How do you cope?

Kate, you’ve shown such strength, kindness, compassion and empathy over the time I’ve ‘known’ you on gransnet
In answer to your question. I suspect most of us do as you do, real with shock, breathe, dist ourselves off and get on with it as best we can

for you Kate …….believe me, you will cope.

My family had to get used to their new normal

I had to stop comparing and thinking what it would have been if the event hadn't happened

I learned to appreciate what we have and never take anything for granted again.

Thank you everyone. You're all so lovely. Saying I have shown things like compassion and empathy brought a tear to my eye. I feel as though I am constantly on here with a tale of woe. I'm truly sorry for some of the things you are going through/have gone through.

How horrendous, you must feel almost impotent and not know what to do when.
I’m sure you’ll cope with the practicalities, and be there emotionally, but please give yourself some time and hopefully you have separate support. I wish you well going forward.

As you overcome each obstacle, you become stronger, and more confident.
Value and treasure the support from family and friends.
Don't be afraid to say what is getting you down.

Others will come forward to hold your hand and give you a hug.

For you Kate ?????

Your nephew is so lucky to have you. While you can't change the situation he really is lucky to have you, not everybody has a good family

You just do. Some days you feel angry, some days you think how unfair it is, some days you feel alone because who else gets what you are going through? But you just get up and put one foot in front of the other. And take naps. It helps. Really, I just say, do what you need to do. It's what I do every day too.

My dear brother used to say he worried himself sick about his stepdaughter but in the meantime she got sorted but he was still in a mess worrying.
I have remembered this many times with my own daughter and her antics.

Hello everyone. I just wanted to thank all of you who posted regarding my brother. Also the lovely person who pm'd me. (You know who you are). I've just heard that he is now home. Considering that he had a severe stroke and a heart attack an hour later, this is nothing short of miraculous. Thanks to all of you and to the wonderful NHS.

That is good news Kate.

So happy for you and your family, hope your brother makes a good recovery x

Don't dwell on negative bad things

Listen to happy music

Watch a Comedy

Wonderful news Kate. I’m so pleased. I hope he makes a good recovery. Thanks so much for coming back, I’ve been wondering how things were going. I can uncross everything now!

Thank you all. Thank you GSM. It's remarkable. The doctor told his son his dad is one tough cookie. I spoke to him tonight and he is just as he was before. He was laughing and joking. He has some problems with his right side but will receive ongoing physio. He's been through more in his life than most people can imagine and is so positive. I appreciate all the good wishes.