Good home wanted or "Lost, stolen or strayed"

I thought it finished long ago. Why come back to say "I'm off"?

I'm off..........feeling uncomfortable about this thread

But forever bootlickergate will spring into mind whenever I pass through Brum. Thank you merlot

it was anya griping about an ex work colleague! We'll let her off that. Lol!

God anya! I hope you haven't been cringing too long!

Yes, slipped the name in before asking that a line be drawn under this thread!

That's how it seemed anyway.

I agree best to let it drop now though.

As you are doing now!

I just took an aversion to a GN being named by another poster.

Pogs The OP I referred to was Soutra's original not the one of yours of 11:36. I did not even see that one before you requested deletion.

Soutra requested an end to this debacle in her post of Feb-15 10:20:10.

I cannot for the life of me see why some posters just cannot let things go and walk calmly away from an insoluble disagreement without having to keep cranking up the tensions. Walking away from a heated discussion in situations like this is a positive resolution not an admission of defeat.

Soutra thank you for your PM last night. The meeting I refered to was with ex-work colleagues who are attending a conference in Birmingham the last week in February and wondered if I was around. It is not other GNetters meeting up and excluding you as I would have explained had to contacted me earlier. I'm sorry you thought that. I'm sorry too that a late night PM to another was inadvertently was sent to you. As you said sh*t happens.

And don't think I am keeping this thread going , it was the case I looked at my e.mails before GN so that's how easy posting get's confusing when time lines cross over . I thought I was being asked re my post but it . had already been dealt with before I replied.

Nelliemoser

Well that's your opinion.

For information my post post was not withdrawn at posters request. I did not initiate contact with GNHQ . I thought GNHQ were going to blank out the name mentioined and leave the rest of the post in it's entirety.

Now it looks as though I regretted my post or it was being abusive in some way. Nether are in fact true. [not on!]

Can't the squabbling on this thread just stop now please, there are more important things going on as new thread I just read demonstrates.

Pogs forgive me but the more this muddle is commented on and stirred up, the more controversy it is raising. It appears that those persons most involved might now wish to let go of this issue completely.

So maybe it is time to STOP as the OP has already requested.

Why would you have been really upset granjura?

Soutra wasn't. She sounded amused or even gleeful.

Totally unfair to blame Soutra for this surely. Must say I would have been really upset at getting such a message by 'mistake'. With hindsight we can all wonder whether posting on the open Forum was a good idea- but I am sure Soutra didn't mean to stir trouble. Had the person who made this gaffe got back to Soutra with an ooops and an apology- it would have indeed been much better, surely- and this thread would have never happened.

And for all to now wonder who the presumed 'bootlicker' was- is not pleasant either. A pity- but onwards and forwards.

This should never have been made an open thread, it should have been sorted out in private

Why was it necessary to give us a name?

I'm really struggling to follow the argument that the PM wasn't private as it had been sent to someone else?

Can we please now
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Soutra

I have read your posts back from the start and I have not seen a post from ***.

I apologise if I have read your last post incorrectly but are 'naming a poster' openly?

If I have got this all wrong then I unreservedly apologise to both you and * but if I have made a mistake perhaps if one poster misreads your post others will too so maybe best to qualify.

Really didn't want to say any more POGS, but the point was that this PM was not private as it had been sent to somebody else. I did PM the sender without a response as you suggested and no, there was no malice aforethought express or implied.

Nope. The more I have considered this thread the more I am convinced this is not harmless amusement.

It was evident the meaning behind this was to embarrass a fellow GN and make mischief between he/she and others who connected with the obvious post this thread eludes to.

This has also made a mockery of the pm facility if it is considered OK to quote verbatim something which was meant to be private, irrespective of whether that pm was of a personal nature or not, or indeed sent in error. Has this ever happened before, I am not aware of it in the 3 years I have been on GN.

I had a pm that was not particularly pleasant but I chose to ignore that person, I could have done the same as this and quoted her words but that would only be my getting revenge and creating issue after issue, as this has done.

If causing embarrassment wasn't the purpose then all it would have taken is a return pm to the sender saying it wasn't appreciated, bringing it to the attention of others has however served it's purpose hasn't it.

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I think it is quite mischievous.

'Never put in a private letter anything you wouldn't want read out in court'

Good advice.