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Do you believe in the principle "Give me a child until he is seven and I will give you the man"?

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jinglbellsfrocks Sat 26-Apr-14 09:25:28

I don't.

I think by the time we reach adulthood - hopefully by around the age of thirty at the latest - we will have formed our own characters, beliefs, and rules for living, based on rational thought. This must surely be an on-going process throughout life, and would change as we come up against new experiences. If we have had less than ideal things happen to us early on, we would have thought them out and put them behind us, or perhaps learned how to learn from them. In other words, put them to good use.

Is it a cop-out to blame our parents and early teachers for the way we think and act now? I think it is.

petra Sat 26-Apr-14 20:41:38

I'm more a believer of nature/nurture. If my first 7 years were to set the tone for the rest of my life I would be a prime candidate for the Jeremy Vile show.
As it turned out, I took after my Fathers side of the family. They would be described as honest hard working people. My Father was the black sheep of the family.
Whereas my Brother and Sister were/are takers and con artists.

rosesarered Sat 26-Apr-14 20:50:09

Of course. We are genetically programmed to be as we are just as much as AKA 's goose.We can still be influenced by nurture though only to a degree.

nightowl Sat 26-Apr-14 22:16:54

On the other hand, it is possible to mess up a child so much by the age of seven (or less) that they carry the damage for life.

Ana Sat 26-Apr-14 22:33:56

Yes indeed, nightowl.

Aka Sat 26-Apr-14 22:50:25

Yes, agree very much about that Nightowl

Eloethan Sun 27-Apr-14 00:01:19

Although it is fairly evident that bad childhood experiences can have devastating consequences in terms of a person's emotional and intellectual and their social behaviour, I feel that a rigid interpretation of this view in effect denies that people can change.

Research has shown that the "labels" people are given are internalised and become part of them, so I feel that setting in stone this idea of "give me a child until he is 7 ......" , is dangerous because it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Eloethan Sun 27-Apr-14 00:04:24

emotional and intellectual development and their social behaviour.

papaoscar Sun 27-Apr-14 04:20:15

I was lucky enough to have a fine history teacher fifty-odd years ago who taught his subject well. One of his principles was the the child is the father of the man, another that history repeats itself, another that human nature has not changed over the ages. I think he was right.

Iam64 Sun 27-Apr-14 10:02:12

Nurture is important, nature plays its part and the individual has choices about what to make of the influences from parents/extended family/peer groups