the shoe is on the other foot at the moment and I'm deeply appreciative of their support.) It's a great relief to me to know that their next years, many or few, will be more comfortable, as I hope yours will be in your new home.

I know how hard things are for you Ann - and we are heading down that route. The signs of cognitive decline in my OH with his PD are creeping slowly up on us. I have done everything related to this move as there is no way he could organise his thoughts sufficiently to do what needs doing or to deal with estate agents or solicitors. Thankfully he does realise that and hands me the phone when anyone rings about it. I find it hard as they must all think I am an overbearing cow. Obviously I have not explained the situation to them.

OH functions OK in a limited sphere and with the known routines of home, but anything new or unusual is hard for him. The move is going to be stressful I know, but the family will rally round and I may arrange for him to go to one of them for the day of the main move. It is another reason for moving now while he can just about cope with it.

I am hoping that he will settle and feel at home quite quickly.

Thank you for your good wishes - they are much appreciated.

We should have moved before now and now with things as they are it is too late. My H cannot cope with change and I wouldn't be able to cope with trying to get him used to it,so we should always have one eye on the future. Unless we are super sensible though we don't!!
Good luck with it all Luckygirl and appreciate your loving family although actually I know that you do.

Hope all goes to plan lucky - I remember how stressful all this is

All sounds good lucky. As Lona says, it's a big adventure (including busstops!!) and a really easy way to move house. Presumably there will be some leeway in the timing of getting all your stuff out of the current house so less stress that way.

Have a good break.

Son-in-law has just been round our house with a letting agent who has advised him that our house has good letting potential.

So.........he and my DD are definitely going to buy our house! - we have had an offer accepted on the bungalow where we hope to live, the solicitors are primed, so fingers crossed!

It is chaos today as we are going on holiday and have not had time to pack yet! But we know that everything is in place now and we can relax and enjoy the holiday.

You never know with house sales of course, but there seems to be no reason why this should not happen if all goes smoothly. Ten days ago we had no plans to move and now the ground is shifting under our feet!!! I feel as though I am in a whirlwind!

Luckygirl That is good news I hope it all goes smoothly. You can invite us all to your house warming party.

Look on it as a new adventure Luckygirl
Lots of luck ??

Bless you - that is very kind. Being near a bus stop is going to be freaky!!

Glad things are feeling more positive now lucky. Youknow we are here if the going gets tough.

Thanks for those encouraging words. I know that we are doing the right thing really; and we really like the new property. It is very different from here, but just as lovely in its own way. Onwards and upwards.

Hope all goes smoothly for op.
Remember that in old age nothing stays the same. Be positive, enjoy your memories but be practical to make life easier.

I think you've done the right thing Luckygirl. Fingers firmly crossed for you.

Jane10 nailed it in your first reply - don't wait until it's too late to make a move!

Well - we have had our offer accepted and it is all systems go. Keep your fingers crossed!

That's why I would use a solicitor - to find out why the sale fell through.

It would be interesting to find out why it fell through, especially if there is another bungalow for sale in the next village to you which could be of interest.

The bungalow was on the market last year, sold very quickly and then it all fell through a few months later. It went back on the market about two weeks ago and I think the owner decided to spread her bets this time.

I'd certainly use a solicitor.

I'm wondering why it's with two estate agents - that usually means that the property is proving hard to sell.

Does anyone know whether I would need to use a solicitor

Our old next door neighbour did his own conveyancing - but it was a new build they were purchasing; it took him a lot of time. There are so many pitfalls that I think, unless you are prepared to put in a lot of work and be very meticulous, that it would be wise to use a solicitor. They can do all the searches etc to find out about any proposed developments, rights of way, bridle paths etc etc. It might be a good idea to get a survey done too - the lender does the minimum survey before they will authorise a loan, but as you are not having to borrow any money, that would be a wise move and could be money well spent.

Head definitely. Our son and DIL have just moved into a bungalow in a village in Nottinghamshire, both have health and mobility problems. Today hubby and I have been helping clear some of the garden rubbish (elderly couple in their 90's were previous occupants and it has been empty for 9 months. I could not believe I could actually see the traffic on the A1 whizzing along while I stood in the garden. There was noise, but I could easily get used to it for the luxury of not having to climb stairs with my painful hips and knees.

Alternatively pay for good acoustice sound proofing fencing maybe?? A specialist sound proofing company will be able to advise and quote.

Good luck what ever you choose.

P.S.

Always use a solicitor and make sure you are not in breach of contract to your estate agents by selling privately.

They may charge you a % of the costs they have incurred so far on your behalf i.e. advertising etc. or just wait until the 6 or 12 week contract has expired and then sell to your family.

Hi there,

Maybe you could compromise if you followed your heart ?

Close off the upstairs and live only downstairs.

Get delivery of medication , food and other bits until your foot gets better and get your hip replacement reviewed and changed.

Alternatively you could may be build a small 1 bed bungalow annex on the side of your cottage and employ a carer or rent out the cottage to a couple to live there and pay reduced rent to you but give you say 20 hours of unpaid house , garden and care help a week while you stay in an area you love in a brand new bungalow to your design with adaptations to suit your health challenges etc.

Maybe discuss this with your relatives first??

I believe in following the heart with wisdom.

Happiness is very important in maintaining good health.

Many people now are expressing a wish to move out of noisy traffic areas to quieter areas.

I live on a very busy road where speeding is the norm.

Given a choice, I would choose somewhere quiet of road every time.

Unless you are right on top of traffic, you never get used to the constant whoosh of cars going by. Police car just this minute sped past.
At times I feel quite stressed out by it.

It's very annoying. Oh for the peace and quiet of a country lane. Oh! and a good bus service, of course.