To flick or not to flick?

As an arachnophobe I'd much prefer someone flicked rather than tell me minutes later a spider has gone down my neck!
Even worse would be me realising a spider was wandering around under my clothes [shudder, feeling sick]

I once told a woman on holiday that she had blood on the back of her skirt. It turned out that she had sat on a raspberry. We were both embarrassed

loopylou I just spat tea all over myself

Pompa your post at 08.25 - that was extremely gallant of you, not to mention brave! A true friend

'change' not chance blooming iPad.....

phoenix, I bet he wished he hadn't asked!

Slightly less mortifying, on the way to a wedding my lovely mum, wearing a beautifully tailored outfit she'd made, noticed a tiny thread on the jacket sleeve.
She pulled it and the sleeve fell off - she'd forgotten to machine it in!
Rapid return home to chance and very thankful it hadn't happened at the church

My ex boss had his flies partially open at a meeting. I scribbled a quick note and passed it to him.

He said "oh, I haven't got my reading glasses with me, please read it out to me" So I did.

I would certainly politely tell someone if their dress was tucked in or a lable sticking out, but it might be harder if it was a woman telling a man that his his flies were undone. Then it might be less embarrasing to ask another man to tell him.

I would be very cross if someone was then rude about it being mentioned to them.

Nicest way of dealing with skirt caught in knickers scenario overheard recently: 'What a lovely skirt, it suits you, but it has caught up at the back.'

'Owner of skirt, thank you so much'.

Thankfully, you don't see many open flies around do you?

Phoenix, tell Mr P that it doesn't pay to be arrested in Morrisons!

White wave

How kind of him to 'take your minds off such a sad occassion'.

Beyond the call of duty I would say.

My sister and I were arranging an Aunts funeral in Cornwall and the undertaker has visiting the house and sat the whole time with his flies Widely open!!! Neither of us had the nerve to mention it nor look at each other, but it was the most peculiar visit and our tears were I am ashamed to say were of hilarity rather than grief, although we did truly mourn our dear Aunt.

Phoenix

Didn't like to ask if you meant his fly half open or trousers full

I meant AREN'T

I would definately have said 'excuse me but......'

Pompa

If the label on the dress says size 8 or 10 leave it.

Iif it says size 20/22 they might be glad to know. I would

Whenever I tell Mr P that his trousers are fully closed, he replies "It pays to advertise!"

No definitely not touching anyone else that doesn't belong to you now- very hazardous. I'd just tell them if I thought it would save them embarrassment or harm in some way but very quietly and privately.

My worst moment was a woman at work that had a very embarrassing situation that she obviously not aware of, I did quietly tell her, I could not have let her walk outside, she would have been devastated when she got home (IMO of course), She was grateful and sent me off to get her a change of clothes. Could I do this for a stranger - no way.

I once told a woman in Fenwicks that her hand made dress was very swish. She asked how I knew it was handmade.
I told her she'd left the tacking stitches in.
Sorry if it's anyone here. It was about 40 years ago!

Don't forget it was Princess Margaret's (intimate) gesture, flicking a piece of fluff or a hair from Peter Townsend's jacket that let the cat out of the bag regarding their relationship!
It was not the "done thing"!
My mother always taught me to ask politely as in" excuse me, you have a piece of fluff/a hair/--baby sick-- on your shoulder/lapel may I remove it?"

I reached forward to tuck a woman's label back in her t-shirt, and she thanked me with a smile. I said to her, "if I ever manage to get into a size 10 t-shirt again, please don't tuck my label back in!"

Yes, always flick. I once got stopped in Morrisons to be told that my skirt was tucked into my knickers at the back. Since then not much has embarrassed me.

I have always flicked, in the past. On the whole, people are both surprised, and grateful. I would rather be flicked, I suppose. Having thick curly hair, I bring quite enough wildlife into my house after gardening, that I am not always aware of, to know that I would rather someone flicked.