Not Good Morning!

Oh this is such a mean thread! Talk about encouraging paranoia!

Are you sure you aren't interpreting straightforward positive advice as 'nastiness'? Honeyed words may sound cosy but they may not ncssarily be the advice need.

Threads like this shouldn't happen. Cowardy Custard comes to mind.

I'm off this thread. Got better things to think about, thank the Lord. Grandsons coming today.

And that's exactly what the OP meant Jingl!

Good advice CAN be couched in honeyed words ! It's funny how when people tell you something 'for your own good' it almost always is hurtful. And 'straightforward' is another way of being hurtful sometimes.

Threads like this absolutely SHOULD happen. Are you disregarding how the OP feels? Just because you disagree doesn't make you right and her wrong it just highlights the difference between your 'style' and hers .

There's nothing mean or paranoid about this thread - its an honest comment about how the OP feels.

I agree with jingl.

The OP is basically saying 'Gransnet is full of mean people. Discuss.'
No thanks.

I haven't been on Gransnet very long, but one thing that has been very obvious is that some posters do seem to glorify in 'plain speaking' and 'telling it how it is'. I think those two phrases have a very important element to them, and that's the verbal part. Unfortunately, we're taking part in a written activity, and words once sent remain there. Most people, if they say something which clearly upsets their listener, even if the intention is for the best, will attempt to find a more appropriate way of giving advice. However, we all, I'm sure, know people who don't have the ability to empathise with others. It would be great to have the ability to personally block posters as you can on other sites.

I disagree * Janeainsworth* I don't think what she was saying was that at all, she mentioned 'a member'. A single member. So that's hardly like saying Gransnet is full of mean girls . BUT I'm not the OP so thats just my take on it.

And we have discussed this already in part when we had a lengthy and lively debate about politeness on the internet.

The OP is as entitled to start this thread as you are to disagree.

Well said Badenkate

I didn't say she wasn't entitled to start the thread, ng.
I was agreeing with jingl that although the thread is ostensibly about grannylynn's bad morning, reason undisclosed, it's real purpose is to have a go at another forum member whom she chooses not to name.

I did not put that apostrophe in there

and that's where its all in the interpretation of the written word isn't it * Janeainsworth* I didn't read that all. If I had maybe I would have felt differently but i took it at face value.

Its true what they say , you can write a sentence and give it to a dozen people and 99% of them will read something different into it

How the heck is anyone supposed to know what this thread is about apart from a very cryptic OP from Grannylyn65

I understand the OP is upset, I can only assume that something has been said on another thread but such vague remarks tend to leave a lot of unwarranted suspicion about.

Still very [confused.]

Agree with Jingle & Jane.
My first thought on seeing the OP was, how childish, just come out with it.
It's the same as when people say " I have something to say but I don't know how to say it" my response is: just bloody say it. Once it's out, it's out.

??? To all, and as am not being cryptic, have Gastroparesis, is complicated so please google!!
Some days are not too good and today is one xxxx

And, if I could eat custard jings, I would be ?

grannylynn65. So is that what the OP was about, your having a bad day with your Gastroparesis?

yes, some days when I wake, just know it will be bad, I have had a gastric pacemaker fitted last year which helps. Some days nothing helps and I can eat nor drink anything at all.

But I usually keep quiet and try to get on with it!

I'm sorry you're having a bad day Grannylynn.
I'm sure if you had posted that in the first place, you would have had nothing but kindness and sympathy.

That does sound nasty grannylyn65, I am sure nobody would have been less than sympathetic, and there may be other sufferers out there.
I hope there are also "better" days

Just about to post everything that Aleaposted. I feel quite sad that you feel we could be unsympathetic.

Not most of you by any means, had fantastic help before xx

Grannylyn65 Don't be worried about coming on here for a moan. It sounds as if you have an awful lot of health issues to put up with.

There are a lot of us who use GN for a good moan we are feeling down.
In my experience most people on GN are kind with their support and sympathy when someone is beset with troubles.

Don't hesitate to post next time when you are feeling miserable. I and many others have done this. As Jane A said we did not know what you were going through in your first post.

Sending you virtual (((hugs))) and

I did have to google it, so I won't send any cake, just and
It's been grey and miserable here too, which doesn't help if you're feeling down.

My 4 year old DGD is always singing that song from Annie 'The sun'll come out tomorrow' - hope it does!

Total sympathy, grannylynn. I suffer from Diverticulitis so I do understand how things can get you down.
In the past month I have had to call the ambulance twice.