It’s every time and I’m ready to say something!

Walk Away from it all like I have! Easier that way!

Agree!

But it’s not!

So he can eat it later!

I always enjoy Terribull's sense of humour.

Oh dear, me too, I always leave some food seems to me it’s in case anyone wants seconds. A habit from when there were more than two of us here.

I read recently words to the effect - if you want to know how much you love something or someone, imagine not having them. It keeps things in proportion. We can all get caught on something like this but I find it is really worth stepping back and looking at it again in this new light.

My mother in law always left a tiny amount of potato on her plate after a meal and said it was “for Mr Manners”

Primrose53

My late MIL used to come and stay with us. She used to dry up the dishes and leave them all along the worktops. Plates, cups, saucepans, cheese grater, Just everything!

Now that is possibly because she does not want to go into YOUR cupboards and invade your space. My grandma used to get cross if people put things in the "wrong place"

I would leave them there.

You'd miss the annoying things if you didn't have him any more.

sago I could have written this . My husband does the same . I have to wipe down the worktops and hang up the t- towels .Put the odd sauce bottle away and place the salt and pepper grinders back . He also cleans the bathroom beautifully but leaves the cleaning stuff on the window sill or on the side of the hand-wash basin or bath . I have to finish it . Why ? God only knows lol but I'm glad he helps , a friends husband won't even make a cup of tea .

Think yourself lucky he only leaves the odd thing behind! I do most of the cooking and he who doesn't cook (apart from making the odd salad or something simple like canned soup) does the washing up. Except that he's always too tired after dinner to wash up, so the dishes stand overnight. And then if he's out for a walk or something the next day, they stand there all day too! I used to give in and do it myself but not any more - I've even got a couple of extra pans so I can cook the next evening without the previous day's pans being washed! I think we're reverting to being students

By "too tired" I mean he'd rather slump on the sofa watching TV

I have learnt to always do the pots and pans washing up, I like to do them properly myself! I leave the dishwasher loading to him although I always empty it.

My husband has a complete inability to follow visual cues. I often order stationery for his workplace and leave it very obviously on the table for him to take. But if I’m not around to actually put this ream of paper or 5 rolls of sellotape in his hand, it will be left. Same with his packed lunch - which he makes himself! I’ve lost count of the number of times he’s had to drive back at lunchtime to get it. I do think this is a man thing. They just don’t seem to have that capacity to look around a room, see what’s in an odd place and act on it.

Primrose53

My late MIL used to come and stay with us. She used to dry up the dishes and leave them all along the worktops. Plates, cups, saucepans, cheese grater, Just everything!

If I stay with DS and his family I try to help but I know my son is particular about the way the dishwasher is stacked so I leave that to him. When it is done I put things away if I know where they go and tell him if I've left a few things behind as I don't want to put them in the wrong cupboards or drawers. It can be a bit of a minefield so I'm guessing she wanted to help but didn't know where things went.
Obviously with time I'm getting to know where most things go but I have been known to remove things from the dishwasher and add them to the hand washed items on the draining rack!

Sago If you always clear up after him, he will never realise a need to clear up. It happens by magic and there's a dishwasher fairy (you). I do think it's a man thing.

My son does most of the cooking. Whatever he used he just puts down. If he empties a packet, it's left where he used it. He produces the meal. I clear up after we've eaten.

When I cook, I clear up as I go. Things I've used go either in the dishwasher or there's a bowl of hot water, on the go, for things that can't go in (i.e. my inherited bone handled knives, good quality kitchen knives etc.)

I like to sit down to eat with a cleared up kitchen but it annoys my son if I clear up things he hasn't finished using. Cooking is a single minded activity for him and he simply doesn't notice the mess he makes. I'm grateful for his cooking so I don't moan.

Does he think you're a servant there to wait on him hand and foot? You have to stop enabling him

My husband picks up my coffee cup and clears it away ...half full of coffee ...

My husband cooks more than me which is lovely. Clearing the dishwasher though he often takes out the clean dishes and leaves them for me to put away. He’s lived in the house as long as I have and knows where things go. I just put it away and don’t say anything. It never bothers me.

Yes, my DH does all of this and will also go into bedroom to get something out of wardrobe or drawer and then leave them all open. I don’t say anything because on the rare occasions I have he gets into a huff🤷🏻‍♀️

He and other men in my acquaintance also ask me where things are in the kitchen of holiday houses tho why he thinks I know as we’ve both been there for the same amount of time

I am the guilty one in our kitchen. I start clearing up then get bored or distracted. OH comes home and finishes it off. I do some times make an effort to do it all but soon revert to normal

Sago

AuntieE

Don't ask us! We don't know. Ask you husbands why they do these daft and annoying things!

I don’t think you quite get the idea of this forum🥴

Oh yes, I do, but I am tired of all you women who either enjoy complaining about your husbands or seem to consider yourselves their servants.

You may not belong to either group, of course, and I am sorry if I have offended you, but there has been a spate of husband-bashing or men-bashing on Gransnet for the better part of the year, and it is not enjoyable reading.