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Caz1902 Wed 19-Dec-18 15:50:31

I am unhappy about the support and help given to my grandson at school. He is actually being punished for not being able to write his name even tho that is part of his disability. Have I a right to complain? He is in Reception.

MissAdventure Wed 19-Dec-18 16:00:47

Not without his parents permission, I wouldn't have thought.
What do they think?

LullyDully Wed 19-Dec-18 16:03:09

Details? Doesn't sound like a very child centred school. I would leave the discussion between parents and teacher. Must say it sounds very unusual in reception.

Jalima1108 Wed 19-Dec-18 16:09:46

Yes, I would go in and threaten the teacher with the cane.

agnurse Wed 19-Dec-18 16:24:23

This is an issue for his parents to discuss with his teacher.

M0nica Wed 19-Dec-18 16:47:12

Caz1902 Are you bringing up your grandchild yourself? In that case you will have a right to try and get it sorted. If your DGS has a disability he should have an educational needs assessment and a special needs plan of some kind.

I am assuming you live in the UK. If you are from any other country, you will need to seek help from an Advice Service who can tell you what to do.

Either way, whether it is you or the child's parents, this needs to be taken up by the school and the necessary assessments requested.

annodomini Wed 19-Dec-18 17:03:35

Punished? What form does this 'punishment' take? How do they punish a reception class child?

Elegran Wed 19-Dec-18 17:49:19

I wouldn't think that many of the children in the reception class would have learnt to write their names by this point in the school year.

It is not gransnet posters you should be telling of your unhappiness, it is his teacher and/or headteacher. Your grandson's mother or father may have already taken this up with thgem.

Newmom101 Wed 19-Dec-18 18:26:51

Are you the child's guardian? I'm assuming not as you ask about 'grans rights'.

If not then the school should not talk to you unless you are one of the listed contacts for the child. If not then it would be a data breech.

If you are concerned you should talk to the child's parents, however if they aren't concerned and are supportive of the schools methods then there is nothing you can do.

Also, what is this punsihment? Is it extra time spent on practicing rather than free play (which many schools I know would do)? If so, then that is not a punishment, it is extra support for the child.

Jalima1108 Wed 19-Dec-18 22:33:25

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M0nica Thu 20-Dec-18 07:52:57

It would help if the OP could return to her thread and provide us with more background information. It is very difficult to offer help and advice, which we surely would, when we know so little.

Elegran Thu 20-Dec-18 12:10:29

Yes, Monica, it does need to be clearer.

How long has the boy been in the reception class? One term? A year? Is he usually a quick learner or a slower one?

What is his disability? There are many many kinds of disablement.

What do you mean by "punishment"? Extra practice? Standing in the naughty corner? The cane? Exclusion? Jail?

What do you expect as "support"? More one-to-one tuition? Extra lessons? More practice? Homework? Liaison with parents? Referral to a specialist?

What do his parents feel? Have they taken this up with the teacher, or with the head-teacher? Unless you have the care of the boy, they are the ones with the responsibility for that.

GillT57 Thu 20-Dec-18 12:37:38

Hmm. I don't think reception class children are 'punished'. Maybe the poster would like to give a few more details?

EllanVannin Thu 20-Dec-18 12:50:18

Teachers are understanding people and not the ogres that this poster displays. Stating a case via a meeting with the said teacher can maybe put them in the picture regarding any behavioural or other issues that a child could be experiencing.
I know this from experience as a GGmother to a school child.

Elrel Thu 20-Dec-18 13:01:36

OP - Can I gently remind you that the account of happenings at school brought home by a young child may not be 100% accurate?
You might want to encourage him to write his name in sand or flour on a tray (messy I know!) or with chalk, a paint brush or thick felt tips. The main thing is that he doesn't become stressed about writing but sees it as fun activity, drawing patterns and shapes and gradually becoming able to communicate in words.
My 3 year old granddaughter is very pleased if she spots a V as she knows that it starts her name.

Anja Thu 20-Dec-18 13:06:11

OP I see this is your first post. It would help if you replied and gave more information as the scenario to describe seems unlikely in the 21st century. Or have I misunderstood ? ?

Jalima1108 Thu 20-Dec-18 14:21:17

This does not happen in this day and age.

BlueBelle Thu 20-Dec-18 14:31:21

I think Caz is not returning

M0nica Thu 20-Dec-18 15:42:59

Could this be one of those posts?

Jalima1108 Thu 20-Dec-18 15:44:36

We're not allowed to say M0nica
(hence my deleted post)

GillT57 Thu 20-Dec-18 15:50:47

Well for what it's worth I think this is either (a) s case of school finishing early or (b) a spectacularly ill informed grandparent with no concept or experience of current procedures in reception class.

Mapleleaf Thu 20-Dec-18 16:06:48

Mmn...

Gonegirl Thu 20-Dec-18 16:32:07

I think, if you are ever the one doing the school run, there would be no harm in popping in to talk to the teacher.

Elegran Thu 20-Dec-18 16:49:55

I wonder whether the poster is in this country, or somewhere abroad with more draconian education policies?

Elrel Thu 20-Dec-18 17:18:06

Elegant - I wondered that too.