DH interfering....furio us!

I do wonder why there are no locks on kitchen doors. He will read the recipe and ask whether I've done such and such. And tasting the soup....aaaaagh

Mine wouldn't dare! To interfere with anything i'm cooking is the ultimate sin. If he has learned nothing else during the past fifty years he has learned that. I have only once had the temerity to suggest to my son that he might do something differently when i was in his kitchen while he was cooking. The look he gave me would have turned me to stone, and i haven't ventured into his kitchen since!!

First off I would stop cooking forthwith[I dont like it anyway so that would be no hardship on my part].

I would go on strike with other household chores too if he interferes with those. He can do them himself.

Can't you just ask him not to interfere? Surely he would understand. If he doesn't respect this then simply tell him he is doing the cooking.

My Son-I-L has very strong views about how things should be cooked. One day I was roasting a chicken using my usual method: i.e. closed roasting pan on 180 for half an hour, then turn the heat right down to about 100 and let it roast/steam for as long as you like.

When I was not looking, he opened the oven and transferred the chicken to an open roasting pan - I could not believe my eyes when I came in and saw it! After a few minutes thought, I took the pan out and put the chicken back in the roasting pan and set everything going as before.

He came into the kitchen and saw this and neither of us said a word. I think he got the hint!

I have to say that I am very fond of this young man (unbelievably!) and we respect each other - I'm going on hols with him and family later this year!

Katek - quite right - give him the watery stuff and make yourself something delicious! Or even a tasty takeaway - tell him you did not want to eat that watery rubbish. Or even better some caviarre for you! - and leave him with the dishwater!

How annoying !
My DH is still working but there are times when he is home and he will say something like "Why are you doing it that way ?" He gets short shrift and "because that's the way I like to do it". he mutters right , I was only trying to help....."
as he leaves the room.

I'm in no way diminishing how you feel but I live with that 24 hours a day with an H with Alzheimer's. It is the most frustrating feeling and you should tell him to get the h**l out of the kitchen and let you do your job.I can do that because 5 mins later he has forgotten but of course that means he comes back in ....

If he's working from home, that's what he should be doing - working. Not interfering with you!

I still resent, just a little bit, the loss of 'my space', and DH has been retired for years now.

Fitting retribution Elegran...I like it! I shall go chop more veggies (with a great deal of force) when I go offline.

Coolgran I quite possibly did have a thread about him taking over things, he doesn't seem to be able to help himself. He does the same with everyone, including DS, and has a tendency to treat him as if he's 5 and not a grown man with home, family and a responsible job. Drives me crazy. I'm sure he would still take him a 10p mix of rubbish sweets from the newsagent if he thought he could get away with it.

How infuriating Katek ! Wonder how he would like it if you rewrote one of his work emails/reports.

My DH has just criticised a photo I posted on Instagram ? I get frequent negative comments on these and tweets. Just because he doesn't use social media as I do. He is generally a lovely man, but I feel this is out of order. It has put me off posting on social media.....with the exception of GN of course. ?

Did you do a recent thread about how he takes over things.
I would have also been really angry about the soup.... it's an indication of his attitude. And respect. A quiet but firm chat needed to get boundaries discussed perhaps.

Make sure he eats every drop of that watery broth, katek, because it is obvious to you now that is how he likes his soup and you don't want to deprive him of any, do you? Every last drop. No leaving any.

Meanwhile, make a new pot for yourself. Make it extra good and tasty and keep repeating how delicious it is while he sits opposite you sipping his dishwater.