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To flick or not to flick?

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trisher Thu 23-Apr-15 19:07:15

OK well I am at a formal meeting and sitting in front of me is a smartly dressed man with an immaculately white shirt. As I am sitting there I see a small black bug crawling on the collar of this shirt. What am I to do? I watch fascinated I want to reach out and flick it away, but what if I squash it and it marks the collar? The bug crawls further around and balances along the fold of the collar. And then just as I ready myself to say something it disappears inside the collar. So I just sit tight. But I still wonder if I should have said something after all it might be a bug that bites. What would you have done? And have you ever sat and done nothing when perhaps just a quick flick would have solved eveything?

Teetime Fri 24-Apr-15 08:52:59

No definitely not touching anyone else that doesn't belong to you now- very hazardous. I'd just tell them if I thought it would save them embarrassment or harm in some way but very quietly and privately.

Anne58 Fri 24-Apr-15 09:33:03

Whenever I tell Mr P that his trousers are fully closed, he replies "It pays to advertise!"

POGS Fri 24-Apr-15 09:50:20

I would definately have said 'excuse me but......'

Pompa

If the label on the dress says size 8 or 10 leave it.

Iif it says size 20/22 they might be glad to know. I would wink

Anne58 Fri 24-Apr-15 09:58:56

I meant AREN'T

POGS Fri 24-Apr-15 10:09:07

Phoenix

Didn't like to ask if you meant his fly half open or trousers full wink

Anne58 Fri 24-Apr-15 10:22:04

grin

whitewave Fri 24-Apr-15 11:09:17

My sister and I were arranging an Aunts funeral in Cornwall and the undertaker has visiting the house and sat the whole time with his flies Widely open!!! Neither of us had the nerve to mention it nor look at each other, but it was the most peculiar visit and our tears were I am ashamed to say were of hilarity rather than grief, although we did truly mourn our dear Aunt.

POGS Fri 24-Apr-15 12:25:51

White wave

How kind of him to 'take your minds off such a sad occassion'. smile

Beyond the call of duty I would say.

rosesarered Fri 24-Apr-15 13:30:15

Phoenix, tell Mr P that it doesn't pay to be arrested in Morrisons!

rosesarered Fri 24-Apr-15 13:31:32

Thankfully, you don't see many open flies around do you?

NanaDenise Fri 24-Apr-15 13:38:43

Nicest way of dealing with skirt caught in knickers scenario overheard recently: 'What a lovely skirt, it suits you, but it has caught up at the back.'

'Owner of skirt, thank you so much'.

Nelliemoser Fri 24-Apr-15 13:41:57

I would certainly politely tell someone if their dress was tucked in or a lable sticking out, but it might be harder if it was a woman telling a man that his his flies were undone. Then it might be less embarrasing to ask another man to tell him.

I would be very cross if someone was then rude about it being mentioned to them.

Anne58 Fri 24-Apr-15 14:25:05

My ex boss had his flies partially open at a meeting. I scribbled a quick note and passed it to him.

He said "oh, I haven't got my reading glasses with me, please read it out to me" So I did. grin

loopylou Fri 24-Apr-15 14:42:19

grin phoenix, I bet he wished he hadn't asked!

Slightly less mortifying, on the way to a wedding my lovely mum, wearing a beautifully tailored outfit she'd made, noticed a tiny thread on the jacket sleeve.
She pulled it and the sleeve fell off - she'd forgotten to machine it in!
Rapid return home to chance and very thankful it hadn't happened at the church smile

loopylou Fri 24-Apr-15 14:43:00

'change' not chance blooming iPad.....

AshTree Fri 24-Apr-15 14:47:50

Pompa your post at 08.25 - that was extremely gallant of you, not to mention brave! A true friend smile

tanith Fri 24-Apr-15 14:54:45

loopylou I just spat tea all over myself grin

mgtanne71 Wed 29-Apr-15 17:04:22

I once told a woman on holiday that she had blood on the back of her skirt. It turned out that she had sat on a raspberry. We were both embarrassed

loopylou Wed 29-Apr-15 17:20:18

As an arachnophobe I'd much prefer someone flicked rather than tell me minutes later a spider has gone down my neck!
Even worse would be me realising a spider was wandering around under my clothes [shudder, feeling sick]