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My husband died

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tingaloo Thu 18-Feb-16 13:26:26

This is really an update for all those lovely gransnetters who supported me during difficult times in November and December. My husband moved into a Nursing Home on December 31, and with a few hiccups, settled in. I chose one near to home and visited him once or twice a day. Last Saturday morning I received a call while I was loading my shoping in Sainsbury's car park, to say that he had stopped breathing and was receiving CPR. I don't know how I managed the drive from Sainsbury's to the Home, but when I got there he was breathing but fairly unresponsive. However in the resus department on a huge dose of oxygen, he started to come round, smiled and said he was fine. The staff said they had only seen a recovery like this a few times. However he began to get worse, and I was prepared for his death. My daughters (his stepdaughters) and I spent the rest of the day with him, and I was given a campbed beside him for the night. He sank further the next day, but was so brave, the poor darling. His son managed to get to the hospital by late afternoon, and my darling husband died very peacefully not long after midnight with his so and I on either side of him stroking him. His poor lungs just couldn't cope any more. He has to have an autopsy to confirm that it was asbestos that caused his pulmonary fibrosis. I am glad that he did not live long enough for his dementia to progress any further. I have not really started grieving yet because I cannot really take it in he is actually gone, and it just feels like another step in his sad decline over the last couple of years, and particularly the last few months.

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merlotgran Thu 18-Feb-16 16:35:59

So sorry to hear your sad news, tingaloo. flowers

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Marelli Thu 18-Feb-16 16:37:32

I want to join the others in sending my condolences, Tingaloo. So sorry. flowers x

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Galen Thu 18-Feb-16 16:44:52

Condolences.

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morethan2 Thu 18-Feb-16 16:44:54

I too send my sincere condolences to you and your family. I hope you find a little comfort from knowing we're all thinking of you. I know there are some grans on here who have been in your position and I'm sure they will help steer you through this very difficult time. So keep posting. It's early days so take as much help and support that is offered. flowers

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nannieroz111 Thu 18-Feb-16 16:56:24

Sincere condolences Tingaloo

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Greyduster Thu 18-Feb-16 17:08:05

My sincere condolences to you, tingaloo. My heart goes out to you.

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TriciaF Thu 18-Feb-16 17:08:48

Condolences from me too Tingaloo.
Take things slowly, they will change . flowers xx

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NfkDumpling Thu 18-Feb-16 17:13:17

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grannylyn65 Thu 18-Feb-16 17:21:02

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Jane10 Thu 18-Feb-16 17:22:17

So sorry to hear this Tingaloo. You must take comfort from knowing that you did your very best and that he died knowing his family loved him. Be sure that we're all standing ready to offer 'virtual' support over the coming difficult times.

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Greymary Thu 18-Feb-16 17:34:07

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss Tingaloo.
I hope it is of some comfort that it was a peaceful and you were with him at the end.
flowers with rosemary for rememberance.

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jogginggirl Thu 18-Feb-16 17:48:05

So sorry to read this very sad news Tingaloo sending (((gentle hugs))) and flowers xxx

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numberplease Thu 18-Feb-16 17:52:02

So sorry Tingaloo

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Daddima Thu 18-Feb-16 18:02:41

A happy rising to him, and a hug for you. X

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Greenfinch Thu 18-Feb-16 18:08:17

Thinking of you.

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Jayh Thu 18-Feb-16 18:12:50

Sincere condolences. Take care. flowers

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obieone Thu 18-Feb-16 18:18:42

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Lillie Thu 18-Feb-16 18:30:46

Sorry for your loss.

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Cherrytree59 Thu 18-Feb-16 18:32:21

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family tingalooflowers.
Please when you feel that you are able, come back and let us know how you are.

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Lona Thu 18-Feb-16 18:38:22

tingaloo I'm so sorry flowers how comforting that you and his son were able to be with him at the end.

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WilmaKnickersfit Thu 18-Feb-16 18:39:10

My condolences. Take care of yourself. flowers

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rubysong Thu 18-Feb-16 19:25:59

All sympathy Tingaloo . Keep in touch with your friends on GN . flowers

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willsmadnan Thu 18-Feb-16 20:00:33

My thoughts are with you tingaloo. My dear husband of 50 years died suddenly three weeks ago. I take comfort from the fact he had a great life, and died in his own home . He would have hated to have been in a sterile hospital surrounded by machines.
It's early days for us both, but I'm being positive and as so many here on GN have already said we must take one step at a time. Bon courage!

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Greenfinch Thu 18-Feb-16 20:17:46

Thinking of you too willsmadnan.

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Sugarpufffairy Thu 18-Feb-16 20:29:06

Tingaloo - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It is so sad. Lean on Gransnet and family whenever you feel the need. Thinking of you at this sad time.
SPF

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