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If adult children didn’t suggest meet ups as often as you’d like…

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Pumpkin82 Sat 19-Feb-22 10:34:26

Would you suggest them yourself?

I know of a few instances where grandparents complain they don’t see their GC enough, but they never initiate get togethers? My own DH recently said to his parents ‘you can always suggest something yourself you know’ when they complained similarly recently. Several weeks down the line we haven’t heard from them.

I’m fine with infrequent meet ups, and I leave it to DH to organise his side of the family now. A friend was discussing this recently though and it makes me wonder what holds grandparents back? Do they think it’s rude and inviting themselves to ask if you want to do something one weekend, or are they just not interested? Not being interested doesn’t match up with the complaints of not seeing GC enough which is what confuses me. I’d be interested to know if anyone has any insight/another perspective?

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Hetty58 Tue 01-Mar-22 06:48:31

Pumpkin82, I don't suggest meet-ups because I know how busy they all are. I'm quite happy to wait for an invitation and I don't complain about not seeing them very often.

I find the 'complainers' a bit pathetic really. Don't they have interesting, independent lives of their own? Do they think it's fair to guilt trip their children into seeing more of them? I want mine to visit when they want to, not out of some, misplaced, sense of duty. I have no need to do 'grandparenting' (whatever that is) at all.

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