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I'm in tatters today

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grannyactivist Sun 11-Nov-18 12:34:46

Oh dear I seem to have misplaced my usual stoic calm. I've had some health problems recently and I think the sedation I had at the hospital earlier this week has left me feeling rather fragile. This whole time of Remembrance is always difficult, but I'm not normally undone by it and yet this year has been particularly hard. I haven't even felt able to join in with local events because I know I'll just cry the whole time. I avoided the big commemoration service in town on Friday and went alone to place my poppies afterwards. A poor lady saw my tears and asked if I was okay and I ended up sobbing as I explained that it would have been my daughter's wedding anniversary, but her husband was killed in Afghanistan. I think I ruined her day, but she was very kind.

And now I'm on tenterhooks waiting for my son to call with news of my lovely daughter-in-law who is two days short of her due date and had severe haemorrhaging in the night. She's now in hospital and labour has started, but I'm anxious rather than excited. We've picked up their dog and brought him home with us (he's very used to staying here) and although he is usually very calm and placid he is now nervously pacing and whining around the room; he's obviously picked up on everyone's anxiety. Having texted earlier fairly regularly my son has not sent or responded to a text for almost two hours now and I can't help but worry.

The Wonderful Man is throwing himself into doing jobs around the house, but I know that it's displacement activity because he's anxious. I've tried to keep busy, but now all I can do is watch my phone - and pray!

Buffybee Sun 11-Nov-18 12:40:59

Handhold for you grannyactivist!
Your Ddil is in the right place and will be having all the care of our wonderful Nhs!

winterwhite Sun 11-Nov-18 12:42:11

Oh, flowers {flowers] •©rannyactivist*. What a lot you have to content with at the moment, not least your own health problems. Be very kind to yourself, and I hope you hear good news of your daughter-in-law soon.

oldbatty Sun 11-Nov-18 12:42:55

I know this sounds daft but breathe. Inhale to a
count of for example 3 and exhale for 4.

It has a physiological reaction.

Izabella Sun 11-Nov-18 12:45:04

grannyactivist if you were not in tatters today it would be odd. You have sad memories and a current family crisis. I only hope all will be resolved for your DIL. virtual flowers and supportive thoughts to you.

Marydoll Sun 11-Nov-18 12:47:48

grannyactivist prayers and flowers

Anniebach Sun 11-Nov-18 12:49:49

Grannyactivist you may have made that kind lady thankful that you shared with her .

Such anxiety and being ill, could be the baby is on the way and your son is holding his wife’s hand . Your daughter in law is being cared for, you need to take care of you

I hold you all in my prayers x

Teetime Sun 11-Nov-18 12:55:41

I'm sorry grannyactivist and certainly hope this baby comes soon. I know what you mean about the Remembrance Day services we normally go to our church and the service in the Memorial Gardens but something going on in our family at the moment that is making us all a bit raw round the edges so we watched it on TV.

KatyK Sun 11-Nov-18 12:55:43

Oh ga that's an awful lot to deal with. Sending all good wishes.flowers

luluaugust Sun 11-Nov-18 13:03:00

granny just thinking of you and hoping you hear good news about the baby soon flowers

Luckygirl Sun 11-Nov-18 13:08:00

flowers - so much coming all together - I think stoic calm is too much to ask of yourself.

I hope that good news will come from the hospital soon.

merlotgran Sun 11-Nov-18 13:12:04

Hoping you soon have some reassuring news, ga

Doodle Sun 11-Nov-18 13:12:43

No wonder you are in a state. We would all be. It is an anxious time. Hopefully all will be well with your DIL and son.

kittylester Sun 11-Nov-18 13:18:20

(((hugs))) GA. I thought about you and your daughter last night. let us know when you have news!

dogsmother Sun 11-Nov-18 13:19:26

Big wraparound love from me xx

Grammaretto Sun 11-Nov-18 13:27:02

I'm glad you were able to share your fears.
I hope baby arrives safely.
We went through the same 3 years ago.
She is a lively 3 yr old now and her mum has completely recovered.
Sending loveflowers

Jane10 Sun 11-Nov-18 13:45:29

Soon you'll have the wonderful news about a little addition to your family to love and cherish and this horrible feeling will be over. I expect its all systems go at the hospital and texting is the last thing on your son's mind.
Please let us know how things go so we can rejoice along with you just as we are sharing your anxious time.

nanaK54 Sun 11-Nov-18 13:49:58

Sending kind thoughts to you and your family flowers

DanniRae Sun 11-Nov-18 13:50:48

Sending you my love and some flowers xx

Auntieflo Sun 11-Nov-18 13:57:29

Oh GA, so many prayers have been said today. I hold you and your family in my heart, and pray that all will be well.

GrannyGravy13 Sun 11-Nov-18 14:05:29

Sending you a virtual hug and ???ga

Jessity Sun 11-Nov-18 14:07:05

Love, hugs and prayers from me too. It’s such an emotional and desperately worrying time for you. Of course your stoicism has gone walkabout, not surprising. Try the deep breathing mentioned upthread, may seem trivial, it’s a yoga technique and may help. Take care of yourself please and we’ll hope for good news soon.

Brunette10 Sun 11-Nov-18 14:07:19

Grannyactivist hold on, you are obviously a very kind and caring person, don't feel bad for that. I'm sure everything will turn out fine soon with your DIL and you will be on cloud nine with your new addition to your family. Today I think we are feeling a bit tender, it's a day to remember, for good (for you) and not so good for what we are all remembering. flowers poppy

phoenix Sun 11-Nov-18 14:14:38

Sending you all every good wish flowers

Nonnie Sun 11-Nov-18 14:26:29

GA sending virtual hugs, hope it turns out OK, please let us know.