Advice please

Sounds as though the HV has got the problem !

Why did Child Services call you, Worriedgran? What did they want to talk about?

I feel sorry for you, and for your daughter.
It’s very lonely bringing up a child alone, and if the flat is untidy, it’s probably that she’s gotten low, and just can’t motivate herself.

You don’t say if she’s working at all, but if not, a day with a small child in an under furnished flat, and no garden, can seem like a lifetime

If there are genuine concerns, it’s best to address them, but she just sounds sad and lonely to me

Are you obliged to have health visitor visits now a days I remember only having about two visits after the baby was born Can she refuse visits or is it mandatory for some reason
Yes agree with others you being with her could avoid any perceived bullying
I m sure kids can live without carpets too
Are you sure there aren’t any deeper problems your daughter isn’t confiding in you

As I say the only thing is she is untidy and I think C is taking after her. She doesn't drink to excess, she only goes out once a week when we have GC, she doesn't take drugs and doesn't harm little one physically or mentally.

Crossed posts, Luckygirl.

Worriedgran24, would your daughter agree to you being with her at next Wednesday's appointment? It might give her a bit of confidence if you were there.

Would your DD agree to you being there for the next HV appointment? That way he HV would see that DD has support and you can get a proper grip on what the problem is. It would be surprising if HV had simply taken a dislike to your DD - she must have some genuine concerns.

Are there any things that you feel concern about in your DD's situation?