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There is no escape, I shall have to eat the cake...

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janerowena Thu 01-Oct-15 12:11:07

A couple of weeks ago, DBH made some GF chocolate muffins for 'me', which was very kind of him, but...

I didn't like them very much. I tactfully asked if perhaps a little more fat and liquid would have helped, and were they perhaps a little lacking in cocoa? However, he said he really liked them as they were, so I said nothing further and only ate two of the dozen when they were handed to me on a plate and there was no escape.

It's my birthday on Sunday. I didn't want to make my own cake, so bought a (very nice) chocolate cake from Tesco that we have had before, and hid it at the back of the outside fridge. He found it this morning. I am out this afternoon, so he just came to me and said that he had really wanted to make me a birthday cake as a surprise, but had found the cake - which is a lovely thought, but...

He said 'I thought I would use that lovely muffin recipe to make a two-layered cake, since you liked it so much.' hmm I didn't know what to say to that, so eventually managed a 'What made you think I liked it so much?' His reply was 'Well, you ate most of them' !!! shock I most certainly did not!

Self-delusional or what... grin

Anyway, I think the problem will go away - into his stomach. grin I shall have to sneak out to the outside fridge when he has gone to bed and eat the Tesco cake by myself!

It made me wonder how many other people end up being given something for their birthday that really was intended for the recipient!

Teetime Thu 01-Oct-15 12:53:06

I can come round and be your support group and help you eat the cake in the garage. As I am 'rotund' already it wont make much difference. smile Lovely to have a DH though who makes cake. Have a lovely birthday. flowers

janerowena Thu 01-Oct-15 13:20:22

Thank you! grin

I do feel a bit of an ingrate, but can't say anything too forceful because he is currently depressed (although getting better).

Gagagran Thu 01-Oct-15 14:02:54

I think I might be tempted to "find" a recipe on-line and ask him to make that as your birthday treat and tell him that someone has recommended it to you. Make sure it has a good moisture content (ground almonds help I always think). Would that help and avoid the dreaded dry muffin recipe?

It is very kind of him - my DH would not have a clue how to make a cake!

kittylester Thu 01-Oct-15 14:17:46

Be grateful jane and slice chunks off it and put them in the bottom of the bin. grin

hildajenniJ Thu 01-Oct-15 14:54:10

grin kitty, I've been known to do that!
janer, Please let him make you the cake. I wish my DH was half so thoughtful.

janerowena Thu 01-Oct-15 18:04:21

I have just got home and I can smell it cooling now, although I am not allowed to look. I know I should be grateful, I am keeping my fingers crossed that he has added more chocolate and not overcooked them.

It's his birthday in two weeks' time. I think I shall make him my favourite carrot cake. grin

rosesarered Thu 01-Oct-15 18:38:23

That's what's called having your cake and eating it Janerowena!

apricot Thu 01-Oct-15 18:44:18

I had a special birthday and my family all came and gave me wonderful special presents BUT they took me out to dinner in the most expensive place in town, which I had sworn I would never enter.
It was a favourite old pub which has been horribly changed, even its 200 year old name. The food was mediocre, the service was terrible and the bill was astronomical.
Every time it's mentioned I have to pretend I loved it!

janerowena Thu 01-Oct-15 21:54:45

Oh no, I would hate that too! Expensive does not necessarily mean good.

I am a bit scared that I will be 'treated' to the cake for ever and ever if I say I like it.

FiL once said that he liked jigsaws. As no-one knew what else to buy him he was given them every birthday and Christmas by every member of the family, including MiL! He eventually had to confess that he had only ever done three of them, because they were moving and MiL wanted to know why so many were still in their plastic wrappers! grin

rosesarered Fri 02-Oct-15 09:02:53

Gag on the cake Jane, and tell him it's so dry you need a drink of watergrin

Elegran Fri 02-Oct-15 09:37:54

Suggest that when he makes it next time he adds a bit more fat (even specify how much more) and takes it out of the oven a few minutes earlier "It just needed that"

LullyDully Fri 02-Oct-15 11:35:36

Sound like the white sauce DH made last week........it just wouldn't thicken.
Imagine that!!!

. We had to wait while the fish got cold. He didn't need help as it would thicken soon.

He let DS help eventually who just removed some of the milk and added more flour.

Still at least he cooks now. We live with DS and take it in turns between the 3 of us.

janerowena Fri 02-Oct-15 12:35:29

He is actually a very good cook, he just doesn't make cakes that are decadent. He makes them dry and tasteless and 'economical' like his mother does, because that it what he is used to. Her cakes look grey rather than chocolate-coloured. She doesn't approve of mine - she says they are 'more like dessert'.