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soop Wed 18-Feb-15 17:25:36

Hello and welcome...grin

Bellasnana Mon 06-Apr-15 16:28:18

We return to Malta on Thursday morning. DH is due to have his chemo on Friday at 8am. He's not feeling very well at all at the moment so I hope he will pick up before we have to leave.

I'm torn between not wanting to leave my lovely sister, and wanting to get DH home, plus little DGD is counting the days until we return. 'Three more bed-times, Nana' she informed me today when we 'Face Timed' grin

numberplease Mon 06-Apr-15 15:56:15

Short answer? No!

Lona Mon 06-Apr-15 15:27:14

Bella I'm so glad that you're all enjoying your family get-together. I hope your dh feels better soon.

number Can't one (or two) of your children explain to their father that you cannot cope with him until he's more mobile? Would he listen to them?
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numberplease Mon 06-Apr-15 15:06:33

The trouble is, he takes as a serious rebuff if I say I`m not ready for him coming home. It`s a pity it was the Easter weekend, or things would possibly have got moving more quickly, regarding handrails.
Bella, I hope your husband`s cough is on the wane.
Soop, I was looking at a video taken at Muasdale of last night`s sunset, it was beautiful, I agree.

soop Mon 06-Apr-15 13:52:19

Nellie grin grin grin

Nelliemoser Mon 06-Apr-15 13:33:06

Number I am so pleased for you. Thank god for the District Nurse. If you can do avoid taking him back until he can mobilise more safely.

I too suffered from a very grumpy male patient when OH came out of hospital. While you feel sorry for their ill health the last thing you want is for them to get difficult when you are trying to assist them.

When my OH is unwell he seems to regard any suggestions of support as being patronised to the point where I wanted just to say "well s**f you then."
Take care of yourself Number flowers

soop Mon 06-Apr-15 13:04:54

Bella I'm really pleased to hear that the birthday celebration was a great success. Some happy memories to take home with you. Your dear husband's cough will naturally concern you. Are you planning to return home soon? I'm not sure what your itinerary is. flowers

The weather here in bonnie Kintyre is as good as it gets. Last night's sunset was stunning. Took far too many photos.

number Hearing that your husband will need some serious physio isn't surprising. He has been extremely poorly. He's going to need lots of TLC before he can be pronounced fit as a fiddle...wink

janerowena Of course you will miss your son. He sounds delightful. You will have good memories of the time spent together...and there will be another visit to look forward to in due course. sunshine

numberplease Sun 05-Apr-15 23:44:01

Bella, I do so hope that your husband`s cough is soon better, and doesn`t get any worse, seeing as you`re enjoying your trip so much. Your sister`s party seems to have been a great success, lovely to hear.
As for my stubborn old git, physio say they`ll need a minimum of 3 days working with him. The district nurse said we should be prepared to have a bed downstairs for a while, till all the necessary work is done, but our living room is quite small (12`x 13`), and fairly full of furniture. We`d have to move the settee out, but where to put it? Never mind, things will get sorted, they have to.

janerowena Sun 05-Apr-15 18:40:01

I hope he feels better soon, bella.

And am so relieved about number's OH! I had the care of my DF for a while and he fell, after a bad stroke. I had to call neighbours, he was naked as he had been to the bathroom for a wash, it took two men and two women to lift him. And he had to lie there for a very long half hour until they came. I had told him that our house wasn't suitable, being very old and with lots of small steps to every room, but he was desperate to get out of his own house. I think you are going to need some nursing help, number. Purely because he will listen to them when he may not to you. My father sounds very similar.

DS has gone back today, I shall so miss him, he is very helpful and so easy-going.

Bellasnana Sun 05-Apr-15 18:05:13

number what a relief to have your DH back where he can be cared for. It is a strain for you to have to go back to visiting, but much less stress on you than having him at home and trying to cope. Hope he will soon be well enough to return.

My sister's party was a huge success. Lots of family and friends came, it was a very happy occasion and did us all good after the trials and tribulations we've had of late.

The food was lovely and there is an abundance of cheesecakes, pavlova and cake left over so dig in, Granspals grin

This morning DH, dear sister, dear cousin and myself went to the Easter Sunday morning service which we enjoyed. Afterwards we were invited to stay and have sherry, coffee and simnel cake. Very delicious smile

DH isn't feeling too good. He has an awful cough so hoping it is nothing sinister.

Happy Easter to all kitcheners flowers

soop Sun 05-Apr-15 17:46:18

I shall take a look Dustyangel ...

MacSporran has poured my G&T. I wish all our Granspal Kitcheners a pleasant and restful evening. Back tomorrow to catch up with all the latest news and views. sunshine moon xxx

dustyangel Sun 05-Apr-15 17:08:17

I've just received photos forwarded by DD1, of my gorgeous GS and his girlfriend who have been doing the Three Peaks Challenge this weekend. They have been lucky with the weather although they were up to their knees in snow at one point on Ben Nevis on Friday! He looks so happy and I am so, so proud of him. Photos of Snowdon still to come. smile

soop Sun 05-Apr-15 16:47:45

Yes, number...get pampered or us lot will create a lot of fuss. I would really like to hear that your husband apologised to you. Oh, I know that he was stressed blah blah...but...there was no need to shout at the very person who really matters - you. flowers

dustyangel Sun 05-Apr-15 16:33:33

Wow number, that is good news. Funnily enough I nearly mentioned in my earlier post that the first time BiL came out from hospital, he went back in again within 36 hours. And stayed in longer that time.
I'm so glad that DH hasn't still got full response ability for his brother.

Put your feet up, have a rest, and eat lots of chocolate if you like it. Take care of yourself for a change. flowers

annodomini Sun 05-Apr-15 16:26:54

What I meant to say in my post up-thread was 'Is it possible for the OTs at the hospital to make arrangements with your local authority to have the necessary handrails etc fitted in time for his eventual homecoming?

Charleygirl Sun 05-Apr-15 15:39:21

number I am well aware that Mr. number did not help in the slightest by demanding to go home. He was not that long out of ITU, was not 100% on stairs and it was a long BH so no chance of grab rails being fitted. You cannot be expected to be around 24/7- you need rest also.

I do hope that your daughter apologised after she saw the pickle that he was in when the nurse arrived and he had fallen prior to that.

Hopefully you will sleep well tonight, knowing that he is being properly cared for.

Hospitals used to be fined if a patient was readmitted I think within 28 days and it was an inappropriate discharge. I have lost track of what happens today.

He is a stubborn so and so is he not?

soop Sun 05-Apr-15 14:19:44

Bella We all hope that the birthday girl had a lovely celebration. We look forward to hearing all about it. sunshine

soop Sun 05-Apr-15 14:18:10

Hurrah! number Well, what a to-do. Thank goodness that Mr number is back where he belongs (for the time being.) The pal of ours who is now in the care home also kept falling and couldn't be lifted. Paramedics as good as moved in to his home they were such frequent visitors. There comes a time when as Lona says...common sense has prevailed. I am truly relieved for you and your husband. Some serious physio together with the necessary aids around the house will make life safer for him when he returns.

Thank you jollyg The fact that MacSporran now knows he's on a list, and hasn't been forgotten, is comforting.

Andy v Novak in the final today. Wow! I would so love to watch that match (from behind the sofa...)

Lona Sun 05-Apr-15 09:59:50

number Thank goodness common sense has prevailed and also that he didn't hurt himself! Men always know best! hmm

soop Glad to know that an appointment is imminent for MacS

annodomini Sun 05-Apr-15 09:29:14

number, what a time you have had this weekend. You must be relieved that the hospital now has the responsibility for your husband. Is it possible for the OHs at the hospital to make arrangements with your local authority to have the necessary handrails etc fitted in time for his eventual homecoming?

jollyg Sun 05-Apr-15 09:10:56

Glad the appointment is in Campbeltown and not Oban, so convenient for you, file went walkabout....... whatever next. You were so right to contact.

Men, as number has found out, can be so exasperating

Soutra Sun 05-Apr-15 09:10:23

tbublush number I do apologise for getting that wrong. I have either mixed you up with someone else or got the wrong end of the stick and I am very very sorry.
I am so glad sense has prevailed but sorry you all had to go through such grief which could have been avoided.
Best wishes to you all flowers

Galen Sun 05-Apr-15 08:38:38

numbertbusmile

annsixty Sun 05-Apr-15 08:36:26

So pleased common sense has prevailed number. I know you are back to visiting but the family must take their share of that and at least you can rest at other times and sleep knowing he is in the right place. I hope the staff impress on him he may have set his recovery back by his "pigheadedness".

loopylou Sun 05-Apr-15 07:45:00

number I have to say I cringed at the decision to send him home...
I'm sorry DH's hospital discharge failed but I can't say I'm surprised, aren't men stubborn whotsits!
Hopefully now he'll realise that he needs to be fitter in order to be home, he's lucky he didn't break anything falling over.
Hopefully he will now listen to you!
Best wishes and Happy Easter x

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