To be very annoyed at this ungrateful child?

When my children were four I was trying very hard to teach them to be honest and then along came “the good manners white lie” to put a spanner in the works. Fortunately they grasped the “Thank you for the present (no matter what)” lesson after a while but it is not simple at four years old. I have read a thread here from grans about unwanted presents and bearing some of the comments in mind perhaps a little more understanding of the truth versus white lie would be an idea. Sometimes even adults don’t get “it is the thought that counts” and a child so young might be given some leeway and hope that granny explained afterwards.

Well said, Feelingmyage55 Very good points.

I had a horrendous childhood.
I was also polite when given a gift.
There wasn't any excuse for bad manners in my day and there still isn't.

It would seem that in their day some Gran's on GN were practically perfect as children ?

Were of course the perfect parent
*In their day*?

And are now the perfect grandparent,
with delightful well mannered and well behaved grandchildren ?

That would be me then Cherrytree59

Iam64

I have followed (most) of the comments on here. What I can deduce is that all those who resort to calling this 'unknown' child a brat, spoilt etc have absolutely no idea about children with any type of problem. I readily admit I do not know whether this child in question is just plain rude, doesn't have any guidance.....but then.........neither do any of you!

Shame on you Grandparents....so quick to judge and refusing to listen to possible explanations.

I feel sorry for all of you. One day there may be a child who enters your life and you will suddenly realise just how judgemental you have been..........but for the Grace of God................

Bluegal
Yes. but for the grace of god....

Apologises God

Cherrytree
Absolutely perfect, not practically!!

Oops confused Jalima with Poppins. ?

OP
As mentioned much earlier on, why don't you talk to the grandma, say how hurt your GS was about the present issue and just dig a little bit more into what the issues are. You could mention how hurt you are for her when he is verbally abusive to her. It could be an unhappy home with no rules he understands or any of a hundred other issues.
But if it doesn't work for your GS then leave the contact be.

I wouldn’t want my grandson associating with a horrible child like that. His granny is obviously embarrassed about his behaviour and she’s laughing it off in an attempt to minimise it.

So at the grand old age of 4 this child is to be ostracised for his behaviour. He didn't stab anybody, he behaved in a way which is socially unacceptable as an adult but maybe that is because he is only 4. He'd certainly learn a lesson from that, one that says that old people are uncompromising whilst young children are to be excluded from nice company for the relatively small sin of not liking something they got for their birthday and having the honesty to say so. No turn the other cheek here or lead by example, just walk away from people if they make a mistake. That will make all the nice grandchildren nicer people!

Oops confused Jalima with Poppins

ps it's an easy mistake to make!

What an ungrateful little brat!
I'm afraid I wouldn't have been able to just accept that. I would have said well if it's not good enough for you we will give to another child who isnt so badly behaved as you!
And I would have said to the grandma..he may speak to you like this and you accept it but I dont have to. If a friendship is lost so be it, but it might just be the wake up call the child and the grandma needs.
God knows what his parents must be like!

Minicub there's no need for you to throw a tantrum just because the little boy did! Have a little compassion.
Also read what icanhandthemback said a few days ago. She put it much better than I can.