GNHQ here - please read

I totally agree. We may not all have the same opinion but there is no need to be unkind. Disagree but in a kind and considerate way. Always respect the other person's point of view.

Totally agree, Lara, thank you for raising it.

Some posters are particularly vulnerable at the moment and some are very good at concealing it, until someone takes a swipe at them.
Lockdown seems to have brought out the worst in others. It's very easy to be nasty, when you can hide behind the mask of an anonymous user name.
You can disagree, without being offensive or as you say Lara, mean spirited.

However, I must acknowledge the number of kind, caring and supportive posters on here. You are stars. Perhaps the nasties can try and emulate them!

It is the veiled attacks that I find most dispiriting.

Some are past masters at the practice.

It is such a shame.

Disagreement and good debate with considered replies is good but personal attacks simply pull the thread down.

Good post though lara

Thanks Lara

It would be nice to have debate without the nastiness.

I think you may be asking too much from some posters though...

Hope all will read it ( probably not) and inwardly digest, as they say.??

Thank you Lara

Pleased you have started this thread Lara thank you.

I wholeheartedly agree.
I haven’t had anything nasty directed at me recently but have seen it happen to others.
I must also say I have seen a number of GNs leaping to the defence of a poster who is receiving nasty, personal responses. So we know there are still plenty of lovely women here.

I stop reading the threads which turn nasty and I avoid the political threads for that reason. I am very interested in politics but am not interested in reading personal attacks directed at me or anyone else.

Well said Lara. Thank you.

Read and understood.

My mum always said ‘ if you can’t say anything nice say nothing at all’!
I know we can’t always agree but sometimes I’m pretty shocked at how unkind some posts are.

Thank you for the thread Lara hopefully it will be read by all.
There are some lovely supportive people on here but as with life some aren't!

I have read, and concur fully with the sentiments.
Thank you.

Good that this has come from GNHQ when 'netters' have raised the issue it hasn't been well received.

I dont think this is particular to GN , I think we have started to want to win an arguement rather than debate.

Thank you

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Thank you. As a new Gransetter I've been shocked at some of the responses.

Thanks Lara

Thanks Lara.

Thank you Lara. I have barely posted in the last few weeks in case my contributions take a turn in an unexpected/negative direction. Thankfully Mick’s lovely good morning thread and soop’s kitchen remain safe places. Credit to both Mick and Soop for gently ensuring and reiterating that they are kind threads. There is true in the old cliches

Agree to disagree

If you’ve nothing nice to say, say nothing

One bad apple spoils the bunch ( from the Old Testament - one bad influence ..... )

I don’t want to read bland opinions but dislike verbal aggression. There are many very interesting and kind people on here and I have been reminded of the importance of listening and in particular, learnt some apt phrases for offering comfort and consolation that I have been able to take into real life situations to express feelings. Thank you to all who listen, reply, offer reassurance and an alternative point of view in a positive way to help me see a different perspective.

Well said sat53

I try never to post anything that might be construed as hurtful or insulting. I never join in anything contentious (wimp that I am). I try to consider other people's feelings/ problems when posting. Many times I have started a thread and deleted it for fear of hurting or upsetting someone. I did it today when yet another 'lockdown hair' thread appeared. Having lost all my hair, I find all these threads upsetting but deleted my post for fear of making anyone who had posted feel bad.

I am pleased GNHQ has raised this. I know several GNs who no longer post, or visit, simply because they are afraid of the response from some, this stifles debate and results in posts just being from the same people agreeing with each other.

Thank you Lara.