4 yr olds unkind behaviour

My kindly 11-year-old GS is a shining exception to that rule, TriciaF. Last week when I was staying there, I'd just trudged up hill to their house and GS took one look at me and said, 'You look a bit puffed, Granny, would you like me to make you a cup of tea?' I was so grateful! I don't have favourites among my GC, but he came close at that moment.

Lovely - there must be exceptions.

This has been most instructive. and helpful. I did avoid two bits of fairly vital info. He is a twin. He is DDs stepson. So there will be other stuff going on. I don't think for one minute the accident was an intentional event. It was the boy's reaction that shook DD. She is doing a brilliant job with them but anxious to do the right thing at all times. A perfectionist. I have told her child rearing is not an exact science! Instinct goes a long way.

You are giving your daughter great advice - I hope it all gradually sorts out.