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Goose Fri 31-Jan-14 05:50:33

Can't sleep - won't sleep - anyone else awake?

harrigran Wed 25-May-16 11:11:09

Well I did sleep, on and off until 8.20. On the days I have hospital appointments I get really tired as I miss my afternoon nap.
My sister is ten years younger than me and she has had a lot of health problems and operations but the latest problem is not related to her previous condition. I find it easier to cope with my own health, at least I get the full story from the doctors, but a family member often only tells part of the story so you are left worrying about them.

jogginggirl Wed 25-May-16 23:33:25

Oh dear? I'm fairly sure I posted on here last night - but apparently I fell asleep with the phone on my face - before - it seems - I pressed 'send'??
Anyway, I send good wishes to harrigran and ruby and all other night-owlers!
My mum is still in hospital - due for discharge tomorrow ... All that has now changed because - after 6 days they have now decided that there is no embolism and it is all down to her lung disease - she had TB as a younger woman. Never smoked. When the physios came to check her for discharge today - her breathing was still an issue so discharge has been postponed. After excellent emergency and assessment care - my mum is now in a small room on gynae (????) when in fact she should be in respiratory - no beds!
So, tomorrow I will be battling to get her a bed and monitoring on respiratory before anyone mentions discharge.

What is the point of discharging her after 6 days - when nothing has changed ...? ??

NanKate Fri 27-May-16 05:31:08

Morning All, Any of the early morning crowd about ? Don't know why I am wide awake an hour earlier than normal, anyway I have got a nice cuppa, my book and my IPad to hand.

Off to have my teeth scaled and polished this morning, I bet I will be dozing off in the reclining chair. smile

NanKate Fri 27-May-16 05:32:29

Forgot to ask Jogginggirl how things are for your mum ?

morethan2 Fri 27-May-16 06:14:08

Oh jogginggirl worrying and frustrating I hope you get it sorted soon. I've been awake fo about an hour now. Mostly I've sorted my sleep problem. If I go to bed before 11ish then I'll be awake at 3-4 if I hold out I can at least sleep till 5-6. Last night my husband forgot to silence the alarm, so it went off at 5.15 he's not at work today so he's laying next to me snoring and I'm here wanting to smother him with a pillow for waking me up. Friday is my nanna day so I've got my 4 year old coming! Joined by her 6 brother after school and staying the weekend. I just know I'm in for a rotten day. The pain under my right rib is back and I'm feeling tearful about my DiL. Mostly I've been controlling the emotion but somtimes it gets me. I hope your treatment is going wellharrigran life can be shitty hard at times it'd be better if I could just stop thinking

harrigran Fri 27-May-16 13:01:07

I think DH must be slipping something in my bedtime drink, I have been sleeping much longer lately.
When I finish this cycle of chemo on Tuesday I will be half way through smile All of my family are away on holiday and it is a little sad that I can't really have even a day away but that will come smile

wot Fri 27-May-16 13:04:16

You're very courageous and I admire you for that. Wishing all the best ? you're an inspiration to us all.

jogginggirl Fri 27-May-16 23:29:47

Just admiration for you harrigran - you are an inspiration ❤️ Your time for holidays will come ?
Thank you NanKate - I hope the scaling and and polishing went well - I bet your smile is dazzling morethan - I understand that 'pillow' feeling ... LOL I hope you have great fun with the 4 and 6 year olds - a whole weekend - a brave grandma indeed!! I'm sorry that I am not up to date with your DIL issues but I do hope your rib pain is reducing
Mum is now home and coping - with carers and extra help! I have concentrated on searching out VSH (very sheltered housing) for her today - I don't know whether I am getting anywhere ?
I think I now accept that my job is to find her somewhere safe and comfortable where she can be happy and secure - it's hard but I WILL find that place - she deserves it!

Sending sleepy vibes to all night owls...??????
moon

harrigran Fri 27-May-16 23:35:02

Still up and wide awake, I had a sleep on the settee just before dinner tonight which was probably not a good idea. I have also been watching a recording of how to get a council house and I think my blood pressure has just gone through the roof.
Good you have got your Mum home jogging, I hope everything works out.

morethan2 Sat 28-May-16 04:45:10

bugger,bugger*,*bugger I'll be exhausted by the time the grandchildren get up. It's the pain in my ribs that's woke me up. Then laying there makes my imagination run riot. Not good. So I'm goin to make a drink, try not to worry. Sorry about the swearing but somtimes nothing else will help. I hope Harrigran is having a better night. Thinking of you and your mum jogginggirl worry about somone we love is awful. My DiL has terminal cancer it's heartbreaking and the children are so young. With good palliative care and her dogged determination we're hoping for 3- 5 years, longer if I know her. But she's in so much pain thats why I have the children every weekend. Her pain has been a little better the last few days. I look at her and feel ashamed of moaning about my rib but it worries me that it'll get worse and I won't be able to help with the children. bugger, bugger, BUGGER ah that's better!

harrigran Sat 28-May-16 06:45:27

Been up since six am, pain in left hip makes lying difficult. At least I only have to worry about myself, sorry you are in pain too Morethan, hope break helps your daughter in law get on top of her pain.

boheminan Sun 29-May-16 01:28:33

Anyone else awake? I've set my alarm for silly-early (eg: 6.30am) as have Important Things To Do tomorrow. So now I can't sleep in case the alarm clock doesn't wake me hmmmoon

cornergran Sun 29-May-16 02:18:14

Just logged in as really, really fed up. I'm feeling sorry for myself, sore throat and 'Granflu' (much worse than all the other kinds!), sleep would help fix it - if I could. No time to be ill so quite cross as well, not that being cross is helping. Hope you've settled now, boheminan and will be energised for your tasks. Sometimes the body just doesn't cooperate. I'm going to try a brew and hope for sleep or I can predict a seriously grumpy Sunday ahead?

rubylady Sun 29-May-16 02:59:27

Hi everyone, still up here. Had a nap earlier but needed it so up now but got the itchy skin going on so will have to wait until that passes until I try again. Got iron tablets from doc on Thursday, taken them but wiped out really. My DS has left the building for a while. Hurt and frustrated that he walks away when I am in need of help, either emotional or practical so I am doing without him altogether for now. I need to recover from this anemia as I have very little energy. Breathlessness even worse. If he continues to be away after Tuesday, then I will get in touch with SS and see what help can be available. I do have a cleaner but to be honest, she creates more work than solves it.

I am so sorry to hear the news of everyone on here. We are going through some sh*t aren't we? Sorry, but we are. I am glad though that your mum is home jogging, I bet she feels better for it. She is very lucky to have a loving daughter like you.

I can't even have a brew as I have gone off tea so water it is, yeah! Xxx

cornergran Sun 29-May-16 03:32:22

Think iron tablets take a while to work ruby. Hope you can get some rest now. Don't be envious of the brew - it hasn't helped.☹️ Decided to just relax and wait the night out. You never know, it might trigger sleep. Take care, hope you get the help you need.

rubylady Sun 29-May-16 03:47:05

Thanks cornergran, I've just been so unwell now for a long time that I am losing patience with myself. My car hasn't moved again all week and my poor little doggie has only gone out in the garden because I can't get out. Never mind, she still loves me so that's ok.

Yes, you are right to just relax. To get worked up gets you nowhere and makes it worse. Can you put something on tele to watch and relax to?

I don't know what help is available but I will have to ring and find out. You take care too. Xxx

mumofmadboys Sun 29-May-16 07:08:05

Ruby, has your son still got A2 exams to do? What grades does he need for uni? Hope he is trying to work hard. Take care, Ruby and hope you feel better soon.

Alea Sun 29-May-16 07:16:46

rubylady the breathlessness and extreme fatigue you describe are CLASSIC symptoms of low haemoglobin. When your doctor gave you iron tablets did he do a blood test? If not, INSIST as you may need more than tablets -possibly a unit or two of blood or an iron infusion-to get you back on your feet. The itching may be a reaction to many things, drugs included, so you could try an anti-histamine and do not get the "non-drowsy" sort but regular Piriton at bedtime, because drowsy is what you want!
The itching could have other causes, so don't ignore it, but bear in mind, you have had blood loss, possibly connected to your cervical procedure/investigation or possibly the menopause and to just think of it as "anaemia" might be understating things. Good luck.

rubylady Sun 29-May-16 22:34:40

Thank you, you are wonderful. Alea, I have just taken an anti-histamine, only had non drowsy in but at least I had some in.Well, I've tried half for tonight, see how it goes.

I had a blood test done when I went into A & E last Sunday. The doctor there said I was anemic, gave me medication to slow the bleed but no iron tablets until I dragged myself to my own GP on Thursday. I expect it will take some time to bring the levels back up. I have been having heavy periods now for about two years or more. I went to see my last GP from my old address but they did nothing about it at all, even though I went back a few times.hmm

Watching the soap awards now so hope it doesn't leave me not able to sleep with all the drama! grin

How is everyone else doing tonight? flowers

harrigran Sun 29-May-16 22:42:36

Sorry to hear you are anaemic ruby, it will make you feel grotty.
I am still up, had a tummy ache day, don't know whether it is a bug or just my dodgy bowel protesting. I get terrible windy pains and I can't release the gas like ordinary people blush
DH made a smoked salmon and prawn salad tonight and I had that with Jersey royals. I am hoping a day without root vegetables or beans might help.
Hope you have a better night and get some rest.

rubylady Mon 30-May-16 01:38:35

Thanks harrigran, I hope your tummy settles down a bit. I have problems in that department too so I know how painful it can be. Why is it that we can't just have one problem to deal with? You do have enough on your plate without having a dodgy bowel too. smile Your husband sounds like a good 'un. I can't remember the last time someone cooked for me in the house. One day maybe.

Apparently the anaemia can cause the itchy skin too so I'll be glad when that goes away, along with the ringing in my ears and whooshing sound too. All a pain when trying to get to sleep. My doggie has been a diamond again though and is not leaving my side through all this, which is lovely. I did manage to get into the garden with her earlier so she enjoyed that until the sun made her little black fur too hot. Still, at least some vitamin D was absorbed. smile

morethan2 Mon 30-May-16 04:47:10

sad puff awake at this hour again. Sitting here trying not to get worked up about it then perhaps I'll go back to sleep. You know I used to be able to sleep for England. I never gave it a thought. Now it's a constant battle with myself. If I'm tired in the middle of the day I think "oh I better not nap or I won't sleep tonight" or no matter how tired I am " I better not sleep too early or I'll be up at 3 in the morning" when did somthing so lovely turn into the enemy? Hope your tummy gets better harrigran those gripping pains can be horrible and worse for you I imagine with all the other stuff goin on. I hope things get better for rubylady and all you other grans. My husband was having a little chat with my grandson last night, he just five and he said" you've got a lovely bedroom full of toys at home haven't you and a big garden with a Wendy house, a jacuzzi, a huge play chalet, swings, a den so why when we've got nothing like that do you want to come and stay here with us we haven't got any exciting stuff here for kids?" His lovely little face screwed up as he thought of an answer and the he gave us a big cheesy grin and shouted " I think it's because I love you" it's the small things isn't it. I shall hold on to that conversation when I'm feeling overwhelmed and miserable. Right then tea and bed.

NanKate Mon 30-May-16 07:16:43

Morning all. I too am a bit fragile this morning but I do not have the problems as badly as some of you, so I will be grateful for the sleep I got in between the waking and for my kind DH snoring quietly next to me.

I have to say my hot cuppa each morning helps to revive me.

Morethan the story of your grandson brought a tear to my eye how wonderful. Our 5 year old GS is particularly close to my DH and when he was about 3 he asked DH to take him for a poo. After the event DH was cleaning him up and sorting him out and that was the first time he said 'I do love you grandad'. DH was walking on air the rest of the day.

Another time our eldest GS asked me if I would take him to the public loos in a pub, we have a fun type relationship. As he sat there on the loo with the door open he said 'Will you teach me to whistle Nan' so there we were whistling, using the facilities and generally having a good time grin

Hugs and flowers to all the poorly girls today.

harrigran Mon 30-May-16 12:42:35

Tummy much improved this morning, whatever was troubling the gut has sorted itself. With a stoma I think the trouble may be grape skins, I only had a handful of grapes but could have been enough to upset him ( yes stomas are male ) grin

rubylady Mon 30-May-16 23:08:55

Oh my goodness harrigran you really do have a lot on, don't you? I didn't know you had a stoma, has he got a name? You are amazing to keep a sense of humour about it. I try myself but I've had a sense of humour failure today, just rest, food, tablets and sleep. It might do me some good but I don't feel I have achieved anything, apart from putting my naughty budgie in a seperate cage coz he was nipping the other one and now they are calling to each other. smile

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