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Have you fulfilled your potential?

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Jane10 Sat 09-May-15 19:50:46

I don't suppose anyone's going to come on here and say I've done a fantastic job and completely fulfilled my potential'. Modesty is a Gran thing but I bet there are people reading this who have led really interesting lives and helped other people in all sorts of ways. This could range from quietly bringing up a happy family (easier said than done) to feats of bravery and all points in between. Even if life hasn't gone well, will people not have learned from it? Is that a kind of fulfillment?

merlotgran Sat 09-May-15 19:38:36

I often wish I hadn't been sucked into the 'marry young, have children, support your husband with his career' ethos but then I wouldn't have had them so it can't have been all bad. hmm

pompa Sat 09-May-15 19:35:43

Similar to others. My life has been a series of generally happy accidents, not well planned. When i was in my 50's I was disapointed that i had not achieved more, but stress was the limiting factor for me.
Now when I look back I am content with my life, we have lovely children/grand children, our health, a roof over our heads and money left over at the end of the month.

merlotgran Sat 09-May-15 19:34:39

Sounds like you've done an awful lot to me, Galen smile

Galen Sat 09-May-15 19:31:53

Just feel that reaching the end of my life, I should have done more! Don't know what , but?

Gracesgran Sat 09-May-15 19:10:07

You are not alone Galen, I certainly feel like that, but I have stopped beating myself up on this one as I have realised everyone would need several lives to fulfil their potential and that often the information you need to understand your own capacity comes after the possibility to do so.hmm

I also know that health and energy levels put a break on some of the things I now have time to do. Life's a b.... really but don't let it get you down.smile

thatbags Sat 09-May-15 19:08:42

I feel the same. Some of it is because of not having the same self-knowledge when I was sixteen as I have now. I made the 'mistake' of taking the advice of people who thought they knew what was best for me, with the best possible intentions on their parts, but they were wrong. I didn't have the confidence at sixteen to insist on my choices. However, I did learn from this and hopefully my daughters benefited. Hey ho.

janerowena Sat 09-May-15 19:05:02

I used to think that, but then I thought - I have had a really quite exciting life, what the hell. I may not be a millionaire or done all the things I dreamt of, but I like my life.

AshTree Sat 09-May-15 19:01:02

No, I don't think you're alone, Galen. I find myself frequently thinking of that saying "at the end of your life you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did". I think there are many in my case sad

Galen Sat 09-May-15 18:58:18

Now aged 70 and looking back on my life, I feel I could have done so much more and achieved more than I have!
Does anyone else feel the same or am I alone in feeling this?