Alcohol and the elderly

Absolutely not.
She has decided what is important to her and it isn’t living forever.
It is enjoying what time she has left.
I know of what I speak.

Its her business really and if she is very elderly she may well feel that it makes little difference and that if she enjoys it why shouldn't she drink it!

Leave her alone.

Cheers 🥂

She has probably decided to have some pleasure in her life. Her life, her business.

I had no alcohol for five years, afraid of what would happen, due to the large amount of medication I take. I was in hospital and my cardiologist told me not to be daft, I needed some pleasure (prognosis poor), a glass of wine wouldn't hurt.

Sounds like me- where's the Baileys?

How are you defining elderly, Pat37?
Just curious.

One glass of wine is not a problem to anyone, it’s the younger women that are drinking a bottle a day and more, that is a concern

Hahaha let’s all have a glass or two… cheers folks

Is the ‘very elderly one’ a close relative who is dependent on you for her welfare?

I am shocked that a very elderly one who lives alone has decided you only have one life

Why, how many do you reckon we have?

wine with dinner?
Whatever next!

I have decided to stop drinking wine, partly because of serious dieting. A bottle has 600 calories and it wasn’t doing me any good, in my opinion. Also, I didn’t like the way it made me feel.

I still intend to have a bottle of chilled lager in the garden in the summer whilst watching the sun go down. As people have said, life is too short to stop all pleasures!

My 99 year old mother-in-law has wine with her evening meal.
She has it most days and maybe once a week she might have a G&T before dinner.

She has checked her meds with her doctor and so long as she "doesn't overindulge" it's OK.

Don't forget, older people with circa 1940s/1950s wineglasses are basically drinking something like a port measure! The glasses are tiny.

She will also have a cointreau or something after dinner if in company but when alone I don't think she can be bothered as she sees it as a "social" thing.

My mother-in-law loves selecting wines and looks out for Waitrose's :25% off if you buy 6 bottles" offers!

I'd ask her if she'd like you to check her medication Pat37 and hopefully all will be well.
I expect she's using dainty little thimble-glasses like my lovely mother-in-law!

I can’t take this seriously ……’ a very elderly one’ 🤣🤣🤣

Shock Horror - clutching pearls!
I second the view that it’s her choice, her life. It hardly sounds like she’s on the path to alcoholism.
My DF used to have a can of Guinness with his lunch and a tot of whiskey in an evening most days of the week. He lived to be 96 with all his wits about him.
Why are you shocked Pat37 are you the Pinot Police?

My Aunt and Uncle moved into a beautiful care home a couple of years ago. It has a bar and they can have a wine or beer with lunch and dinner.
I sometimes go to visit and have lunch with them, I am always offered a wine - but don’t as I am driving.
A lady who lives in the home and has terminal cancer, her husband owned a vineyard in France and has her own wine shipped over.
I absolutely don’t see a problem with this.

Wine with her meal and a liqueur of an evening. Blimey what next, lap dancing!

Seriously, do you feel these excesses are clashing with her meds? Do you have any reason to worry about her safety? If not I would leave the "very elderly one" to enjoy her tipple.

Isummer that reminds me that the care home my aunt and uncle went into served a range of wines and beers with lunch.

My father lived to be 92. He lived on his own for the last 10 years after my mother died and he often had a glass of wine with his lunch and a sherry before lunch on Sunday.

Our 97 year old relative was told by the hospital to increase her water intake.

She only drinks sherry and vodka!

How I detest these collective terms ' the elderly' or ' the disabled' we are people first and foremost who may be older or have a disability.
Good luck to the older lady who is enjoying her tipple, life is too short not to enjoy yourself.

Shocking! I hope you’ve given her a good talking to and told her from now on it’s cocoa. Or maybe Horlicks, if she’s behaved herself and eaten her greens.

I'm doomed!!

Well said sodapop, that kind terminology is so demeaning, it’s one of my pet hates.

BlueBelle

I can’t take this seriously ……’ a very elderly one’ 🤣🤣🤣

That was my immediate reaction .

And being 'shocked' at wine with a meal and 'liquer' of an evening. 😂

I dare say some people are more easily shocked than others.

My late MIL lived in a very posh area of a seaside town. She was in her 60s then and most of the neighbours in her cul de sac were retired and a fair bit older than her.

She was aghast at the amount of empty bottles the bin men collected every week and the old couple opposite had a fabulous house and a brand new Jag and only used it once a week to drive down the hill to buy their bootful of booze for the week. She said she didn’t understand how they could drink so much. She had to eat her words when she got so drunk after a funeral that she fell right over the settee 🤣🤣🤣

I guess you get to a point when you don’t have much to live for and a drink or ten is all that’s left.