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Naughty Nanna.......but doing the best I can!

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Katek Fri 04-Mar-16 09:30:36

I have allowed dgs to watch more tv than he's normally permitted. It's been a great help in letting me tidy, prepare his food etc, then we sit down and play until lunchtime. He's quite grizzly and argumentative as well (not his usual) so I'm heading off confrontation with him. There are times and there are times, and I don't think now is the right time to be firm with an unwell, grumpy, missing his mum, tired 2 year old. I'm also not in my 20s/30s any more! I'm justifying it to myself I know, but I do feel guilty.

Lillie Wed 16-Mar-16 11:03:48

Teacher11 .... that would be a shame. Can you not just change your name? We get upset because we care.

Teacher11 Wed 16-Mar-16 11:04:55

How do you change your name? (And should mine be 'Adolf'?

Anya Wed 16-Mar-16 12:59:08

Go for something soft and fluffy perhaps ..... A telly tubby?

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 16-Mar-16 13:11:36

Oh don't be daft Teacher. And don't leave either. It's a right pain in the bum once you have left because you can't choose which way up you want to read the threads. And you can't click on profiles. etc. etc.

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 16-Mar-16 13:11:59

And don't change your name. hmm

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 16-Mar-16 13:12:47

I have actually agreed with you on this thread. You ignored me. I will now throw a strop. ok?

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 16-Mar-16 13:13:51

Actually, CBA.

pompa Wed 16-Mar-16 13:35:12

Hi Teacher. As one that has left because of bad vibes from some Gners, then when, I had so many messages of support that I felt a right idiot for leaving, I returned.
If you are in least bit controversial etc, you will get criticised, but the critics are always the loudest voices, those that support your views are often unheard.
Some think that I should behave in a restrained way as this is an online forum. Personally I behave in the same way as RL, what you get is what I really am, love or loath it. So long as you are honest and don't get personal (as in RL), just be yourself. I never deliberately go out to upset people, but surly will from time to time as in RL.

So Stick with us Teacher and pop into Soops Kitchen for a friendly chat.

Luckygirl Wed 16-Mar-16 13:36:37

That would be a shame Teacher11 - I am not getting at you; it is just an interesting debate about education and what it means,how it is practised by different teachers, the influence of government policy on all this, and on teacher job satisfaction. I find it all interesting, particularly as it is so fundamental to the future that we send children out into the world who are confident and have had a well-rounded education. - people will have different views - that's fine - that's life. It's not personal.

TriciaF Wed 16-Mar-16 14:44:49

Don't leave Teacher11 - I've just read this thread for the first time and I'm embarrassed to admit that my views on this are probably more extreme than yours. Not blaming Katek for what she did, I would probably do the same nowadays with a poorly child.
When our children were young we didn't have a TV . They used to Listen with Mother, radio, that's all.We did get one eventually, but as they got older got rid of it again. Husband was a TV engineer and was horrified at people's reaction when their tv wasn't working. So ours were outside finding out about the world.
Both sons have children and are fairly strict on watching hours etc. Daughters not so strict.
We had a neighbour with 2 very young children and they seemed to be continuously fixated on tv, even in the car they had some gadget playing cartoons fixed to the seat in front of them. Easy transition from that to ipads iphones etc.
This is a subject for parents to make their own decisions about how to bring up their children, but I think the dangers of over-exposure to visual images are under-estimated.

Lyndylou Wed 16-Mar-16 14:59:07

Teacher11 I do think it would be a shame if you left especially as Luckygirl says, this is an essential debate. I absolutely agree with her comments earlier that children are being rushed through their education. INVHO, those that are not keeping up are being left on the side. My DGS, has really struggled with everything. Initially, it was reading, but last year, his SENCO, his Y2 teacher and DD and myself really pulled him forward and everyone at the end of the last school year felt that he had turned a corner and was making loads of progress.

New school year, new teacher. She is a very efficient teacher, but she expects a certain maturity of her Y3 that DGS simply has not reached yet. Consequently every meeting is very negative and highly depressing. His mum and I say he is reading at level 7 at home, about 3 levels higher than school, she says that he may read it but he doesn't understand it, (he does, we question him and make him write a sentence about what he has just read). She says he doesn't ask for help, but she makes it clear she doesn't expect the class to ask for her help until the very last point (ie first think about it, then look at book for help, then ask another child before going to her), so of course DGS avoids asking her. He tells us he will ask the TAs for help just not her. She has never actually sat down and chatted to him, never listened to him read (he reads to the SENCO TA who is pleased with his progress), she has never discussed his IEP with him although the form says she is supposed to. Everything is just so negative, no wonder DGS is biting his nails and counting the days until his next holiday and we can't wait for this school year to be over.

Sorry to rant, needed to get that out of my system, but basically I feel teachers can't always do the best for every child, and it's not always their fault, the curriculum just seems far too rigid.

Jalima Wed 16-Mar-16 15:02:39

I thought the point of the thread was to reassure an anxious grandma that she wasn't doing the wrong thing in letting a poorly 2 year old watch more tv than usual.
The whole point of the thread seemed to change though, so sorry if I said anything to upset you when I was in fact trying to reassure Katek who I notice has very sensibly left the thread.

And should mine be 'Adolf'? Hardly!!

Jalima Wed 16-Mar-16 15:04:31

this is an essential debate.
I agree, so perhaps another thread would be appropriate instead of continuing this one?

TriciaF Wed 16-Mar-16 16:39:10

Good idea Jalima - could be about trends in primary education, or influence of children's watching habits on their education, and general development.