How do gransetters define being "posh"?

I hate the word "posh". A colleague (or as I should now say, ex-colleague) who as I regard as socially accomplished, would often say that she was going to take her sons to stay in a posh "hotel". It really grated!

Tablecloths for every day. (cat now firmly amongst pigeons... )

Only for Christmas in our house, JessM.....

Plus laundered table napkins at every meal - including breakfast. Pigeons can now revolt!

Sending your laundry , sheets, aforementioned napkins and tablecloths out to be laundered.

As a child I thought it was someone who spoke 'proper' ie without a Yorkshire accent. I was also most impressed when I visited houses where they had books on shelves! Oh dear what a deprived childhood I had!

Going to India by boat, port side out, starboard side home! What else could it mean?

I suppose Posh is opposite to Common. Those who are not common are posh. Those who are common never use that word nor do those who are posh never say so. They don't have to. Simple isn't it?

Not having to wonder whether you are "posh" or not!

Just had a look at the mumsnet thread it is very funny, and there is a quiz! I scored 43% so not posh at all

Well, I'm not posh but we use cloth table napkins (but I suspect, if we are being posh they should be serviettes!) at every meal to save throwing away paper ones. We even have individual rings so we know whose it whose.

I once had a really pretentious friend who said that no-one who was really elegant ate chicken skin! Thank heavens I'm not elegant!

If you're posh you use 'u' language. My parents were very keen on 'u and non-u' language. By the way, 'napkin' is u and 'serviette' is non-u!! It was a distinction between upper and non-upper class language, popularised by Nancy Mitford, which sounds very old-fashioned today. By the way, 'napkin' is u and 'serviette' is non-u!! Goodness knows why! My granny who did come from a posh background always used 'seviette'.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/U_and_non-U_English

I understood that serviette was the correct term until Nancy Mitford interfered. My granny used to say serviette too.

Lavatory, not toilet!

Yes Jeni Port Out Starboard Home to avoid having the sun in your face on the journeys to and from the east - the ultimate in being 'U' . I can't use the word napkin - always think of Huggies and serviette is really a towel - anyway, I use kitchen roll unless someone POSH is coming for dinner in which case I use a square of Irish linen!! My Dad always said lavatory which made me shudder, but he was the ultimate posh person and wore a bowler hat (which once took off up the line at London Bridge and never fitted the same again!) and he sent his starched collars in a wee cardboard box to the laundry each week - how posh was that

When I was little posh people had loo roll instead of newspaper

Help needed here.
I have been told that napkin means cloth and serviette means paper in this country.
is this true?

Also , what then is a nappie? As in baby's wear.
Is that also a napkin?

A nappie is definitely something you put on a baby's bottom. Some people, trying to be 'posh' used to refer to them as 'napkins' but I haven't heard that one recently. I have never heard that serviette means paper, unless you mean a paper napkin/serviette; nor have I heard napkin used in the sense of cloth.

I suppose Johanna could mean (or it could have been imparted to her) that the term napkin/serviette means the same, but that the former is made of cloth and the latter of paper? I know it's not correct, but someone may have seen it that way....?

Sofa not settee

Posh = 'old money'. 'Nouveau riche' = pretentious?

Yes, anagram, that is what I meant.
A napkin is made of cloth and a serviette made of paper.
Interesting.

A propos P.O.S.H
Never ask a guest if he/she would like another drink..............
Always say: " Would you like the other half ?"
True or false?

Mind you, at our place the other half goes on forever!!!!!!

'would you like the other half' sounds a bit naff to me.

I have heard it said. Usually in a pub, referring to another half pint, when the person asked has already had one half.