Single again - struggling

I've had no problems with the solo life for the past twenty plus years. I'm fortunate to be healthy and have lots of interests as well as a very active social life. Not my first choice, admittedly, but that died with my husband.

SinglePringle I’m early 70s and been alone since DH died 3yrs ago. I too have a lovely family and trust me you can totally have a fulfilling happy life without a partner in it. I of course have days when I’m crushingly lonely but mostly I’m very happy pleasing myself in whatever I do. The house and every decision about it is mine to make my own now and I’m really happy with my life.
Enjoy your friends family and your doggie friend and appreciate all the love in your life.

Ah thank you ladies. I was actually ok before he turned up and swept me off my feet (should have recognised that as a bad sign). It just felt so nice walking along holding hands ?

I realised in my mid-60s that I don't want to be at someone's beck and call, that I like my independence. I so wish I'd realised in my mid-40s.

I have been on my own for so long now I really could not hack it with a man in the house again. I can do what I want when I want. Sure there are times when I think of happier days but I am enjoying my present life, without the restrictions!

I have been alone for over twenty years. I never ruled out meeting someone but it didn't happen and I doubt it will now. I don't yearn for what I don't have but enjoy what living alone brings me. Complete autonomy. I don't have to compromise on anything. I did my own painting and decorating and even tiled a kitchen. I was quietly happy at that. I think I might struggle with a partner now as I'm used to my own company. Living completely alone through the lockdown last year, has shown me I'm more resilient than I would have believed. I think you are hurting just now and feeling low. It will pass.

Ah thank you Grandmabatty, yes the hurt will pass and I’ll probably realise I had a lucky escape! I do love sleeping in my bed alone I must say.

I've been single for a very long time now...20 years [I'm 72]...and whilst it took some adjusting to I would now never want anyone affecting my freedom and decisions as to what I do and where I go, who I see and for how long etc.

I love my independence and my home. Lots of interests and usually busy every day. If I'm not I go for long walks. I see my family and have a good friend who I see at the weekends. We go out for days, for walks, eat out, go for coffee and cake, sightsee, scour garden centres or we work in either her or my garden, growing veg in hers.

Since being single I've done up 4 houses top to bottom, and now settled where I am. I read a lot, revive and paint furniture for people, do some woodwork etc.etc...Life's good. I have peace. I like my own company. I used to find compromising difficult sometimes. Now I'm doing what I want while I can do it.

I’ve been on my own about 25 years after three very difficult relationships I am reasonably content on my own Yes I miss a cuddle or support when I m upset or worried (not that I had that much support) I have had quite a few offers over the single years but not going to put myself through any more hurt
I have lots of friends and three very close ones I do lots of voluntary work, swim and have my allotment I really couldn’t go through the ups and downs of a relationship any more
The peace for me is worth too much

Oh gosh, thank you all for such positive stories of singleness! I think being in that relationship for a short time, being wined and dined and seemingly adored, made me think that being part of a couple was so much better. But the drama that accompanied it was draining and I was turning myself into a different person to try and please him (I’m very strong-headed and he didn’t like that so I started to act like a 1950s housewife). I know I can only truly be myself on my own and don’t need a man to lead a full and contented life.

You all sound wonderful; what lovely friends you’d make ?

I have been on my own for 2 years exactly this month and as much as I dislike it I could never have another man in my life there is no one out there who could live up to late darling man.

Hello again LucySnowe / MaggieTulliver, presumably decided to drop the chap who love bombed you, stole your keys and was going to spend Christmas Day with a striking younger woman and now back with another fairytale that people will think is genuine and spend time replying to you. Why don’t you contribute to other threads if you want some social interaction on here and write a novel in your spare time? I despise people who tell untruths about themselves and seek sympathy from others for fictitious scenarios.

I didn’t think I’d cope without a male partner , but I’m ok on my own ! Of course I’m a lot older than you .
It’s nice to get up when I want , stay home or venture out without asking anyone , and eat when and what I like

Charleygirl5

I have been on my own for so long now I really could not hack it with a man in the house again. I can do what I want when I want. Sure there are times when I think of happier days but I am enjoying my present life, without the restrictions!

Ditto!!

Well spotted Germanshepherdsmum

Oh heck. I nearly fell for this GMS.
You obviously spotted the pattern of behaviour.
Well done Miss Marple! ?

Aldom

Well spotted Germanshepherdsmum

Glad someone is smarter than me !

Oh goodness, wonder if this is on Mumsnet too like the last one.

With the ripe language? ???

I thought it sounded a familiar story. It's the door key lady. There are some really weird characters out there in Social Media Land. Not me obviously, I'm perfect in every way

Elementary my dear Aldom and Urms. I just hate to see people being conned. I know there are other wind-up posts, some we spot and some we don’t, and I was caught out at first with the Maggie Tulliver incarnation, we were all following the progress of the romance and keeping everything crossed until the drama of the lost keys which someone cleverly spotted she was running on MN too (with MN-suitable bad language). It’s rather like being scammed but without losing money.

Yeah, I had my suspicions too…

I should guessed ?

I’m being thick here, but is SinglePringle not genuine then? She’s also LucySnowe/*MaggieTulliver*? I was just about to post, but then read what everyone had said. How sad that someone has to resort to something like this for attention.