I play on-line Scrabble. If I request a random game and the player has put a rude word I don't play. Also if I am in the middle of a game and could play a rude word (which are totally acceptable) I don't play it , in case I offend someone. I lose rather than play a rude word! Any advice please.
Think I have told this story before, but my rather innocent mother was intrigued by words new to her. She never managed to use them appropriately, however. She discovered the word "w****r" and was rather taken with it as a derogatory term, using it freely. She was about 68 at the time.
In the end, I had to say something, and gently asked her not to use it. "But what does it actually mean then," she said.
Ever tried explaining masturbation to your mother??
My mother was a marriage guidance counsellor and a sex therapist, but not what you would call street wise. I once told her about a troublesome pupil who had gone on an army interview and in front of all the other applicants the sergeant had announced "We don't want this one, he's a wanker!" My mother's response? "How did he know?*
When someone is called a wanker it means they are a useless person, or stupid, or both. Sexual innuendo is often used in insults and name-calling. It is not meant to be interpreted literally, only rudely. It's used for effect. So ariadne's mother probably understood it quite well without knowing its derivation.
Thanks, FB, 'Married with Children' with the Bundys was a US comedy that I really enjoyed. I shall look it up on YouTube and hope to snatch a few moments if pleasure from many years ago. Another US favourite had Mary Tyler-Moore and an older English actress in it, was it 'Bewitched'? Then of course there was the Lucy Show, and Sergeant Bilko + Private Doberman, and the Dukes of Hazard, with the short fat Mayor in the white suit and big hat. What memories!