Gransnet makes me feel lonely

I think you were right first time Elrel!

Took the words out my mouth there, MissA !

Freudian slip?

Aargh - firearm?? I said 'forget' !!
Predictive texts strikes again!

Jamsidedown....It has all been said before....You are not alone! I joined GN in the last few months. I put my five eggs in here and there, but mostly read through things unless I feel I have something beneficial to say. Watching some threads I do see some fairly feisty replies! I am generally a fairly peaceful person and don't go looking for an argument! I have posted for advice and received fabulous support and advice. Maybe just be a bit selective with your posting! But def stay on and enjoy lurking!!

Jam - just keep going. I make loads of mistakes on games threads and sometimes think I've killed discussions. Most people will forgive and/or firearm.
I'm awed by the genuine and thoughtful support offered to posters who may desperately need it. Any minor practical query usually gets sensible suggestions even though their reliability may vary!
Sure you'll soon feel comfortable on here, just keep posting!

Its strange that people who feel a bit invisible are anything but. I remember (I think) a lot about the things they say, and wish they would post more..

And I must say I find the "delete reply" facility on Facebook very useful for when I have a senior moment - perhaps we could have that on here as well, just for a couple of minutes after we've posted those words of wisdom in completely the wrong place....

Oh, yes, I've done that as well. That's one time when you can just hope that you're right in thinking nobody reads your posts!

Of course maggie the other pitfall is typing out a post in answer to someone, and not realising you're not on the last page, and 100 other posts have appeared between the post you're replying to, and your own pearls of wisdom.
That happened to me on my second ever GN posting and my mistake was quickly and acidly brought to my notice

if I'm on the Politics thread, I usually heave a sigh of relief if I manage to make a point and escape without a mauling. Maggiemaybe

henetha I am sure that I have answered you sometimes - if I haven't I have probably been nodding sagely (sorry if you didn't see me).

Bluebelle I have set mine at 100 but I have done the same, seen a post, responded at the bottom of the page then realised later that I have seen another one I'd like to respond to so I may post a couple (or more) in a row.

I really must get out of the habit, but it's not easy to remember it all at my age , unless I keep cutting and pasting.

Surely we just read posts, tut or nod sagely and move on, after throwing in our own twopennorth occasionally if the spirit moves us. We've really no way at all of knowing how many people have actually read our posts, so how would you even know if you were being ignored? Unless I'd asked a particular question, I wouldn't expect a reply, and if I'm on the Politics thread, I usually heave a sigh of relief if I manage to make a point and escape without a mauling. If you start a new thread and nobody posts, it could just be that you've started it at a quiet time of day. I only tend to look at threads that have been posted on in the last hour, so probably miss a lot.

mollie, you can only post at the end of the thread. What folk are saying is that sometimes the end of the thread turns out to be the last post on the visible page, so that the comment after yours appears at the top of the next page and yours can be overlooked. Sorry, I know that explanation is as clear as mud, but I hope you get the gist!

Welcome to GN jamsidedown . I spend most days alone at work and don’t know what I would do without Gransnet for company. I don’t really have friends in the real world but can count many of the lovely Gransnet members as my “virtual friends” (and have met a few in real life now too), having shared sadness and happiness with them over the years.
Don’t be afraid to post on anything you fancy, we are all different and I’m sure you will always find someone around to chat with.

I am quite puzzled by this thread and surprised how many people are so analytical of the response to their every post and are affected by it.

I have never even thought about this subject until this thread. Like everyone else, some of my posts get no response, some get criticised in tones from mild to, as angry as anyone on GN ever gets. A lot get ignored, whether they are at the bottom of the page or not and quite often what I say is repeated by someone else further down the thread. But surely that is just part of normal life, online and off.

Apart from the OP, I immediately recognised the name of everyone who has posted on this thread and if I have, so will quite a lot of other GN members, so you cannot be that invisible.

I wonder if it reactions to GN are more tied in with our perceptions of ourselves than the actualities of what is happening on GN

Henetha, I've seen you post a lot and would think that I have replied to you (or to your post if not you by name).

We have no way of knowing how old you are (unless you've said and everyone has spotted it and remembered) but I am sure lots of us have felt old and boring at one time or another. I usually do when talking to our teenage step grandsons.

I didn’t know you could post anywhere but at the end of the thread! I know sometimes several get published around the same time as me but I just thought that was just timing.

I also agree henetha andjam I think I am generally ignore as my posts tend to be short and to the point.

I have my 'pages' set so there aren't any!! A thread just on and on and on!!!
Unfortunately, unless you're one of the older members on GN, you can't do this any more. I queried this with GNHQ quite a while ago - every time I hit the 'customise' button and tried to set number of posts per page to 1000, it always defaulted back to 100. Turns out they stopped allowing it - can't remember why now, some technical problem or other. So some people have 25 per page, others, like me, have 100 per page, and therefore references to 'bottom of the page' are confusing and inaccurate. Unless, of course, you use the mobile site and then it's one continuous list of posts. I agree with you kitty, I don't know why we need to have pages either.

I totally agree with you jamsidedown. I've been on here for years and have always felt like an outsider. I largely get ignored. I put it down to being very old and boring. At first it upset me dreadfully but I've got used to it now and just plod on regardless. I really enjoy GN in spite of it.

I have my 'pages' set so there aren't any!! A thread just on and on and on!!! I bookmark so I know where I stopped reading the last time. I get very confused when someone mentions a post at (eg) the bottom of page 3.

I don't know why we need to have 'pages' really.

Don't worry about your name jam I think it's quirky and memorable, but it's interesting how some names apparently give off a negative vibe to some posters. Mine could be if you are a very busy person, but I use it because I was so fed up on retirement after a demanding job, to be asked constantly if I would fill my time with "worthwhile" activities. "Daytime TV" was my tongue in cheek reply. Perhaps I should change it as am not that lazy, but am to lazy to.

Groucho Marx a good comparison. If it wasn't for the electrolysis I would have the moustache to go with it.

Because I have 100 posts on my page to read I never think of lower page changes so never considered I may have just posted at the end of a page Maybe that why like just mentioned I make a comment, two minutes later someone makes the same comment and gets named as the originator which makes it seems like the readers have bypassed you umm you live and learn
Interesting ! How many posts does the average person have on their page.