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MIL thinks I'm a recluse...

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Antjexix Sun 06-Mar-16 08:45:35

MIL told me yesterday that she is happy that I am now going to bingo and I am finally getting out as I didn't get out before! I was a little annoyed even though I know she meant nothing by it ,but felt like saying how glad I was that she saved me from rotting away at home. I am very happy with my life. I still work,go out to garden centre,lunch ect. With DH, Slimming World once a week and meet friends for coffee and lunch. Not to forget bingo! We also still have two adult children living at home. People also "feel sorry" for me because I don't drink and therefore could possibly not be enjoying myself...Does anybody else experience these attitudes?

Newquay Tue 08-Mar-16 14:06:56

As long as you're content with what you do, Antejexix, that's fine-you don't have to justify what you do, or don't do, to anyone.
Having said that, hypocrite that I am, I do go on to DH as he doesn't go out at all (except to do weekly supermarket shop) and doesn't really have any friends.
I go out to two choirs, keep fit, French, still working a few hours each week. Any social arrangements are done by me and he happily comes along. I do sometimes wonder what he would say if I said I'm going on my own as he hasn't arranged anything? Lol!
He is perfectly content with his own company and, as a very accomplished artist, is always doing some painting/drawing. He loves jigsaws and reading too and when the weather cheers up spends hours in our (beautiful) garden.
Each to his own-live and let live say I.

Synonymous Tue 08-Mar-16 14:39:28

To me you seem very busy Antjexix and I am glad that you are able to do all that. Whilst it is good that people care about you it is only who will know what and how much you can manage or even want to do. It is irritating when people assume they know better than you do yourself but you don't have to take any notice. smile

annifrance Tue 08-Mar-16 16:52:44

Sounds like you have a lovely life that suits you. Enjoy.

Antjexix Tue 08-Mar-16 17:57:13

Well I will enjoy my me time. brew

DianneAngel Tue 08-Mar-16 18:11:32

I do go to social things. I arrive late and leave early, usually without saying much. I'm a happy introvert. hugs

harrysgran Wed 09-Mar-16 07:46:43

Maybe MIL is lonely and finds it difficult to understand how content you are with your life as it is sounds pretty full to me I know how much work grown-up children can create when they are living at home if you're happy ignore the interfering old b.t

rubylady Wed 09-Mar-16 13:18:32

She'd be alright telling me, Yippee! I'm out tommorrow . . . to the hospital! That's about as good as it gets. hmm

Maybe though, she was glad that you were getting out to the bingo with her and it's herself who wants the company?