My beloved child

Dear Annie , remembering your child makes perfect sense to me - she was your baby, your little girl ...

Sometimes memories can be so very painful at the time of loss. I know I couldn't bring myself to look at photographs or purposefully try to recall things for a time after I lost my DD2, that just made the sense of loss all the more profound for a good few months. But you have a lifetime of memories that will come to you over time and be of comfort longer term.

Big hugs xxx

Dear annie, just to let you know that I'm thinking of you and wishing there was something I could do to ease your pain. I can remember when my much loved cousin died of cancer twelve years ago that this quotation ran though my brain:- '....Goodnight sweet Prince, and flights of angels sing thee to thy rest'. I found it strangely comforting and hope you might too.
Lots of angel hugs xxx

Annie I am sure that someone can arrange for you to be taken by whichever route you feel you can manage and I do hope you will be able to go to your beloved daughter's funeral with the support and love of others to help you through.
However, if you feel that you cannot then I am sure that everyone will understand.

Dear Annie, still with you. Xxxxx

I'm so sorry Annie - my words are inadequate but my thoughts are with you - take care xxx

Thank you all x

Think the bridge has been solved, no, not dismantling it !

The firm has a fleet of vans, a driver can collect me , I can hide away in the back , when in the town I can then get into the car , not dignified climbing out of a builders van is it? My girl would would certaintly find it so funny .

I’m so relieved annie, Dignity? What does that matter? Well done for finding a solution that works for you. X

Excellent!! ?

Sorry, and my priest will hear my confession the day before, poor man has been doing this for over forty years, it will help me with my feelings of anger with my family and those I believe failed her and my muddled feelings with my beautiful girl for leaving me , this is needed before going into the church .

Annie I think that is a great idea and I totally get why you are doing it. When someone dear to me had a dreadful accident I couldn't go along that stretch of road for a very long time,I had to keep going a different way but it really doesn't matter and yes your daughter would laugh at that so please don't worry.
I'm so pleased you will be able to have time with your priest for confession if this is what you need xx

Brilliant. All working out to you attending your beloved's final ceremony.

Meant final ceremony on this earth. God has wonderful wonderful welcoming ceremonies for all His children to come home to Him.

So glad you have found away around the bridge problem. Remember you daughter's last written words, "I love you mum" that doesn't sound as if you failed her Annie. As far as the wider family are concerned, families per se are complex, just because genes are shared it doesn't follow greater understanding and goodwill are automatic. You only have to look to the many threads on GN to know that's the case. I'm sure your priest and friend of 40 years will reassure you that you shouldn't blame yourself especially at a time like this when you need love and kindness. x

I want to say it is because of the encouragement here that caused me to find a way, I thank you x

Annue I’m so pleased to hear you’ve found a solution so you can be part of the beautiful service you’ve organised for your daughter.

Bless you Annie. Sounds like a happy solution.

Hi Annie, I wondered whether you would be able to "look the other way" and get over the bridge, but the van actually seems like a very good plan. Aren't people lovely? You really do need to be there to experience it all firsthand, and now you can be.

This thread definitely is GN at its best.

Really glad you've found a solution that suits you best Anniebach, and as you say, your daughter would appreciate your offbeat mode of transport! Thinking of how amused by it she would be, will make the journey easier for you. x

So glad you found a solution and that you will be there Annie

Annie you always manage to make me smile.
The lady has a plan
Well done you!

Wishing you a peaceful night.
God bless xxx

Dear Annie I can imagine your daughter's laughter at the thought of you hunkering down in the back of the van. I hope it's a big van 'cos we'll all be there with you x

ps perhaps best not to wear a very short skirt (think about climbing out of the van in a dignified way).

Annie I am so, so pleased that you have found a way to go to your daughter's funeral. I had been thinking how sad it was that you wouldn't be able to get there. It sounds as though the service in the cathedral will be a quite wonderful tribute to her and I truly hope you will find comfort in witnessing so many people coming together to pay their last respects to her... she was obviously very highly thought of by many. From what I have learnt of her from you (and the message she left you), I'm sure she would have dearly wanted her mum at the ceremony, so thank God for the van plan...

Oh annie, that's excellent, I'm so glad that a way has been found. xx

I knew someone would come up with something! People are always glad to help. x