Feeling upset and annoyed with niece

How selfish and ungrateful, not even a thank you! I would think twice about helping them again.

I wonder if they were worried that you might have sent the money to a different person in error, and wanted to warn you as soon as possible so that you could ask your bank to retrieve it.

Please speak directly to your niece on the phone . There have been scams where someone has hacked her Facebook account and sending out messages to obtain money.

You’ve just beat me to it Jaffacake2. I would speak to them on the phone and check this is genuine. It has the whiff of a scam.

I had exactly the same thought Jaffacake. Please speak to her and ask her to confirm her bank details to make sure your money has indeed gone to her and not a scammer.
Sometimes I think the old fashioned way of sending a cheque is safer than up to date Internet transactions.

Im so sorry. There is no excuse for being so rude about such a generous gift.

Oh dear, no good deed goes unpunished!

In defence of your niece, I agree that she may have been worried, and if tired may have sent a quick (aka 'terse' email) and capitals are for emphasising.

I wonder if she is feeling a bit awful, but doesn't know what to say? I know that on the odd (I hope rare) occasion that I have been less than polite, I have wondered about apologising, as it seems to drag something relatively minor out to be chewed over.

I have a mantra that has served me well, though you may not agree with it. I think that as a senior member of the family, it is my job to smooth things over, to make overtures and generally be a role model.
So I would ring her (or email / message if that seems better) and say something like.....what a shame that our wires got crossed. I had hoped to surprise you....you must have been worried about the money going astray, indeed I felt quite upset myself.....
If she has anything about her she will get the message and be contrite, if not actually apologetic, and may seize on the excuse to say that she was terse because she was worried.

If not, I would write it off to experience! My father was worried about one of my nieces when she went to work abroad, at age 20. He sent her enough money for a return plane ticket 'in case you need to come home quickly' (several hundred pounds). She never thanked him - I think she was a bit distracted & careless rather than actually ungrateful, but he remembered. When he got a windfall, all the other grandchildren got a nice sum (over £1k) but she didn't! He didn't publicise that, just gave them each the money on the QT - they would have simply assumed she got the same.

Such a kind gesture Semiruralgirl. No excuse for rudeness or bad manners, however distracted or busy we are, However, I would definitely speak to her directly to check that it isn’t a scam.

This sounds like a similar scam that a poster wrote about regarding her daughter, when she rang her daughter she realised it was a scam.

Please phone your Niece.

Please phone your Niece.

I would give her a call too, just to check everything is OK.

If the money did go to the right place, I'm so sorry they were so rude

In all this, seeing as this woman is your god daughter Semiruralgirl has either of you attempted an actual phone call? …Just wondering
J

Ring her asap!

As others have suggested, ring her to check......

Yes please ring her, it does definitely have similarities to a current scam.

Hopefully all will be well, but please check.

I hope it wasn’t a scam. It sounds like one!

Please check with your niece and speak to her it is a well known scam which has been going on for a while,please phone and speak to her asap.

Well, this does not sound like a scam to me.
After all, you sent the money by bank transfer to her account and have received confirmation that she has received it.

To my mind you have an ungrateful niece, but as I have two, I may be wronging your niece.

Give her a ring, just to be able to stop thinking about whether she has or has not received the money.

Don't expect thanks, you are obviously not likely to be thanked, and if I were you, I would have no intention of helping her out in money matters again. I actually doubt I would want to help in any way, after this kind of treatment.

Will the OP come back and let us know ?
Even if it was on Facebook , her account could have been hacked.

If it is all legitimate then the niece is very ungrateful and I hope the OP doesn’t help her again.

Perhaps I’m a bit ingenious but people seem to be crowd funding for just about anything these days. Some causes elicit sympathy but someone is ‘begging’ for help for cosmetic surgery leaves me cold

Goodness Me how selfish...you are a lovely person and I can completely understand why You are feeling upset ...dont help her again ..Sending You a hug ♡

I am speechless- but yes, check it is not a scam.

Nannina I'm with you on this. Most people struggle financially at times. I can't imagine asking family and friends, particularly through FB, for help. I hope it's not a scam.

PHONE HER NOW