Funeral party gatecrashers

How about the niece and her son etc. get sandwiches served at their places, whilst the invited guests enjoy the planned menu. If they comment on the arrangement, you can say that is what the niece wanted, twisting her words slightly. What a nerve she has, anyway.

Jannabell
Thinking of you x

The nerve of the woman
When DH died I put an announcement in the newspaper but did not put the date and time of the funeral. Attendance was by invitation but on the day my cousin wanted to know where all his workmates were. I did not arrange a wake, we just went home and had a cup of tea.
A month later DS received a letter from my SIL saying they were disgusted at the way they had been treated. Excuse me ? DH's family have yet to pick up the phone and offer their condolences.
Jannabell, tell the niece and entourage to take a hike.

Tell her the date has changed, go to your father's funeral on the planned day with close family, then brace yourself....

Ok. I wouldn't actually do this but how VERY, VERY dare she tell you to provide sandwiches. Rude beyond belief. I wouldn't want her or her scrounging son there. Unbe-sodding-lievable!

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How about the niece and her son etc. get sandwiches served at their places, whilst the invited guests enjoy the planned menu. If they comment on the arrangement, you can say that is what the niece wanted, twisting her words slightly. What a nerve she has, anyway.

Love this! Just splendidly dastardly! It's the obvious solution! x

Funerals, memorials, wedding, baptisms they all bring out the very best in families don't they. This is only a scattering of the ashes not the actual funeral, so do it privately with his closest family and don't show off by telling everyone that it is a fancy meal and therefore attract all and sundry who have never met the man.

It is simple.... Make the sandwiches for the gate crashers and cater for those invited.

Is she in the will at all? Maybe that's the only reason she would actually attend, to see if she receives anything!
I'd definitely stand your ground, Jannabel, he was YOUR DAD, and I'm sure he would have mentioned her much more if he thought himself to be that close to her!!

Did the celebration go as you wished with all the close family? What did you decide regarding your great niece?