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When does middle age begin and end?

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kittylester Fri 05-Dec-14 12:03:13

I said to someone the other day that 'a middle aged woman with steam coming out her ears isn't a pretty sight' and wondered why he gave me a quizzical look. Then it dawned on me that, at 65, I should be calling myself an old woman confused

If 60 Is the new 40. What am I?

apricot Tue 09-Dec-14 18:43:10

I'm about to reach my three score years and ten. I'll accept that I'm getting on but I intend living at least another 30 years. As I was young from 20 to 45, and middle-aged from 45 to now, then 30 years is as long as I want to be old and old age can't start before 70.

Wheniwasyourage Tue 09-Dec-14 18:28:48

I've always maintained that middle age is 5 years older than yourself, but that is wearing a bit thin now that I'm 63... You're right, thatbags, nobody else cares, particularly as we are invisible. tiggypiro, if you are short-sighted it is always more rewarding to look in the mirror with no glasses on or lenses in.

thatbags Tue 09-Dec-14 07:34:51

Good luck with that surgeryif it happens, ruby, and good luck if it doesn't too. Your approach of living in the present and making the most of every day is the best.

thatbags Tue 09-Dec-14 07:33:15

How exercised we are about the number of years we've been around. Do we really think anyone else cares how old we are physically, mentally, psychologically?

rubylady Tue 09-Dec-14 04:20:31

It all depends on health really I think. I have both parents just tuned 75 last month, my dad's starting with dementia but still very active and working out still, doing quizzes, exercises, getting about etc but my mum, mentally fine but bed bound due to bad circulation and needing a hip replacement. So I think, as someone who is facing heart surgery at 50 years old, to make the most of every day if you can and enjoy what you have.

I do have a younger sister who I want to poke some fun at since she turned 35 in October and going off the old saying of three score years and ten, has just turned into her middle age so deserves some ribbing. Her brother and I are in our 50's and it's about time she caught up a bit, lol.

Katek Mon 08-Dec-14 22:18:58

I'm still as active as I was 20 years ago (too active as some of you may have seen on another thread!) and my activities still involve working with chikdren and teens. After panto finished on Saturday we all went for a celebratory meal with ages ranging from 12 to 65 and had a fab time. We regularly have curry nights out as a group. I think that being involved with the teens definitely gives you a different perspective on life....just as long as you don't go down the trendy vicar route and embarrass all concerned by trying to 'get down with the kids'! My lot are 44, 39 and 33 so I shan't be old until my 'baby' reaches 40!

grumppa Mon 08-Dec-14 22:01:02

My point exactly, soontobe. Middle age can realistically be anything vaguely in the middle. I refer you to Humpty Dumpty.

Ana Mon 08-Dec-14 21:56:44

Of course it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things, but if we like discussing it, where's the harm? tchhmm

soontobe Mon 08-Dec-14 21:53:59

I think there is an elemand of pedantishness coming out here. I am off!

rosesarered Mon 08-Dec-14 21:53:14

Perhaps being 'old' or 'elderly' is a bit like death, as defined by Woody Allen
'I'm not afraid of dying, I just don't want to be there when it happens!'tchgrin

soontobe Mon 08-Dec-14 21:53:08

Not really grumpa.
How can middle age realistically be 43 - 47!

soontobe Mon 08-Dec-14 21:51:50

I am not prepared to hoodwink myself FlicketyB. I dont care a fig what others choose to do. I am answering kittylester's question.

grumppa Mon 08-Dec-14 21:51:03

On that basis soontobe, the middle can be any number of years centred on 45, assuming a life expectancy of 90.

But of course it doesn't matter. In the course of one day I can pass from feeling old to young to middle-aged to decrepit, and I usually do.

rosesarered Mon 08-Dec-14 21:50:56

Right you are Nfk 85 it is.

NfkDumpling Mon 08-Dec-14 21:47:20

85 is much better Rose. 75 is getting closer by the day.

merlotgran Mon 08-Dec-14 21:42:52

My 'baby' is 40 next week. Boo Hoo!!! sad

FlicketyB Mon 08-Dec-14 21:42:21

but why does it matter?

soontobe Mon 08-Dec-14 21:41:13

Because middle is middle.

But I dont care if you make new rules!

grumppa Mon 08-Dec-14 21:34:32

Why should the terms young, middle-aged and old cover equal spans of years, e.g. 0 - 30, 30 - 60, 60 - 90? Why not, say, 0 - 45, 45 - 75, 75 - infinity minus 1?

rosesarered Mon 08-Dec-14 21:30:36

No such thing Kitty tchgrin on here.

kittylester Mon 08-Dec-14 21:27:49

I hoped that I had started a light hearted thread! tchconfused

FlicketyB Mon 08-Dec-14 21:19:47

Absent I totally agree with you.

Could someone please explain why it matters what age you are or whether you are defined as old, young or middle aged.

rosesarered Mon 08-Dec-14 21:17:07

It has to start sometime Nfk Do you prefer 85? tchsmile

rosesarered Mon 08-Dec-14 21:15:21

tchgrin Ana

NfkDumpling Mon 08-Dec-14 21:09:28

So is 75 when elderly starts?