Direct or indirect querist?

I am fairly direct in my questions, as I wouldn't ask them if I didn't need an answer, but I am so tired of reminding several family members that if the question involves the word "or", answering yes or no is not in any way satisfactory. (I am also fairly unenthusiastic about "Why not?")

DH is an indirect querist par excellence and will also turn my direct queries into indirect queries.

Me: Are you going out today?

DH: Why do you need me to be in for a delivery?

Ooh, fascinating, it took over a year of living with DBH to realise what was going on. It still drives me mad at times. I am direct, he is indirect. It took me months to click, the first example I remember very clearly. I was newly pregnant and so spent ages in our one and only loo at the time (folic acid!). He would loiter outside and ask 'Are you ok?', and I would answer, 'Yes, thank you!'

It finally sunk in that he wasn't at all concerned for my well-being - he wanted the loo!

MiL is exactly the same, so I know where he gets it from. The other week when she was here she spent ages quizzing me about our movements this Xmas (DD and family staying with us for a week) but seemed unable to accept it for some reason. She kept returning to it and I was getting quite irritated, she seemed unable to believe me! I thought I had her sussed - I presumed that she wanted us up there, as she often does, so said Sorry, we just couldn't fit in a visit up there as well. She looked horrified. What she had actually been hoping to do was pass over the care of Great Uncle!

We've switched over the years - I used to come at something in a roundabout way, he would be (sometimes ruthlessly) direct. Now it's the other way round!

I'm direct, DH anything but
Mind you though, when his response is 'I wouldn't say no' or 'Whatdo you want to do?' I feel my hackles rising!
Invariably the second response will still lead to doing what he wants to do.

I'm quite direct and often don't realise what someone is getting at, if they are indirect.
In the conversation about the floods, that bags, I'd likely have said "Oh, I'll be fine, I'll take the 4x4."
Maybe getting a few answers like that could re-direct the thought processes of an indirect person.

Both fairly direct - along with our children.

I was with a friend a couple of days ago and a another friend asked if one of us could do her a favour; I immediately said "Yes of course, if I'm able" and at the same time my friend said "What is it you want?"

Vive la difference!

I am direct ...he goes round the houses,and up and down the high street..like vq I ask questions requiring a yes/no answer when trying to gain information/intention

I ask a question requiring a straight yes or no and five minutes later he is still waffling , I am tapping my toe in a menacing manner and ask again through gritted teeth

I adopt the closed question technique with DH when necessary to shut down waffle and prevarication!

DH is direct and I am both, but I am usually indirect because I think I need to tread carefully or want something!

I think the antidote to indirect questions is 'Why do you ask?' in a firm tone

I have been told that I am refreshingly direct ........

Mostly direct, altho' I'm aware I engage in the indirect route at times, which I'm not comfortable with because I dislike being asked indirect questions!

Just remembered another. He commented on how the sunshine "really catches that cobweb in the window".

"Yes," says I, "why do you think I leave it there?"

It's actually quite unusual for him to notice anything as 'domestic' as that.

Must be very frustrating if both of you is indirect!

Sounds like DD when she was local Alea

DH and I are direct.

I am direct
DH can be both direct and indirect, thinking about it. Which catches me offguard sometimes. I think it depends what the subject is for him. Some subjects he goes around the houses, eg medical, and yes car too, talking about family members[not the closest ones] and some subjects he is very direct[close family members, food, my tidying up!].

"Mu - um, are you doing anything on the .... Of.....?" ( months ahead,) "Don't think so, " I reply cautiously , then there invariably follows a request for a babysit/sleepover!

That's indirect? Yes?

Direct usually but it depends if I'm 'after something' then I tread more carefully.

DD3 asks things like 'Will you be in this afternoon?'. Me, thinking a visit from her and DGC 'Yes probably, why?'. Well, if you go out could you go to ..... and get a .... for me'.

I'm very direct (painfully so I'm told) but DH uses guerrilla tactics to trap me and speaks in coded phrases.

DH and I are both quite direct I think.
The indirect one is DD2 who will ring up with a question, and you never know whether it's going to lead to an invitation to dinner, a question about the family history, or news of fresh disasters

Mmm, interesting. Hadn't thought much about this until now. OH is direct I think. We both are. it saves time. But my son and my brother aren't and always start with a trap ie 'what are you up to?' or 'what are you doing?' I usually reply 'why?' because experience makes me suspicious. Just wish they'd come straight out with whatever it is they need/want to ask me...

I'm indirect. DH is direct.