My daughter's partner

Alie that's such awful news. Such a lot for you to bear, too. I'm glad you've got your sister with you now and that you're not alone.

Again, everyone, thanks for sympathy.

My sister was here for several hours, so glad she came.
I was upset when she had to go, but it's a long drive back.
I've had a couple of phone calls and texts from his family since, but not enough time to talk really.

I talked to the Oxford police and they seem sure it was suicide. I will have to do a statement next week....the worst I learned was that the inquest might take six months!

That length of time is not unusual Allie. My first OH was found dead in the flat he was living in. - the tests they carry out sometimes take months to mature - it was nine months before we had an inquest but we were able to hold the funeral - the Coroner gave us a special sort of temporary death certificate - you cannot get the proper one till after the inquest .

I'm so sorry.

If the toxicology - getting done now - is what they think,ie drugs, we may be able to do that.

I just had a visit from the neighbour over the road who keeps my key, he came after work to see why the police were at my door at 3.30 this morning! I never heard a thing, and glad I didn't.

Alie such dreadful news for you and Kieron's family. He must have been in a really bad place for the last 2 years. Although you knew some of how he was feeling I'm sure you didn't really expect this to happen. I can imagine it's brought all your own emotions to the surface again and hope all the virtual (((hugs))) from everybody here give you some comfort.

So glad all of you are here to talk to.

I really can't think what the police thought they were doing at 3.30 am. If I had answered, I would not have thought I could phone anyone at that time and I would not have slept again either!

Actually my neighbour was very sympathetic and we had quite a long chat, he had had a similar loss himself.

So sorry to hear your sad news I must admit I didn't know about your daughter my heart goes out to you . Take care of yourself glad your sister could give you some support ?

I'm sorry for your loss.

Saying goodnight for now, I find I'm very tired. Thanks all.

So sorry to read this Alie

I'll PM you. Xxx

I am so sorry you have had yet more tragic news , please when you lay in bed tonight and it is all going through you mind try and find some comfort in the thought that your daughter is now with the person she loved so much xx

Alie I am so sorry to hear that, after all your other stresses. Just sending you (((hugs)))

I just posted and it's not there. Try again.

I really appreciate all the messages.
I don't know much more than was in the Oxford Mail on the 18th (online).

I'm thinking this morning, it must have taken some courage to go out there where he wouldn't be found quickly. I'm sure that was the intention.

I will try and think of them being together....

I'm not religious, agnostic but I can hope, yes?

I am so sorry to read your news. It must have been such a shock for you, even though you knew he was struggling.

Alie I have no words, other than to send you my sincerest sympathy

Alie, I've just caught up with this awful news. You have had a sad couple of years and I wish there was something I could say other than that I feel for you and your grandchildren. I'm glad you had your sister even if only for a short time. Do you have anyone else you can talk to?

Alie I'm so sorry to hear this sad news.

Alie so sorry to read of this tragedy. If I remember correctly, he was looking after your grandchildren? I can only send condolences, and wish you strength.

How tragic for you on top of everything else..

Kieron was looking after two of my grandsons after my daughter died. Sadly he wasn't able to cope, and the 14-year-old went to an older brother, the baby to an auntie.
Both still there now.
They do see each other, but not enough. And I don't see either of them enough.

Alie I am so sorry that you have more sadness to bear.