My Cousin has died

Thank you everyone x

lilliesmum so very sorry to hear about your cousin. I know this can be very sad my cousins have been closer to Me than my brothers or sisters, I feel for your loss but as a believer I believe your cousin is now in a happy place. Take care. Keep thinking of your happy memories

Ah sorry for you Lilliesmum. I too have masses of cousins so get where you are coming from. One of my parents was one of 11 the other one of 4. Needless to say there are first cousins who I’m on nodding terms with, and some I’d pass in the street without knowing. So I don’t think you should feel bad at all.
It’s impossible unless your parents families stuck together how could you expect to be close. I think you did your share caring about your own mum and dad, it was up to anyone else after that and not to pressure you. You mustn’t feel bad.

I'm sorry for your loss Lilliesmum79. For the reasons Monica pointed out, I also think you did the right thing in not going. Try not to be hard on yourself.

Sorry for your loss

Your cousin is in your thoughts and that is all that matters really. Funerals are for the living, not the one who has died. Sometimes you just can’t go to a funeral for many, many different reasons but particularly if you didn’t even know of it.

When family relationships are strained and conflicted, then a decision to go or not go to a funeral must be entirely personal and whatever decision you make it should be the one you feel most comfortable with.

I think in a case like this where you were neither informed of your cousins death nor told of the funeral. I think you did the right thing by not attending.

So sorry you’ve lost your cousin and sad memories of your past have been triggered. I think it’s quite understandable that you didn’t go to the funeral, you’re remembering her in your own way.

I should have said I didn't go to funeral and now I feel terrible because I didn't go