Should I interfere with son's relationship

I certainly wouldn’t want to get into anything deep, but I would probably tell him to buck his ideas up and spoil the girl a bit.
As I said, he would most likely ignore me, but he certainly wouldn’t take any offence.

I can disccuss anything with DS, but I have always chosen never to discuss his personal relationships. It has always struck me as an intimacy too far and a subject that should not be discussed between parent and child, unless brought up by the person, considered to need help - and even then, I would be very wary of encouraging them, possibly at a time when they are very upset, because they might talk about things that with retrospect they wished they hadn't. Better to direct them to a Counsellor.

I probably would, but we have the sort of relationship where we say things to each other without taking the slightest offence.
Obviously he wouldn’t take any notice of me, but it wouldn’t stop me trying.

You would be stepping into a minefield. It must be difficult for you, having seen his first marriage break up, but best to stay out of it.

He is a big boy now. Cut the apron strings and the umbilical cord and let him lead his life as he will. If he messes it up, then tough, he has to learn from the experience, or perhaps not.

Anything you do or say will only make a bad situation worse.

Stay so far out of it.

Your instincts are kind - but neither of them will thank you for interfering.

Stay out of it.

Don't say anything. Get to know her, be friendly, suggest a coffee together. Normal things to do to make someone welcome. Make yourself available and wait. |If she or he wants to talk they will.

But it is their relationship

Definitely leave them to it

Don’t say anything, he is 30 and he has to be responsible for his relationships. Please don’t make any suggestions to ‘help’ him.