Gransnet forums

Chat

Photos of DGC on social media

(83 Posts)
Antonia Mon 13-Feb-17 20:07:31

I read somewhere recently that putting photos of grandchildren / babies on social media could be a violation of their privacy and that they may well object when they are older. Obviously they aren't in any position to give their consent. Is this just PC gone too far? Personally, I love putting photos of my DGC on Facebook. Any opinions?

MissAdventure Mon 13-Feb-17 21:19:29

In my opinion, children can't consent. Whether they need to be able to, I'm not sure.
I don't remember consenting to have photos taken when I was a child.
For myself, personally, I don't care about other folks children or grandkids, and what they're up to.
I probably should take cover now! hmm

Ana Mon 13-Feb-17 21:28:08

I think as long as the photos you put on FB are only able to be seen by those chosen by you, i.e. family and friends, it's considered acceptable. My DD and all her friends do it.

I have heard of families falling out over grandparents putting up photos without checking with the parents first though.

grannypiper Mon 13-Feb-17 21:45:03

I remember a case in Austria a few years ago where a 16 year old girl took her parents to court for invasion of privacy.. I cant imagine many of todays children will happy for future employers to see photos of them sat on a potty.I cant understand why no-one respects their grandchilds privacy.It is a sad world.

Antonia Mon 13-Feb-17 21:47:02

I think this is an issue of our time. As a child I had photos taken of me but they were not shared with anyone as far as I know and the internet didn't exist then. I am really talking about the possibility of the children themselves objecting when they get older. I can just imagine the disgusted, "Granny, why on earth did you put that photo on!"

Ana Mon 13-Feb-17 21:51:16

There are plenty of photos of GC on this site, and Gransnet can be viewed by anyone, anywhere in the world. They don't have to be members.

I think people sometimes forget that.

Antonia Mon 13-Feb-17 21:52:40

grannypiper I can see your point, but as Ana said, if photos are only available to family and friends it should be OK. Also, as technology moves on so fast now, today's social media sites may not exist when our DGC are adults. I used to be a member of Friends Reunited and that one no longer exists. Happily, I downloaded photos that I wanted to keep before it expired.

Anya Mon 13-Feb-17 21:53:23

PC gone mad.

Anya Mon 13-Feb-17 21:58:00

Yes, everyone ought to check their privacy settings. There's also a code of practice re posting photos of your grandchildren. Firstly you need to know that as a general rule their parents don't mind and secondly you should tag their parents to let them know you are posting a photo of their child on your FB page.

As Ana said it's important these are only available to friends and family.

merlotgran Mon 13-Feb-17 22:06:59

Open websites like Gransnet can be viewed by anyone. It's not a good idea to put pictures of small children on a site like this.

NanaandGrampy Mon 13-Feb-17 22:46:10

I can understand your comment if we were talking about naked children Merlot but a picture of a fully clothed child baking or reading a book ?

That's a world gone mad if that's a problem .

merlotgran Mon 13-Feb-17 22:51:06

I don't suppose it's a problem if the parents give their consent but I still wouldn't do it. Even a picture of a baby in a bath makes me feel uneasy. You just don't know who is looking in.

Maybe the world has gone mad.

Antonia Mon 13-Feb-17 23:01:56

My point is that the children themselves may object in the future. There are several of my FB friends who delightedly post the scanned photos of their child in the womb. I can imagine that the future adult could object to these photos of themselves, shared on social media before they were even born.

Anya Tue 14-Feb-17 07:45:36

Can't live our lives wondering 'what if' Antonia and if some over-sensitive little moppets object in the future then tough!

Rinouchka Tue 14-Feb-17 08:20:46

In answer to the op, I do not see a problem with a grandparent posting photos of babies and young children on FB, providing all the measures described by Ana & Anya are taken and parental permission given. Caution and control are the bywords.

When our first Gc were babies, I posted quite a few for my FB friends abroad but with GC3,4,5, I am much more frugal with my photos, attaching them on private messages often instead of Fb.

I can see that photos posted on GN have a wider, less selective audience and , therefore, posting identifiable images would not be wise.

Iam64 Tue 14-Feb-17 08:29:21

My family do share photographs of children, with the privacy suggestions here adhered to. We have friends whose adult children don't want their own photographs, or those of their children shared on Facebook or other similar sites. I don't know anyone who'd post a photograph of a child on a potty or in the bath on Facebook. There is much greater awareness, thankfully, that there is a danger such images could be miss used.
I've heard of photographs being cropped so indecent images can be shared by those with that kind of desire. As our Facebook pages can be hacked, its something to be aware of. It's a great pity that the internet has made it so much easier for images of child abuse to be shared. Sorry to introduce such a horrible topic but I suspect its at the heart of a lot of parents decision not to post photographs.

lionpops Tue 14-Feb-17 09:14:34

My family have switched to posting them on messenger. Private and secure.

IngeJones Tue 14-Feb-17 09:16:00

I share the occasional one, friends only, and with the parents' consent per photo. I choose the ones where the child is in a dignified pose that they are unlikely to be embarrassed by later.

Pamaga Tue 14-Feb-17 09:19:56

I always check with my daughter before putting photos/videos of my grandson on social media. I love seeing photos of friends' children/grandchildren on there. I don't think any of them have ever posted any pics that would embarrass their children in future. Why would you?

mischief Tue 14-Feb-17 09:21:23

I have firm instructions from my daughter NOT to put my gch's photos on the Internet without her permission. I think part of the problem is that then Friends could copy and send them to a wider audience and you don't know where they will end up and you lose control of the photos.

Judthepud2 Tue 14-Feb-17 09:23:57

SiL1 is very strict about this. We are not allowed to post photos of his children on any social media sites. I'm not on FB but you will see that although I have photos of my dog, none of my 6 grandchildren.

WendyBT Tue 14-Feb-17 09:25:06

We have never put any photos or indeed news about our granddaughter on social media.

Redpaws Tue 14-Feb-17 09:25:42

The problem is that any photos that are posted on Facebook become the rights of Facebook under their terms and conditions. Also no photo on Facebook is limited to certain people as friends of friends of friends etc can see it! My code is if it is a photo I'm happy to show anywhere then I will post it, if it's something that could cause the child to be embarrassed about( however funny now) later, then I won't!!

grannytotwins Tue 14-Feb-17 09:26:05

My precious twinnies are five today, having arrived a scary two months early. I'll be posting birthday photos and my DD won't object at all. My settings are friends only though. I suppose that it depends on whether your children are happy for you to do it. All of mine are happy to see my pics of the GC on social media.

Auntieflo Tue 14-Feb-17 09:28:45

I do not have a Facebook site, but DH does. It is lovely to see photos of family children, that perhaps I would otherwise not have seen. But, here is my dilemma, as I said, I love to catch up on photos, but when DH posted a photo of me and him , I got very upset and quite angry in fact. I asked him to take it down, which he did. I didn't want my picture for all and sundry to see, although he said it was for friends and family only. But, he hadn't asked me if I minded. I still don't know why I got so uppity, silly perhaps in hindsight, but stand by my request to have it removed. Was I unreasonable? I hope not.