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Mycatisahacker Wed 27-Mar-19 21:49:20

So picked him up at 7am we did breakfast at our local shopping centre then Park then garden play then swimming then persuaded him to have a nap.

Then leaky nappy then he pushed over another child at soft play then another leaky nappy and sick on the soft play area equipment so we left after alerting staff then he had a massive tantrum but I wrested him to the car then home.

Another leaky nappy which the dog helped sort confusedas I ran upstairs to get wipes and then both the dog and dgs anointed the carpet!!!

Grandson now asleep. Nanny now has a large glass of white smile

Love it. As in he’s at nursery tomorrow and after dropping him I can rest.

How did we do this daily? I had 4 and can’t imagine how I ever did it!!

grannyqueenie Wed 27-Mar-19 22:11:57

What a perfect day! I know what you mean, I had 5, I’ve no idea idea at all how I did it and sometimes find myself wondering if it really was me who did! I guess the answer is I was at least 37 -48 years younger then! I now spend every Wednesday running groups for parents/grandparents with babies/toddlers, I’m exhausted by 4pm but not half as tired as I imagine those superstar grannies attending the group do!! Sleep well mycat !

paddyann Wed 27-Mar-19 22:39:16

mine are all a bit older now the eldest almost 16 the youngest 8.Its my birthday on Friday and I warned them not to spend money on me.My Daughter and Son and their partners organised dinner this evening,the highlight was the gift from them all.They had got together and painted small self portraits on tiny 2" square canvasses and mounted them all on a piece of cork.With tags (in case I didn't recognise who was who) ,a very special extra was the painting of a tree in all four seasons that I've been asking my OH to take for me for years (photograph) this one is much better being the work of my 12 year old GD.I dont often get emotional but I've cried buckets . Worth far more than any expensive trinket they could have bought .They are fabulous children,but then I'm biased and blessed .

Jomarie Wed 27-Mar-19 22:48:10

Oh lucky you paddyann!
I feel bamboozled by one 2 year old (had three myself) and can only put it down to the age gap - you know what to do but haven't got the chutzpah to do it. That's my excuse anyway. Also you are not allowed nowadays to give a swipe to the nappy area after a number of "no's" are totally ignored. Now hiding behind the sofa ........

Bathsheba Wed 27-Mar-19 22:56:51

Is there space behind the sofa for me too Jomarie? grin

Jalima1108 Wed 27-Mar-19 22:59:02

grin

Is it time to change the brand of nappy? Or use larger ones wink

Enjoy your time with him, he sounds fun! They are at school before you know it.

MiniMoon Wed 27-Mar-19 23:03:49

I went to look after two boys 6 and 8 on Monday. 6 yr old was recovering from a committing big and slept on the sofa for most of the time. 8 yr old played with his Lego in his room, then came downstairs, said "Granny I feel sick", and threw up in the bucket provided for the little one, "just in case". I'm going away for the weekend, I hope I remain well, but I've warned my sister in case we can't make it.
The joys of being a Granny!

MiniMoon Wed 27-Mar-19 23:04:56

Commiting bug! What's that?

ginny Wed 27-Mar-19 23:27:27

Paddyann, what wonderful gifts. Your family sounds similar to mine, how very lucky we are.
Yes, we forget that we are a good bit older now than when ours were small. I had 3 girls and have 2 DGS . Never mind all this gender neutral / fluid. Boys are very different.

annodomini Thu 28-Mar-19 00:12:14

This makes me almost glad that I live 150 miles from my GC.

agnurse Thu 28-Mar-19 02:33:29

Not saying you're old, by any means, but remember two things.

1. You were younger when you had your children. Again, not saying you're old, but even people who have children in their 40s find they have less energy than those who have children in their 20s.

2. That was your normal at the time. You didn't know any different. You did what you had to do. This isn't typical for you anymore, so I'm sure it feels different.

It does sound as if overall your GS had a did a lot of fun things grin

stella1949 Thu 28-Mar-19 03:46:14

I agree with agnurse - when we had our kids, every day was like that so we just did it.

I'd also say that when we had little kids, we wouldn't have done all those things in one day . It would have been a special day to cram in all those entertaining activities. When mine were that age, we were at home most of the time, and a trip to the park was an adventure . So life was rather more leisurely !

Mycatisahacker Thu 28-Mar-19 07:12:37

Aw Paddyann how loveky.

Yep 55 isn’t 22 agnurse

jamilia Yep thinking bigger nappies!

He’s just woke up after going down at 7 last night and not a peep all night.

I wonder if he was as knackered as me! gringrin

DoraMarr Thu 28-Mar-19 07:32:38

This week I will have had one or other of my local grandchildren every day, and I feel shattered! My grandson, 18 months, has a virus, which is making this usually sunny- natured little boy cranky and clingy. Yes, I think it’s an age thing- I had four under fives, and I don’t remember being this tired, and I had all the housework, cooking, washing etc. These days when I have the grandchildren I don’t do anything except play with them ,and when they are asleep I read and have a cuppa. It’s the only way I can cope! Oh, and last night I was so tired I had muesli and a glass of wine for dinner.

Witzend Thu 28-Mar-19 09:53:13

My Gdcs are still only 2 and 3, just 15 months apart, and since Dd has to go away for work, sometimes for a week or more, we are called on to help out - son in law's own work commitments mean he can't be available every early morning, though in general he's brilliant at coping. They are mostly in nursery/pre-school but its the days when they aren't.

Much as we love them, it's often very tiring. I think it'd be different if dd had had her first when I was 57 instead of 67!

However it is easier now than a year or two ago when it was a case of two babies. They do play together now - usually quite nicely! - and don't need watching every minute.

What we've found brilliant lately is a session in the park playground - easy walking distance - followed by not-much-further, a very child friendly big Italian cafe - pizza and 'babycinos' plus lots of toys,

Younger Gds was nearly asleep when we arrived there last time, but perked up at once when he saw the toys - and then zonked for a nice long nap once we were home. And God then chilled on the sofa with a DVD. Peace!
We did all make some fairy cakes later, though.

I am very lucky in that dh is usually available to help out, specially with shoulder rides when out and one of them is getting tired and grumpy.

Witzend Thu 28-Mar-19 09:54:15

Gdd, not God!

GreenGran78 Thu 28-Mar-19 10:08:11

My UK GK are 17 and 20, so too old for such shenanigans. My Aussie GD is 2, and I would love to be able to look after her for a day. I also know that as an arthritic 79 year-old, it would probably kill me!

I look back to the days when I had 5 children, spread over 16 years, and also fostered and child-minded for a lot of that time. We had no car, so I walked over a mile each way, twice a day, for many years with - usually - a pram, and a toddler sitting on the pram-seat. My DH worked 'continental shifts', so meal times were all over the place, and so were babies' feeds. I did all the gardening and baked several times a week. The amount of housework and washing involved was enormous, yet I seemed to sail through it all.

In retrospect I think, "How on earth did you do it?" I suppose the answer is that I was a lot younger and fitter then, but I still look back on my then-self with awe and admiration!

I just wish that I had a fraction of that energy today!

GreenGran78 Thu 28-Mar-19 10:10:47

Witzend The thought of God chilling on the sofa with a DVD really made me giggle!

Kim19 Thu 28-Mar-19 10:21:33

Yep God sounded somewhat accurate/appropriate to me too. Lovely.

gilld69 Thu 28-Mar-19 10:33:44

My eldest has 3 dc and ive helped out until they started school and do the odd pick up and sleep over my middle dd is now married and getting ready to have kids im scared now ill be starting all over again ?

Mycatisahacker Thu 28-Mar-19 10:41:49

I know my youngest is only 19 as she was a later baby after older siblings and I know if she has kids at all she may well he 30 plus which makes me then late 60s and I know I won’t be able or really willing to help out as much as I did with my grandson in the early days!

It’s definitely harder as you get older.

I could happily chill with God and a glass

Lavazza1st Thu 28-Mar-19 10:46:52

In our 40's we realise we don't have the energy we did in our 20's...I'll never know how people cope who wait til they are in their mid fourties before becoming parents!!

It sounds like a lovely day to smile contentedly after and he will get older and less nappies in time. The early years are so precious!

EllanVannin Thu 28-Mar-19 11:00:25

Oh those joyous days of having the GC. I was never really free of them plus working and looking after a sick husband. Looking back over the years I don't know how I did it and remained sane. However, those days are long gone and being a GGranny of 7 I sit back and let my D take over her granny duties-------like one night a while back when 6 of them had a bug ! Lovely.

Coconut Thu 28-Mar-19 11:21:00

I think we just go on auto pilot when it’s our own ! I had 3 all under 5 and looking back it was hard work that was just worked thro methodically, and lots of walking to tire them all out eprsady for bedtime !

grandtanteJE65 Thu 28-Mar-19 11:49:24

Or dare I say it: time to start potty-training?

I know they say it should wait til children are three now, but honestly, with or without the hormone that controls bladder function, most of us managed very well long before we were three!

Is there room for me behind that sofa, too?