What are we giving my sister?

I have exactly the same problem but I think it is our own fault as my dil started as she meant to go on. She buys the presents for her family and my son buys them for his. As her family is much smaller than ours she certainly got the better bargain. Wish I'd thought of that all those years ago.

I don't have a problem getting DH to wrap presents; the problem is that we buy lots of lovely wrapping papers - and then he wraps all the presents in the same one, bless him! He wrapped a football up for GS and used so much tape on it the little chap will be lucky to get it unwrapped by next Christmas!

We don't give each other presents at Christmas, instead we go away to a nice hotel but guess who books it?
Also when we go away on holiday it's " have we booked the crossing/ flight/ got the euros" ? Guess who's responsible?

Women in our culture tend to be better at maintaining social and family relationships.
If you don't like it, give notice you are going to stop. When I got married for the 2nd time to a chap with a growing number of close relatives I announced I would not be remembering their birthdays, buying their pressies etc. Pretty much stuck to it. But I was old enough and wily enough after first marriage to start as I meant to go on.
There are lots of things I do take responsibility for though. e.g. making sure we have food in the house.

You are definitely not alone Alea, the only present and card my husband has ever seen to himself has been for me. The number of Christmasses I`ve bewailed the fact that I want/need help in deciding, choosing, buying, wrapping, writing, but none has ever been forthcoming. He thinks I`m complimented by him saying "you do it better than I could"! I`m not!!

I've brought my DS up to buy cards and go and buy presents, wrap them etc. He now, at 18 hasn't, I don't think, bothered to buy me a card and the present was a click on Amazon, bought the latest Paul O'Grady book which I had just shown him on my laptop and will probably not wrap it neither. It does seem that it is implanted in them, regardless of the way they were brough up.

Saying that, his dad, my ex husband used to go out looking for my present for a whole afternoon and then another afternoon going buying it, so they are not all the same. However, he did get a bit obsessed with dishwashing, washing, ironing and cleaning. I divorced him as I thought I'd turned gay!

(sorry, no offence to gay people, none intended )

I have one too - we've been married nearly 45 years and he's never bought anyone (apart from me) a card or a present. He tends to panic buy something for me at the last minute which is usually something I've pointed out to him - last week I found my own and he bought it then said I could have it now which I refused. However this year he has also discovered online shopping and a couple of boxes have arrived which are in his room - very mysterious so yesterday when I'd finished the last minute wrapping I took all the paper in there and left it with the scissors and tape to avoid the usual query if we have any! He's not very domesticated but I wouldn't swap him!

Just back from final shop at Tesco. I was wide awake at 4.30 am so decided to get up and go. There were a few more there than I thought would be but it wasn't a major shopping list and so it was quick and easy. This morning I have mince pies to make, ablutions to have and packing for visit to DS's. Probably need a snooze somewhere in that lot!

Happy Christmas GNs one and all!

Mine's like the majority on here, and if I insisted he did it nothing would be done.
He doesn't buy a thing, including no present for me! I'm used to it now after 38 years ?

He too hasn't got the foggiest idea who's getting what present but he's very quick to enjoy being thanked!

Gosh, I'm so lucky. My DH buys my present, wraps it beautifully, writes my card and also writes our Christmas letter which we send out to old friends. I do the card address labels, sign the cards but he posts them. He also buys gifts for the GC and organises some of the family presents. He's a gem!

I told my then H that we were over in August. He immediately went on an internet dating site to recruit a replacement 'servant' and by December he was installed with her and she was delivering his precisely defined Christmas requirements.