Mental health

I agree with Star Bird but do you have a good friend you could talk too it makes such a difference just talking about things.

Yes Searcher, definitely start a new thread because there may well be knowledge about this particular condition out there among the other grans. I understand that you are probably feeling very depressed about your condition and my heart goes out to you. It must be so very difficult for you to cope. It’s obvious you can’t continue to work full time in your condition until you are 66 or 67. I don’t have any advice to offer so please do start a new thread.

Sorry to hear of your worries Searcher60. I would suggest that you start your own thread with this issue, as it might get lost in the midst of this one

Hi. I have just hit 60 and suffer from hashimotos hypothyroidism. I have a demanding full time job but it gets harder to perform basic tasks due to pain and brain fog. I gave battled politely with my G.P for last 14 years but the blood results are always normal. I have raised two children on my own, achieved a law degree and looked after my mother when ill. I feel that all my efforts have come to naught and terrified of not surviving financially until retirement because I will not be able to worknuntil 66. I am a WASPI. I knew I was ill some time ago and made plans to retire. Now the posts have been moved again I am terrified.

notoveryet

Yes, please do tell your GP as Annie suggests. Sleep is so important when times are tough. Keep coming back on here, we are here to listen.

It is a nightmare, tell your GP all please, sleep gives our minds some rest. We are here for you, we can’t take away your pain but we know what living a nightmare is .

Come here as often as you wish , we will listen and we care x

Thank you for your concern. I'm putting one foot in front of the other and trying to stay strong. Various folk have suggested asking my gp for help as I'm not sleeping and I have a phone consultation booked for tomorrow. Granddaughter showing little sign of improvement, I'm living an absolute nightmare.

How are you notoveryet?

Notoveryet, I'm so sorry that you and your family are going through this terrible time. Please keep posting on this thread where you can find support. It's so difficult to know who to turn to in these difficult times but here on Gransnet you will find caring support.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband, it's a particularly difficult time for you to be dealing with your granddaughter's illness as well.
Sending caring thoughts.

notoveryet I am so very sorry, it is a very hard road , wish I could say it wasn’t.

How are you coping with your grief?

Just to update, granddaughter was discharged into the care of her mum, but last night crisis team had to be called in again. So the anguish continues along with mourning for my husband, I guess we'll get through this but it's a hard road and the support of gransnet is much appreciated.

notoveryet don't lose hope.

kathsue I am so sorry, my elder daughter was told ‘try relaxing with a glass of wine’ when she first asked for help.

notoveryet please hold the thought your granddaughter is in a safe place and being helped

megan . X

notoveryet My heart goes out to you, I know how hard it is for you to see your granddaughter in hospital. I remember the first time I went to see my daughter and walking down the corridor I felt as if the floor was moving underneath me.

It will get better, your granddaughter will be sedated at the moment, and what I tell myself repeatedly is that my daughter is safe, and you must tell yourself that too. Your granddaughter is in the right place, she will get treatment and you will see an improvement.

Sending you (((hugs))) Take care.

Saw granddaughter yesterday, my heart has broken a little more. I wish I had the faith that I know some of you have, I feel so very alone. I'm trying to stay strong for the rest of the family who have to concentrate on my granddaughter, I'm so grateful to be able to share some feelings here.

kathsue megan notoveryet my heart goes out to you all.
notoveryet I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. You must be reeling. What a terrible time for you.
And kathsue I know what you've gone through and empathise deeply. My son was 20

Thank you megan. If she had had a physical illness she would have had proper treatment and not been fobbed off with "teenage mood swings" and "pull yourself together".

kathsue just read your message about your beloved daughter, I am so very sorry. I understand what you say about the diagnosis, it takes years for this to happen, years when she could have been treated

notoveryet I had just this minute thought about you, and was coming on to say how sorry I am to hear about your loss and the added worry too of your granddaughter.

I am glad you are going to visit her today, underneath all of this, she is still your beloved granddaughter. Stay strong for her and look after yourself also, I know how very hard it is.

Take good care

I'm going to be allowed to see my granddaughter this afternoon. I understand the phone thing so well and found that switching it off didn't really bring respite because the worry stayed with me. The unit she is in keeps phones locked in a cupboard so they can monitor how they are being used. Please think of me, I'm still so emotional over the loss of my husband and desperately trying to stay strong for my granddaughter. It helps to be able to share feelings on gransnet.

Annie more phone calls. Relentlessly going over things that I have heard millions of times. In the other unit they did take the phone into the office during night time but she is in this new unit now. I feel I could switch the phone off, but like you say I fear if I do. I have sent you a PM.

megan another phone call? I so understand, the need to switch the phone off but the fear if you do, so the phone stays on and the calls can come any time, day or night, or text.

I can fully understand what you say Annie neither can I, its impossible. I just soldier on, have a dreadfully worrying night, and then feel exhausted myself. Then as happened yesterday, another phone call, just as bad as the last one, but about different issues, it never ends.

I never found it possible to exhaust my elder daughter when she was on a high, rosecarmel