Moody son-in-law

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There's not a lot you can say really

I have one of those , he is great when in the mood , very helpful , but we know to stay quiet and avoid when he is in a different mood . I am very fond of him

I wish I knew. My mum has one of those too, and I am her only daughter!

Hi 65clare, welcome if you are new!!

I have one - it's my older son ?

Ignore.

Ignore.

Telling them to cheer up will only make it worse.

Have they always be moody?
If so then it is probably part of their personality.

If it is a recent change in behaviour then could they have worries re job, money etc?
Could depression be a factor?

Sometimes its better to leave the person to come out of their bad mood without any cajoling.

Good luck

I have one of those in my extended family. I usually say "Are you in one of your moods again?" or, as my Irish neighbour used to say - Are you trowin' a moody? - and that seems to snap him out of it. Amazing.

I don't know what to do about mine either, he makes me feel like I'm intruding when I'm at their house. He never has much to say, although I try to have a conversation with him, it soon peters out.
I never take sides, never interfere in their life, I'm good with the two GC, I just give up trying to engage with him now and let him do his thing.
My daughter admits he's hard work and says he's shy but he has a high grade job so has to deal with people on a daily basis so maybe he just doesn't like me

I do feel for anyone who has to suffer somebody else’s moods. Children can learn that moodiness is just not acceptable and effort has to be made - it’s just the way it is, even if it’s tough. But a moody adult!! No! It’s selfish, but having said this, I absolutely don’t know what you can do about it apart from feel annoyed inside.

Try hard to ignore it. If you think he likes the fact that it upsets you, don't give him that satisfaction.

I hope he's otherwise good to your DD.

Maybe he thinks he has a moody MIL.

We had one of those. Then just before Christmas he walked out on his family and moved in with a new woman. I'm glad I'll never see him again.

I've got two SiLs, one is outgoing, chatty and friendly, the other hardly speaks to me although is not unfriendly. I ask him questions he answers but never asks anything about how we are etc. you can guess which one I would rather spend time with.

I've got one of those too! He can be civil sometimes but mostly he's constantly angry, shouty, moody and intimidating. D spends a lot of time rolling her eyes and say's he's not usually like that - so it must just be when I visit then?? Luckily, I only have to see him once a week or so but I do think it's ridiculous for me to have to tip-toe around him - he's supposed to be an adult!

Sorry can't think help.but did you know moodiness is a form of bullying behaviour.if you think about it actually sounds that's what happening..... when I worked in an office the moody girl depressed everyone else with her bad moods. So much so that we went to our boss to complain about her moody behaviour.she eventually stopped the moods.what a diffrrence to our workplace it made. We were much happier there.

My Irish friend always say when anyone in a mood, 'They have a humour on them!!'

I call it rudness and bad manners if you have guests no matter who they are.

I also have one of those my DH... not easy to live with...

I have a wonderful SiL who is always the same and brings out the best in my DD.

Allykat1946
Join the club! My tactic is to carry on with my life regardless. Why should I pander to his moods?

My SIL was moody. He could be delightful and charming, but could turn on me in seconds. He shouted at me in front of all the guests at my DH’s 70th. He was also controlling. I worried for my DD and the children. Eventually they split. He was arrested for something very unacceptable and subsequently banned from teaching. My advice is keep a close eye on his behaviour towards your DD and be supportive. You don’t know the reason, but it’s a big red flag. It might not be as extreme as my experience, but it’s not right.

When he visits next ask him “ do I have a pleasant (name) here today, or Kevin the teenager” ....

Crazy H I hsve one like that my son, tread on eggshells some days