Forum etiquette.

I'm still here, and thank you all - but I needed to 'go private' on my profile.

soop
no-one needs to 'make amends'. but thinking about the future, i do think a sticky somewhere about etiquette, preferably etiquette agreed by existing users, is a really good idea.
note, i am still here. it isn't just bloody-mindedness

kittylester - i certainly am not here to 'stir things up' and i don't recall having said 'only joking' about anything, ever, in my life. sometimes jokes do need explaining, particularly online.

glassortwo, many people took part but i did not log their names - thank you for caring! i can't help but recall three in particular; their forum names, general nastiness and comments are burned into my brain and will take time to remove.

this isn't about me and my experience though. i simply use it as an example. nuttynana and others have said how warmly they were received. perhaps that level of warmth could be extended to everyone.

Here is a copy of Gransnet netiquette:

www.gransnet.com/info/netiquette

I had to search a bit to find it - perhaps it should more easily accessible?

I think most things are covered.

I did say I would avoid this thread, but I have just trawled through the threads at the beginning of April and saw quite a few lovely warm welcomes extended to you granbunny. Perhaps if you check back it will remind you what they said at the time?

Granbunny You are as welcome on here as anyone else

Phewww butter thats ok then I have seen your photos so now its too late

I think we would benefit from the absence of private messaging. I think that makes for cliques/ganging up.

No offence meant to anyone at all.

nanachrissy- thank you. that's exactly what i expect, to be as welcome, or as unwelcome, as anyone else. incidentally, have you taken down your pics? when many people were being nasty i did go through all the pics (not just the nasty people - but i did want to recognise them if i ever saw them!)...you looked amazing!

carol - you take such a superior tone. is it really 'welcoming'?

I would never bother reporting any post, as I feel more than capable of dealing with them myself and I don't get upset easily.
I don't understand why you would want to remove your photos, Butternut, as can't see any way that anybody could use them inappropriately, but of course it is your decision.

jingl - some people were openly supportive and some pm'd. i was greatful for the pms then and for others since then.

grateful. i can spell that one, it was a typo.

Blimey granbunny you don't give a person a chance, do you?

Signing out till it's peaceful again

I can see your point about supportive private messages granbunny. I just think it would be better if people expressed their support openly on the forum.

if you're having a pop, carol, expect it right back.

it is amazingly welcome and appreciated when they do, jingl.

Oh,for heaven's sake. That's enough for me.

Hello, what is going on? I have not been on here for a coupleof days, and there seems to be a bit of an upset. All I can say is that I love Gransnet, and despite us not really knowing each other, and being a bunch of diverse people from all walks of life, there has been a remarkable lack of bitchiness and unpleasantness and we should strive to keep it that way. it is fine to disagree with each other sometimes,I think it would be odd if that never happened, but we must keep personal insults out of it, which I think we do. Let's keep our sense of perspective and sense of humour, which is the thing I value most on here..

And me - bored, now.

'Let's keep our sense of perspective and sense of humour,' - some of the jokes are really good - that's another reason to hang around

Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit. Some of you were I feel unkind to Ian42 about his belief in angels.

ninnynanny, i hope you do not think i am being sarcastic.

Hi greatnan - It's difficult to explain on here why I wanted to re-instate my privacy. It wasn't the photos in themselves, or the profile blurb, nor that I thought they could or would be used inappropriately, but rather a personal sense of needing to take a step back and reassess where I was with being on a forum. That all - just me being me I guess.

And that is fair enough Butternut.

Must say that ever since Management sold some very very personal comments on here about sexuality, which were published in the Press, I also feel that one has to be very careful on the Internet.

Butternut, I think I understand. Although we don't feel 'unsafe' by having our profile information available for those on gransnet who would like to see us and find out about us, we may suddenly feel 'exposed' or vulnerable.