Losing it

No apologies needed Luckygirl, it's hardly surprising that you reacted the way you did. I hope your DH realises and changes things back.

Lucky. I for one think you are amazing

I don't blame you Lucky I can bend down, but would refuse to go through a rigmarole like that to get the tv working!
I hope he puts it all back for you today, and that your hip won't show any signs of infection when you have a scan next week.What a stressful time for you.?

Oh so sorry luckygirl you feel horrible afterwards don't you when you have a meltdown. I hope things have settled a bit this morning and good luck with the hip.

Totally understandable, Luckygirl.
Can you explain to your DH that you just can't "do" electronics and that you need a simple point-the-remote-and-it-works situation.
You have such a lot to deal with, you need to have relaxation time too.

?xx

Sometimes, a meltdown is just what's needed! It can help others see that you're human, and it can release your stress. Don't feel bad - accept it, you're doing a great job!

Oh poor you Lucky! No wonder you lost it as I am sure we all would. Hope he puts it back today.

Buy an iPad and install an app for Iplayer etc. Keep the iPad with you at all times so it's not tampered with. And kick the tv hard as you go past. It might reset everything. Seriously I feel for you. You are having a bad time and need some tlc.

I hope things are a bit better today. It's understandable to have a melt down when you're under stress. A natural way for the body to find release.

On a practical note, if you have a tablet or laptop, perhaps you could download the tv apps and watch on your device, with headphones?

I often do this if DH wants to read and we both want to sit in the same room. It's great for catching up, as well.

Cross post Stansgran!

You have my sympathy Luckygirl, I am unable to do anything other than just turn the TV on. Recorders in our house are numbered and remotes numbered to match, to access a recording you have to change settings on the TV remote and then on the relevant recorder remote. I sometimes retreat to the study and watch iplayer on my laptop it is so much easier.
DH has also taken over downloads and updates on computer and makes it so complicated that only he can do it.
I yearn for a bygone age when I could just press a button or turn a knob and watch the TV.

What a shame Luckygirl. On the plus side your DH must have had a sharp wake up call when he saw what his handiwork had led to. Its incomprehensible how having to go through all that palaver to watch TV is somehow an improvement or worth doing. Hope you can enjoy a lovely pm catching up on missed TV programmes.

Luckygirl it's often the small things that are the last straw, sounds like you are coping admirably with everything so don't stress about it. Downloading the TV apps sounds like a good idea.
You are entitled to let off steam now and again it's only human to do so.

Oh, good morning Luckygirl I do hope you are feeling better now, surprising what a good blow up can do for the system. My other half has the beginnings of Parkinson, and finds the controls for the t.v. difficult - that is apart from his poor eyesight, and I often miss the beginning of a programme because he insists on taking charge of the control button, and misses it and we are watching something else, or it takes him ages to find the programme we have recorded. I now do a guided tour! Your other half must be very clever and frustrating in a different way. Perhaps in the light of a new day things will not seem so bad.

Sometimes a 'meltdown' is just what is needed. You are clearly doing an amazing job of caring for your DH on a daily basis. Turning on the TV and watching a programme is not a lot to ask. Hope all has now been restored.

I absolutely understand and sympathise.
I hope things are brighter today, you can't make the buggerations which beset you go away, but I sincerely hope that there is some to restore your spirits. BTW do your DC really appreciate the situation? We too often shelter them and don't want to be critical of Dad, but you need that support

Thank you so much ladies. I feel consumed with guilt really - as he is the chap going through this ghastly illness. My reaction was just spontaneous and erupted from nowhere.

The added problem is that he loses the remotes all the time - and lots else besides! - he does lose the plot a bit at times. His miserableness is the biggest burden - every sentence starts with a long silence, then "Well the problem is....." I feel like banning the word problem! He gets so anxious and he just sits and shakes with a frown on his face, worrying away. It must be dreadful for him; but I also feel it as a weight on my shoulders - no joy is a bit of a shame!

I have lovely family around and I confessed to one of my DDs today that I had lost it and I know that when I seem them all later this morning there will lots of hugs and happy moments with the children, so that is good. I have never before said or done anything to the children that implies that I am finding it stressful, as it seems disloyal, but maybe it is better that it is out in the open a bit.

My heart goes out to you luckygirl, no matter how capable and coping we are there comes a time when enough is enough, the last straw and all that. Hope you're not berating yourself too much this morning, you're a strong woman doing an amazing job under really hard circumstances and deserve a bit of tlc. The trouble with being a strong woman is that others don't always realise how hard it is. Hope your worst fears aren't confirmed with your hip. Thinking of you

(((hugs))) Lucky. I had a meltdown about the very same thing as DH had a meltdown when I pressed the button on the TV remote to turn the TV on - what a daft idea. And I don't have all the other things to cope with.

I don't think you should have to watch the TV on a lap top but could you have a TV in another room just for you and hide the remote?

"DH has also taken over downloads and updates on computer and makes it so complicated that only he can do it." I could have written harrigran's post. I do feel for you, Luckygirl, and I hope you feel better for your meltdown. We're all entitled to one now and then. I get intensely annoyed when I sit down to watch a programme and DH suddenly switches the tv to the bit where you record things saying "I just want to check something". I shout and jump up and down and he says "well, it's only just started, you can wind it back when I've finished and start it again!" Well, no, actually, I can't, that's the b****y point! We have two remotes and I can't get either of them to do what I want and stand there like Two Gun Tex firing invisible bullets at the TV!

Entirely understandable IMO.

Can never remember how to use the assorted * remotes at dd's house, when I just want to put CBeebies on for Gdd.
We don't have Sky or Virgin or anything else at home and ours are blissfully simple for both watching and recording.

Dh is muttering about changing our TV - we've only had it about 5 years - for a later model. I have put my foot down since I can't (or rather really don't want to) have to get to grips with something I'm afraid will be more complicated.

I think a lot of blokes just like gadgets and tinkering, and for some macho reason they actually like things to be more complicated than necessary.

luckygirl dont feel bad, you are human and can only take so much. Hope you feel better today and have had the t.v returned to normal. &

I have had a lovely day with my children and GC and have refreshed my brain and spirits. Thank you for all your encouragement.