Loss of brother

Silverfoxette75 deepest sympathys, for someone else who has lost an adult sibling.

I m so sorry for you snd mum but in answer to your question NO I definitely would not attend the wedding and I m sure they will understand You need to be quiet at home with your mum, my feelings anyway

Sorry for your loss a bit late to this one. I loss my brother a year ago. The last few weeks before he died we had a wedding to attend. We didn’t go and it never bothered me again. You do what feels right for you. No one will judge you we all handle things differently. What ever you decide, take care x

Sorry for your loss Readandcook. Do what you feel right and if that's being with your mother anyone would understand.

If you really don’t want to miss the service they may have an internet link for far flung family and friends. Every occasion we’ve been invited to since lockdown, weddings, funerals, graduation, have been organised like this for those who can’t travel or live too far away. It’s worth asking.

So sorry to hear this. I am sure it would be best if you stayed with your mum.

JaneJudge

I’m sorry about your brother losing a sibling is such a loss and to see your parent lose a child is heart breaking.

I was going to say it might be nice to attend the wedding and just have a break from it all, a change of scenery? Could one of your other siblings come and stay with Mum? BUT if your instincts are telling you otherwise you must do what you feel is right

Think I agree here.

Your nephew will understand, but you will not get this happy event back. ATM funerals seem to take ages.

Your mum must have known this was coming, even if the actual event is still a shock.

Give it a miss, be with your Ma.

My sincere condolences on your loss. Your post resonates so much with me. My younger brother died aged 59 almost 2 years ago from cancer after being ill for 2 years. My dad was 91 at the time and he passed away four months after my brother. I had been caring for him for the last year of his life.

I still miss my brother every day and there would have been no way I could have attended an occasion such as a wedding so close to losing him. My dad died a few days before new years eve and my partner thought we should go to my neighbours' house as usual on new years eve so I agreed. I had to leave after about an hour because I just couldn't copy with the small talk, even though I was with friends. I spoke to my other brother and my SIL the next day and they felt exactly the same as I had.

I think you have to go with your gut instinct. If you and/or you mom are feeling emotionally fragile, you should stay at home. I hope you make the decision that feels right for you. Best wishes.

I’m sorry for your loss, readandcook. I lost my younger brother in January. We were very close and there’s no way I’d have been able to go to a wedding if my mother had still been alive.

My brother had a life saving operation just recently because of blood clots. It was such a shock as it was out of the blue. He was told there was a 50/50 chance of survival only before the operation.

So very sorry for you hearing your brother has died. I am sure you have wonderful memories of him that you will have forever. A wedding is a joyous occasion not easy when you are grieving give it a miss xx