Forum etiquette.

anagram, they had no reason to think such things, except their own desire to be unwelcoming. calling troll is a foul thing to do. following people from thread to thread to be unpleasant is unkind and unwelcoming. taking information posted in one thread and using against someone in another, specifically , suggesting the new member might have mental health issues (thus trying to undermine the points they made), i would maintain is disgraceful behaviour. byegones? possibly. but i'm talking three weeks here, the memory is still fresh!

greatnan, i am not in a position to correct spg, and have invited anagram and those who are confident in that area to correct mine. i do, however, reserve the right to draw attention to really nasty remarks made by some people - on another thread for example. my issue isn't spelling. my issue is the unkindness of the comment.

generally, one of the nastiest things about gransnet is the way people continue to snipe at each other, referring to past issues and so on.

i have probably mentioned before that on another forum, someone said 'if you want to know 'bitchy', try gransnet!' i can see what she meant.

but i'm old and i'm a gran and its still a public forum, so i'm still here!

granbunny I sense that you are smarting from a percieved unkindness that saddened you some time ago. Please will you permit us to try to make amends? Gransnet is most certainly anything but 'bitchy'...a great deal of genuine kindness is offered on this forum. There is more than enough to share between all of us

Crikey Moses!! this isn't the same Gransnet I enjoy. or, on second thoughts,

I haven't been a Gransnetter for very long and haven't posted often. When I joined I was certainly made welcome and haven't felt got at or excluded by any 'cliques'. I don't think it is bitchy here either although I have certainly seen some quite confrontational posts.

I suppose joining Gransnet is like joining any other kind of social group, you need to get to know people and need to get to know the tone of communication used in the group.

Whatever anyone thinks about Gransnet you could never say it is boring here could you.

kitty and Meercat and Uncle Tom Cobbly and all...and all...

What I want to know is...where's that bagitha when you need her?

Granbunny

It is a shame that someone has obviously upset you on here but there seem to be a lot of people wanting to be friendly and it really is not fair to tar everyone with the same brush.
It would be a shame to spoil what could be a friendly, funny enjoyable experience for everyone. I would like to be your online friend and it seems lots of others do too. I haven't seen the posts that have upset you and I am sure it must have been traumatic for you.

Like soop says there is more than enough kindness on here to go round. It is like love-- it never runs out

Bring it on !!!! I would put on all the symbols but am afraid I haven"t cracked that yet

I've refrained from posting about this, because I have found my feelings quite sensitised by it all, and have felt discomforted.

I had experience growing confidence in this forum, and posted pictures of myself and my grandchildren, but have decided to delete them. Somehow that has reinstated a kind of protection for me. Just needed to say that, really.

Nonu scroll down to Smileys. If you want to add a smile just type the word enclosed in the following brackets [] and you get a . Likewise with the rest. Good luck

That was my experience, too Butternut. It gets very unsettling to see allegations bandied about like this. I took a few days out recently, in the hope things would have settled down. I would rather keep a distance from this thread now.

Soop I suspect that our posts crossed!

I don't understand the point of joining a forum just to stir things up and have a go at people only to then say 'only joking' when challenged. Although I rarely get involved in 'spats', I find it quite unsettling when people are upset as I consider this forum, especially, is all about mutual support, lively debate and useful sharing of information. Oh and fashion advice, thank you all!!

I dislike people being pedantic about poor spelling or grammar because, as greatnan I think, pointed out the meaning is usually pretty clear anyway and things are often written in haste amongst doing other things (or even after a couple of !)

With apologies to my English teacher, the scary Miss Furness, for among a host of other things, both paragraphs starting with 'I'

And, finally, I love you all

kittylester When I was a little girl, we used to sing the following at the tops of our voices...

'Here we are again
Happy as can be
All good pals and jolly good company...
Never mind the weather
Never mind the rain -
As long as we're together
Whoops she goes again...

Soop I only joined GN to go to the parties.?

Oh dear can someone tell me what have I missed, dont think I have been anywhere so it must have gone straight over my head

I think Gransnet is made up of posters who all bring something different with them to the forums. On the whole I dont think anyone means to be disparaging of others, sometimes things do get a little heated but not I hope personal.

granbunny I am not sure which threads you refer to, but if I have been party to this thread and offence has been taken, I apologise.

I always welcome newcomers and hope I make them feel welcome.

I have been on Gransnet from Day 1 and I hope that we dont come across as said above 'be ruled by a handful of established posters' or 'cliquey'.

...and now I'm logging off so that I can enjoy a lovely large G&T and watch the sea lap the shore of sunny Kintyre. A fond adieu to you all.

glass before I go...a warm especially for you.
glamma the parties are a bit like us...on the wild side but good at heart.
Night night xx

Soop night night at your location xx

at your as well, soop! Have a lovely evening.

Butternut I'm so glad I saw you before you disappeared.

So am I!

butter don't disappear! I'd miss you terribly!

super thank you for that bright smile, and I am as in my mind I can see the scene you can see before you, enjoy your G&T and the gorgeous view.

butter where are you off too

*Granbunny

It is a shame that someone has obviously upset you on here but there seem to be a lot of people wanting to be friendly and it really is not fair to tar everyone with the same brush.*
absolutely true, nuttynana but as this is a thread about forum etiquette i think being nice to newbies should be included.

like, not reporting all their posts, even deeply innocuous ones?