If you could change one thing from the past...

We would have had our children sooner. However a miscarriage and my kidney failure for several years intervened.

Had to think about that one and really couldnt come up with anything.

To not be so shy. Shyness has held me back on many occasions in my life.

I would of taken more notice of the history of my family when my older relatives were alive especially my Dad I'm going to try and write a potted history of my life to leave behind.

Too many to list

Self confidence. I still haven't got any! I've realised over the years that most people are actually bull.....ers.

Not got pregnant at 16 and missed out on my further education- tried to remedy that by getting degrees later but its not the same- will forever regret that and never forgive myself for being so stupid.

Maybe not married just because I was pregnant but times were so different then.

Learn how not to worry as much and like you Tanith wish I had asked more about family history.

Nothing.

Not because there aren't things I could/should change but because here I am ....and I'm happy with my life .

And I wouldn't change that for the world.

So, the sum of my experiences got me here and changing my past might have changed my today .

Not split up with fiance when 19. Though of course who knows how it would have turned out?

Shyness/self confidence. It might not have changed what I did to get to the me of today, but I'd probably have enjoyed things more along the way.

To undo the fact that my ex-brother was ever born as he went on to steal a very large sum of money from our elderly parents.

I wouldn't know where to start.

I could wish that I had had more self confidence but, as n&g says, I probably wouldn't have what I have now and, despite the ups, downs, hiccups and minor irritations, I am very happy to be where and who I am now.

That D had never met her husband.
That my dad had met my children.

I almost put that too Nina but without the Idiot (who has recently excelled himself!) we wouldn't have the two children she had with him and she might not have met their lovely new 'daddy'.

If only I had never started taking NSAIDs.

I regret a lot of things ...
Not staying on at school and then going on to University
Marrying someone completely unsuitable at 19
Not standing up for myself
Not being adventurous and always going for the safe option .

I wouldn't know where to start either.

I would tell my Mum that she should listen to her instincts about her doubts about her 2nd husband.

Why annodomini?

I wish I'd handled my daughters estrangement better. All that angst and pain my other children witnessed. They've never forgiven her for my pain even though I have.
I wish I'd been kinder to my dad
Like gettingonabit I also wish that I'd realised that some people are bulls_______.
There's loads more I'd change. Too many to list really. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

Not cleaning up my muddy path this year - if I had I wouldn't have slipped on it and broken my arm! Apart from that, there are some things which, if they were changed, might have made my life easier, but they might have made it harder, so no point having regrets.