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I was worried but so proud of him.

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Solitaire Sun 01-Jul-18 18:29:23

I posted this on our local streetlife and got some lovely replies so thought I'd post it here too:

I'm so proud of my 14 year old grandson who last night intervened when a middle aged man was abusing an older man on the metro train.
My grandson accompanied the older man off the metro, realising he was quite drunk and twice prevented him from walking in front of traffic.
My grandson asked several passers by for help as he needed to get home and couldn't leave the man.
His phone had died and he couldn't ring me or answer me when I phoned him. No-one would help, they all just walked on.
My grandson is 6 feet tall and a rugby player, so perhaps people thought he was older and knew the man?
Finally 3 men and a woman stopped to help and took care of the man.

Wheniwasyourage Sun 01-Jul-18 18:31:33

Good for him. I'm not surprised you're proud of him!

Welshwife Sun 01-Jul-18 18:32:35

Good for him - a young man to be proud of.

Bluegal Sun 01-Jul-18 18:43:34

No wonder you are proud of your grandson but really it could have ended so differently... a 14 year old looking after a drunk? Not ideal really. This old man needs to realise he cannot go out and get so drunk for starters and do you know why the middle aged man was giving him a hard time? Was the older man abusive to start with? Just saying....

Thankfully all ended well. And yes, I would be proud that he had so much care and compassion about him....only sometimes it can backfire and I think that is why people are reluctant to get involved in the case of drunks tbh

sodapop Sun 01-Jul-18 19:00:52

You must be so proud of your caring grandson Solitaire what a great human being he has become, his parents should be proud as well.
Of course we see the dangers in that situation but we need people like him.

Luckygirl Sun 01-Jul-18 19:52:55

Good lad.

OldMeg Sun 01-Jul-18 20:53:04

What a lovely grandson you have Solitaire and that doesn’t come out of the blue but reflects the upbringing he has had ??

Iam64 Sun 01-Jul-18 20:53:26

Yes, a good lad. We all need to behave more like your grandson and avoid getting involved less.

Doodle Sun 01-Jul-18 23:36:10

How kind of him. No wonder you're proud. Glad he got home safely.

grannyactivist Sun 01-Jul-18 23:46:09

Solitaire I do understand that mixture of pride and the fear of 'what if's.....', but it's a kind think your grandson did and you're right to be proud.

Eloethan Sun 01-Jul-18 23:55:42

I think it was lovely behaviour. Yes, it could have been a bit risky (especially at such a young age) but if everybody weighed up what risks there might be in helping out in such situations and decided to do nothing it would be an even sadder world than it already is. Thankfully too, three adults eventually came to assist.

I'm not fond of the word "proud" but in this particular instance, I can think of no other word more fitting - like the OP, I would be proud too.

In the last few days Gransnetters have now mentioned three occasions on which young people have gone out of their way to help. Hopefully those who seem to have such a low opinion of the youth of today - often referring to them as selfish and self-centred - might adjust their ideas somewhat.

harrigran Mon 02-Jul-18 09:11:03

I think it would have been wise to call for help on the metro station after alighting from the train, staff could have alerted police or paramedics.

Auntieflo Mon 02-Jul-18 09:20:29

Well done lad. It's so nice to hear good things about the young people, instead of all the bad and nasty news. No wonder you are proud of him Solitaire.

Wheniwasyourage Mon 02-Jul-18 09:20:44

Yes, harrigran, you're probably right, but hindsight is a great thing! At least the young man was prepared to help, which so many people are not, and so good for him, I say again.

Katekeeprunning Mon 02-Jul-18 09:28:45

You must be immensely proud of your grandson. Please tell we all think he is amazing

CrazyGrandma2 Mon 02-Jul-18 09:31:05

Solitaire Lovely story.

I thought Streetlife had finished? In our area it was replaced by something called next-door which was nowhere near as good as Streetlife.

B9exchange Mon 02-Jul-18 09:44:26

Good for him, you are right to be proud, as his parents must be.

Yes, StreetLife was bought out by NextDoor, and you had to give your address which would be visible to all, you could only hide the number of your house, so a lot of us decided not to register.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Mon 02-Jul-18 09:51:11

It was good of him - a lot of us would have walked away rather than get involved.

Elrel Mon 02-Jul-18 10:07:16

OP - You must be so glad to have a GS who is prepared to step up instead of passing by on the other side, especially so young.

icanhandthemback Mon 02-Jul-18 10:10:58

Wow, what a star your DGS is, you have every right to be proud of him. The man may not have been drunk, he could have been diabetic and then your DGS may have saved his life. I don't think if he hasn't learned that he can't drink like that by his age, he is going to learn now or maybe the circumstances meant he didn't realise how much he was going to be affected; this hot weather has dire consequences for those not used to drinking.
I think many of the young are very caring. My son's age group are just starting out with learning about alcohol and many of them have come unstuck. My son disgraced himself last week and got himself into a real pickle. Talking to the other Mum's what really stood out was how the other kids look out for each other in these situations and get help when it is needed. Whilst we have made it really clear the consequences of making the same mistake again, it is good to know that, should he be so stupid, his friends will help him until he sobers up and we can remove all his privileges. grin

Lilyflower Mon 02-Jul-18 10:37:38

Well done to your grandson. My DD once saw a person collapse on the Tube and she took her across London going miles out of her own way to put this person on the train home. I was so very proud of her.

Brigidsdaughter Mon 02-Jul-18 10:51:54

What a decent human being your GS is. Enjoy the pride and respect x

Melanieeastanglia Mon 02-Jul-18 11:05:25

I think you should be very proud of your grandson. Yes, one does have to be careful in life but sometimes a little kindness and help can go a long way to making the wheels of life run smoothly.

annodomini Mon 02-Jul-18 11:31:21

What a caring young man your GS is. Mine is the same age -turned 14 yesterday. He and his sister are Army cadets and one evening, waiting for their dad to pick them up, they saw a fight going on at the bus stop among other cadets. He weighed in, stopped the fight and sat on the main aggressor until the bus arrived!
That generation is far better than sometimes assumed.

Solitaire Mon 02-Jul-18 11:34:05

Crazy Yes you're right that Streetlife has been replaced but I never remember the new name.
I'd thought about removing my details but kept forgetting to do it...perhaps I will now.
BTW my grandson has always lived with me and has seen me help others which is why I think he got involved. Not the best thing to do on reflection, he did think at first that the man was I'll, but after reading Icanhandthemback post ☺ I'm hoping that seeing the effects of being drunk could be a salutary lesson for him.?