Do you belong to any other forums?

You're very wise to keep away from that thread about the first snowfallin the Alps, anniebach. It's really contentious. Snow in the Alps in autumn! I ask you!

Don't be taken in by Thatjaneainsworth!

Ahoy, HQ! I need a Devil emoticon!

jane maybe I shouldn't have just said 'fear' but fear of being attacked. Sometimes, I would like to post on a contentious thread because I have something to say but, I don't like unnecessary confrontation, so I don't. I think Ariadne made that point.

It's a shame when people come on GN for a little down time and are just met with hassle, either directly or indirectly. My 'real' friends and I can either agree or agree to differ and remain friends but GN is much more confrontational than that.

Where's That Jingle with her sense of humour alert when you need her?

I only belong to GN. I too was persuaded my daughter to try GN to try and get to grips with using a computer, still quite hopeless but getting there, certainly a slow learner.

GN can be comforting, heart warming but in a flash infuriating and annoying. That's why I have stuck with it, it's what makes it interesting and gives me the reason to continue using my brain and feel I have the opportunity to say what I think. Now sadly for you lot that means talking to a captive audience. .

We are all strong minded at times and I love to see empathy is given out on a regular basis and this off-sets the odd thread that gets reduced to a bish bash of negativity.

We all find in life those we wish to be friends with, those we find we would not want to share time with but the art is to 'give as good as you get' and accept that if you do dish it out expect to have to take it on the chin in return.

Hello again POGS!

Well said, pogs, and hello again from me

Hi from me too POGS

Janesworth, I didn't think a thread on it would or could be contentious, good grief if on the weather then no hope for mankind, no, I just used that as an example of avoiding threads one just knew one could disagree with any positive comment. I am a person who had a panic attack watching Dr Zhivargo and so had to leave the cinema . I learned to laugh at my little problem years ago

I am not quite sure how anybody, however contentious they might wish to be, could find anything to disagree with in a simple statement of fact. I usually record the first snow of the year here in the Alps.

SHE'S GOT AN EFFING SNOW PHOBIA.

That is why she (sorry. Anniebach) decided to avoid the snow thread.

Wish to be Greatnan, I haven't read anyone stating they might wish to be contentious.

Do let me explain yes? If a group wish to chat about snow then why not, many love it, I made a lighthearted comment on my phobia, thought no more of it. Read the thread titles this morning, saw one on snow so ignored it. Later I brought it into a post as an example of how I choose what to read and what to ignore, that's it, end of, I could have chosen rats I suppose, creepy little things

If anyone loves rats then no offence meant and no wish to be or fear of being contentious

I can't put a smiley face so please accept I am mentally adding one

I didn't say she should not have avoided it, I merely wondered how anybody could find anything to actually disagree with in a statement of fact. No need to shout or use bad language, Jingle.

I am sticking to GN, I have been a bit of a lurker for a while, and I confess I don't read the threads that look as though they are descending into a slanging match. But I do feel that it would not be normal if we all agreed with each other and there are plenty of threads that are chat or good advice, humorous etc; there's something for everyone. I don't want to find another forum, most of the time I like this one.

If I don't want to talk about something, I just don't. End of.
I am going round in circles wondering why anniebach feels it necessary to talk about why she does not want to talk about something.

Not realy talk about gracesmum, just offering an explanation,

Anniebach, you said: Now if one was of the nature that wanted disagreements one would be into that thread looking for posts to disagree on, I have ignored it, why bother to read a thread one knows one will disagree with . Unless one wanted to seek out disagreements I suppose

I still don't understand how anybody could have possibly found something to disagree with in a statement of fact.

Ab was demonstrating how she would avoid threads which might turn out to be, for her, contentious.

Gottit?!

Any thread can turn contentious. Give this one another ten minutes.

!!!

And if not contentious, as such, at least upsetting. To Anniebach.

No, jingle, I don't get it. Nothing in the post could possibly be viewed as contentious.

I think it was only Jingle who saw a possibility of anything contentious and Ana who saw a possibility of it being upsetting. Anniebach just said that she avoided all mention of snow.

Day follows night and night follows day. Oh dear! I should not have said that. Some people are afraid of the dark, they might be upset at my mentioning night. Or zealous protectors of their peace of mind might attack me for being so insensitive in bringing night into the conversation!

That is such a distortion of what anniebach said.