My sister died

No real advice Sazzy but you are in shock and confused and
I just wanted to send you a virtual hug
I hope you can visit you sister to say good bye

Oh I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm sure that your niece would love to have your support & hugs - just ring her my dear.
Sending you love and hugs too 😘

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister. xxx

I am sorry to hear this and send condolences.

Sending hugs.
Could you contact the undertaker directly to arrange to see your sister?

I’m sorry for your loss.

I had a complicated relationship with my sister before she died three years ago, but I still miss her and grieve for her.

Please call your niece and tell her how you feel; maybe tell her how sorry you are that you didn’t go to see your sister and that you really thought she would get better.

I am so sorry to hear you have lost your sister. That is hard to bear. I hope your neice will understand and help you to visit your sister so you can say goodbye. I'm sure she will appreciate how you are feeling.

sazzl I am sorry for your loss. As others have said, call your niece, it will help with how you're feeling. The next few days and weeks will be hard. Be kind to yourself.

OH Sazzi, my deepest sympathy. Call your niece, that is imperative, I am sure she will understand.

My sister died suddenly when I was in my mid-40s, I did exactly the things you are doing - and continued like that for 6 months, so your behaviour is perfectly normal. mentally I used to describe my brain being as if I was walking through treacle.

I’m so very sorry. I hope you will be able to talk to your niece and go to the Chapel of Rest to say goodbye. My sincere condolences. 💐

Just adding my kindest thoughts

Sending you condolences sazz1. You are in shock. We all deal with difficult events in our own way, but if you can, call your niece to explain that you would like to go to The Chapel of Rest to say goodbye. I’m sure you’re finding contacting her hard to do, and I’m guessing that you are feeling bad about not going to see your sister in the ICU. However, you were thinking she would pull through, and also, not everyone can cope with seeing loved ones in IC- we are all different. I’m sure that your niece will be pleased to hear from you, and will understand, but perhaps will feel hurt and bewildered if you don’t contact her.
Sending you a hug 💐.

We all react in different ways and no one should be judgemental on each others approach, I would certainly contact my niece be it letter, face to face or phone call and explain everything. Maybe your niece is mixed up about your feelings, and not forgetting the girl will be broken, lost and grief stricken too.

Thoughts with you.
💐

Condolences sazz1

Phone your niece and say you would like to go to the chapel of rest. So sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for you Sazzy.
You must feel really shocked and numb. Give yourself time to grieve. We all grieve in different ways. You're in my thoughts.

My heart felt condolences to you and all the family. As I don't have a sister I can't advise you as I only talk about things I experience. But your niece knows you loved your sister very much. 💐

Thank you everyone for the replies. My niece sent me a short text message with the date and time of the funeral but not where or which church. I think she's obviously still very upset about losing her mum so I'm going to ring her later this week.

Yes definitely ring her sazzl It is so hard for you all just now and she will have just forgotten to tell you where the funeral is. You know how it is when grief hits, you forget stuff and don’t sleep too well. Hope you can make your peace. 💐

sazzl hope you found more details of your sister's funeral. 💐

Have you rung her yet?
In your place I would be anxious about picking up the phone but you have to do it or you may regret it.
Good luck and hope it goes well. If it doesn’t then at least you will have done what you could and will have no need to reproach yourself.💐

My niece visited me last night and stayed for a few hours. We had a lovely long chat and I now know all the funeral arrangements. I think she just needed some time so didn't ring or call round earlier. Thanks to everyone who replied x

sazzl that's good news. You gave your niece the space she needed and she knows you are there for her. 💐

Thanks for the update, and glad to hear you’ve had a good chat with your niece and know about the arrangements. That must have settled your mind a bit. 💐