Husband told secret I had asked him to keep. Worse still it was to the husband of my ‘enemy. ‘

Blimey you’re a harsh one beauregard so you ask if you’re being unreasonable and most people who answered told you yes you are so you have a hissy fit and call us trolls
If you ask a genuine question and get some genuine answers in response just because they are not not what you want to hear doesn’t make them wrong
I think you need to start looking at yourself and your own behaviour before you condemn others
or your husband

has OP changed user name ?

When did Baguette123 become Beauregard ?

Sorry wellbeck got that wrong or maybe predictive text did who knows Baguette123 not Beauregard apologies to baguette my words about the situation stay the same however

When people really believe that they have the moral high ground and seek support for their position it must come as a shock to discover there are other perspectives!

No idea maw

The OP asked him not to volunteer the information, she didn’t ask him to promise and he didn’t promise not to mention it.
It sounds as though you are ashamed of his ‘hobby’ as you call it and are more afraid of what other people think than to back him up.
So yes URBU.

I still don't really think Spiritual Healing is a hobby- but I'm not sure how I would describe it...

Not being allowed to talk about anything you're enthusiastic about is a bit sad.

I don't go in for Spiritual healing at all, find it bit creepy, so it would be unlikely for me to have a partner into that . He is your husband and you are ashamed of his interest, but to be told what you can or cannot do or say is very controlling, I cannot understand why he puts up with it. He should be able to talk freely, it's your problem if you are embarrassed.

Bagette, just close your eyes and think of something else.

It's not my cup of tea either @Sparkling but I agree with you, it's being embarassed about who and what he is, which is really sad. Maybe OP can work on accepting herself more because we can only love others as much as we are able to love ourselves.

I would if the OP would let her husband tell her what conversations she could or couldn't have and with whom!

In my book you are hardly supportative of your husband when you ask him not to mention something that means a lot to him.

It is surely up to him to decide what to tell his friends.

Given that you want no relationship with the cousin I think it's unreasonable to police his relationship with the husband.
If you are trying to protect him, I see that. I think you need to grit your teeth and accept this part of him even if it's awkward.
I hope that in time it will feel a bit better for it not being a secret.

With all that`s going on in this world,we could all do with some healing spiritual or otherwise.
Ans i really can`t see the problem tbh,it`s his thing soit`s up to him who he tells.

I can think of more bizarre things than Spiritual Healing, tbh. Let him get on with it and discuss it with whoever he likes. Where's the harm?